How to have healthy relationship with our parents ...
September 22, 2007 12:11am CST
Parents may have hard time to adjusting to the fact that we have grown up afterall they have been talking to us some style ever since we were a baby.Make our parents know in words and indeeds that we except them no matter what.Exceptance is a key which helps to develop love.If we are not in a position to accept , then use our tool "patience" which can turn many things upside down. Sit with them and reason out why and what force us non acceptance of the matter put down by our parents.They are mature enough to hear our plee and have healthy conversation with us to sort out our problems. say we come home late in the night definitely our parents will pull us up may be we are not in a position to tell them the reason at that time why we come late..they might jump at us...Be patient.. Instead of us retaliate, things will become sour. Gradually let them know why we come late.They become cool and they know what best for their sons and daughters to be offered.In this manner lot of issues could be solved by dialogue between us and our parents. We need their love and they need our affection.To acheive this goal we must have healthy relationship with your parents.Am i right???
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23 Sep 07
I sometime get a feeling the best relationship between the parents and children prevails when the parents are not making any provision for children in the form of property and cash. If the parents live in happiness without property and cash, then the children work hard, take care of the parents and the family bondage is much much better than the parents who have made a lot of property and unable to divide it among the children properly, which is leading to cold war (some time hot war) between the parents and children. By and large, the family bondage is very good between the parents and children and unlike in the west where there is no intimate relationship, in India still parents are regarded as living gods in millions of families. The good parenthood is important factor which enables the children to understand the value of contribution made by parents in bringing up the children. Children who discard their parents, realise in later years when their children discard them. Because the child will come to know on maturity that his/her parents neglected the their parents and it will copy this. Hence it is important for parents to inculcate the habit of respecting the parents, appreciate them and if need be to take care of them, instead of loding them in HOME FOR AGED. No other university education can teach better than parents teaching their children in this respect.
24 Sep 07
excellent subathra,dear friend u are very true ,as far as i know u r not married and live with ur parents,i'm a mother of a going to be 3 yr. old ,i now understand how difficult is to parent children,u know what happens parents become sooo habitual in parenting that they forget to draw the line ,a time comes when children can really take care of themselves ,we parents are so protective about children that we forget to give them a different identity of an individual and u know what parents who are 'disturbing' their children should be understood and their anxiety should be taken care by children by their actions ,which should say mum dad i'm okay and i love u and please be around me as i may need u anytime .thnx subathra for a good discussion
22 Sep 07
Hi subathra! You are really making a good point here I think. Many children (boys and girls) out there think they are old enough to decide for themselves, but fail to accept the fact that no good and reasonable parent will like to see their children going the wrong way. They might be wrong at times, but that should guaranttee us to retaliate or act the other way which might cause us problems with out parents. God knows why He said it in the book of Ephesians "That children should obey their parents" He didn't stopped there, but went as far as letting us know that price that will be given to those who do such things. He said "THAT IT MAY BE WELL WITH YOU AND THAT YOU WILL LIVE LONG". That goes to those who obey their parents. Even if they are not doing the right thing or they are bad, but we just have to accept that title God has given them over us. That is why some people don't respect the President of their country because of who he is but cos of his position. Thanks and have a nice day.
22 Sep 07
Hi Subathra, This discussion seen a little bit tough. Nowadays there are very little people to have healthy relationship with our parents, some will say they are busy on their career, children and other things as well. Hence they put their parent at a side, just care them when they are sick or when there is parent day coming soon. For me, i am not so busy with my work, but i also feel diffcult to reason out my feeling to them because my dad will voice out loudly when he show i am not correct. So i just discuss my opinion and my problems that i faced to my mum. Then she will give my some opinion and let me decide. Sometime she will told my dad about it, then she will tell me what is my dad opinion.. Is it trouble?? I have think it before to have a healthy relationship with them, hence i will try to cool down myself before i discuss with them. For some children, they feel might have this diffculties because their parents spend their time on their work more than with their children. Hence it will couse the children won't speak out their problems to their parents
24 Sep 07
I think we should be open with our parents for understading them better and also for them to read our minds.I have seen in some familes where parents dont allow their children to come up with a open talk..hope its the hurdle that needs to be wiped off to have a good relationship.tks for the response.rated +
22 Sep 07
Healthy relationship?Or can i say it as a love relationship between you and your parents? I think that communication with your parents is really important. When they know what you think and what's in your mind, they know what they should and should not do. When they understand you, they will accept what you think and what you do. Have a nice day! I love my parents!
22 Sep 07
The discussion which you have started has so much to do with our real life, now a days it has become a major problem with every teen that even if they want they cant manage a healthy relaton with their parents , it sometimes become so tough from their part to make their parents understand that they are not doing something wrong, so the way you suggested thats very true here in his regard, we should have a verbal conversation with little bit of affection and love for each other , and we should be patiense while talking to our parents...thanc for such a valuable suggestion
22 Sep 07
Dear Subathra, u r very right and i do agree with u. We must be patient with our parents and obey them, tell them our schedules as that things are changing i am sure they will understand as they only say things to us as they care for us, love us and dont want us to get hurt, So how can u be irritated if other have such lovely feelings for U Take care and really appreciate the way u think Bye