do you feel guilty or should you feel if you ask help from a friend?

I love my friends and appreciate anything they do for me. But I do feel guilty when I have to ask them to help me. I am having surgery in a couple of weeks and my friend didn't think twice to offer to take me and make sure I get home. I didn't even have to ask, but I felt guilty just the same for infringing on her life for that day. She says don't worry about it but I feel bad just the same! Even though I would do it gladly for her.

Friends are one of the greatest treasures this world has to offer. I believe that if you have a large enough network of friends, you can have anything you ever wanted. And, it's kind of like the network helps all of your friends too. Sometimes I ask one of my friends for help for another friend and through that meeting, my 2 friends become friends with each other. A group of great friends willing to do almost anything for each other is worth more than any amount of money or anything else in the world. So don't fill guilty about asking friends for help, and always be willing to lend a hand when you can too, even to a stranger, because sometimes a stranger is a friend that you haven't met yet.

There's nothing wrong with asking for help from a friend and it's not something you should ever have to feel guilty over, either. Being a good friend means being there for your friends when they need you. As long as you're there for your friends when they need you and as long as you don't get upset when they truly can't be there for you when you need them, it sounds like a perfectly normal thing to me. Don't avoid it, that's what friends are there for.

At the onset, I must openly say that this really is a very good discussion to start, especially in light of the fact that there are some friendships that do not seem like genuine friendships at all. Kindly allow me to elaborate and explain this particular point. I feel that some people enter into friendships not really because they like to truly establish a genuine and fruitfully lasting relationship, but because they want to merely use other people for their own ends, be it moral/ethical or not. Some, if not most, politicians, especially the unscrupulous ones, for instance, try to develop "friendships" with a lot of people, obviously since they could USE their "friends" for whatever purpose they deem fit. In this particular case, it becomes pretty apparent that developing "friendship" is simply one of the means to their political ends. Going to your main question, I really actually feel that unless your intentions are similar to the kind of politicians I've described or devious, in any way, then you should not feel guilty at all. Furthermore, as you yourself clearly said, "I don't hesitate to ask help from friends if the situation calls for it because if they ever asked help from me I do my best to comply." Based on such revealing statement alone, I could readily surmise that you're a friend who's more than willing to lend an ear, extend a helping hand, or go the extra mile when your friends are truly in dire need. In a very real sense, you seem to always be ready to easily reciprocate the kindness of your friends, provided, of course, that your means permit you to. In the end, I do not think that you should avoid seeking help from your friends, if there actually is a compelling need for you to do so and you're more than willing to extend the kind of help you're asking for when your friends are the ones who need it, and you should not feel guilty, especially if your intentions for asking help from your friends are really pure. Happy myLotting and cheers to genuinely great friendships, anaknitatay!

thats why friends are made... to help us on our problems, comfort us and make us happy... i never felt guilty of asking help to them... well if cant carry on and solve my problems then thats the time ill asked help... i only feel guilty if i did something wrong against them...

Hello anaknitatay, I a have a bestfriend and we do try to help each other whenever one has a problem or in need of help. I think it defends when you should feel guilty asking for your friends help and that is if you asking too much of your friend. If your friends the one whose always helping you and you come to them everytime that I think is taking advantage of your friendship. If its both ways you helping them at times and your friend in turn you then I think you should not feel guilty asking your friend for help. Also If its not so frequent meaning if you really really need your friend's help and have no other choice.

Friendships are give and take. You should be willing to give and take. if you do more taking than giving, just make sure it isn't you taking advantage of the person who is your friend. I don't think you should feel guilty unless you wouldn't be willing to give what you are asking for to your friend. I have great friendships that I give and take and I don't feel guilty at all.

I make it a personal practice to seek help from only those "friends" I would help in return. So, as long as there is a mutual knowledge that you would help them when necessary, I wouldn't be guilty in the least. What are friends if not to aid in the bearing of hardships?