what would you do if your bf had a son and kept it from you?

If this happened to me I would end the relationship and move on no second thoughts about it.

he's not worth it. he's likely to do the same thing to you. kindly visit: http://my-sense-and-sensibility.blogspot.com

of course, i will be mad at him why he keep that secret for a long time...if he really love me and trust on me, he should share what are he's secrets so that we will have a harmonious relationship..honesty is the best thing in a relationship..but if i still love him, i will accept him if will not keep another big secret from me..why not..

If I was his girlfriend I would be very excited and want to raise his child along with mine. If the childs Mother was able to raise my boyfriends son would want to donate monthly to help her with expenses. After all the child could be my stepson, and I'd want him to have the best I could possibly offer. I would be thrilled to hear this news from my Boyfriend!

if i would be on the same situation then i would be very mad at him... he should tell me earlier... i wouldnt mind as long as i love him but its a different story that he hide it from you.. what if you didnt know it? hen he will hide it forever? i wont accept him... he did that already to other then he will do it again with me...

Love that lasts is about trust, and loyalty. Maybe he was afraid to tell you about the son, but why? Probably because he isn't supporting him, or maybe he's finally feeling guilty. You know better than anyone else if you should dump him, but the fact he has a son he has never wanted to get to know, or help in anyway, makes me think he has some commitment issues. Even guys I know with more than one kid by different women want to be a part of their childrens lives. You need more information.

It really depends because sometimes if it has been a long time and he was really young at that time, it could be that he has grown up, even though he wants no part in this other kids life, which is not a good thing but you do not know if perhaps the ex wants it that way too, have you asked him what happened? why is it that he is not wanting to know this child? Did he and the ex make an agreement after he had left that perhaps it would be best that he stay out of this child's life?

I would certainly not stay with him. You need to have full trust in a relationship in order for it work. Keeping things from each is such a no no.

Honestly if my boyfriend had a son I would like to know that. I would definitely think less of him if I had to find out about it later on by someone other than him. I would definitely look at it like he was secretive and not trustworthy. Just be careful as possible and let him know how u feel about the situation. This is a serious situation here and should not be taken lightly; you are right for feeling the way that you do, but you have to know your partner for yourself and try and understand what was going on at that particular time in his life. The best thing to do is be careful, but at the same time try to be there for him because there could be some serious issues going on with the child's mother that he has not told you about or maybe he was just immature at that particular time in his life. I guess the most positive thing about the whole experience is that he confessed to you whether it was out of guilt or so that you would not find out through someone else he let you know. Think about it hard and follow your heart.

I would probably be really mad at him. It would be really hard to trust him. But i think i would understand why he did it. Some people dont want to go into a relationship admitting that they have kids. Maybe he was afraid that you wouldnt want to feel "tied down." Its sad that he doesnt take care of his own child. Where i live you have to pay child support if your not married. He should at least be helping money wise with this child. I guess people can change, it all just depends on the person. Its all about how you feel he is as a person. How long have you been together?

Wow. I'd tell him he's a butt head and needs to make sure his son's being cared for. Who knows, maybe she's gotten married and his son's been adopted. It's not his son's fault he's irresponsible. It would really make me question his morals and commitment levels.

if it was a child he knew about then by all means he'd be out the door because then I would begin to wonder what else he had lied about.

Well I could understand your situation. It's cruel to say that your boyfriend is not trustworthy but it's sort of truth. You have the options. Guess you love him much, so it would be hard for you to leave him even your brain suggests you to do so. My suggestion is to communicate with him and observe his reaction, if he values you really a lot and it's painful for you to leave him, then just try to forget and forgive... Blessings!