I Love You?

@ebusaf (329)
United States
September 22, 2007 3:50pm CST
How often do you need to hear these words from your mate. I hear some couples say it everyday, and some haven't said those words in months, even years. In my marriage we say it quite often to each other and to the kids. But how important is it to say it, when you're showing it?
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@Ciniful (1589)
• Canada
22 Sep 07
To me personally, not at all. I could survive quite happily never hearing it from my husband, because to me, it's just words. It's the actions that matter. He doesn't need to say it when I can see it in his eyes or his smile. I can see it when he goes out in the blistering cold to get me a snack, or when he makes sure I have fresh coffee every morning to wake up to. He shows it a million ways, that are far more important than three overused words.
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@Ciniful (1589)
• Canada
22 Sep 07
I should add .. this is regarding my husband ONLY. When it comes to my kids, different relationships, different rules. I firmly believe kids can't hear it enough, and make a point to say it probably far too often, lol.
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@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
22 Sep 07
Me and my boyfriend of 3 years say it at least once a day, if we've been apart all day and are maybe talking over the phone, we say it. Sometimes just sitting around the house one person will say it to the other just out of nowhere. It just really depends on the mood, because when he is working my nerves I know I tend to say it less, but the feelings are still there.
@ebusaf (329)
• United States
22 Sep 07
Yea I know what you mean. Sometimes I say it more, when I know I've been working my husband nerves. When he working my nerves, not too many nice words come out of my mouth, so i have learned to just keep quiet.
@cutepenguin (6448)
• Canada
23 Sep 07
We say it to each other quite often. We also do nice things for each other to show each we're thinking of the other. I think it's important to express your feelings for the other person, although every couple will have their own way of doing so.
• United States
23 Sep 07
I believe it's an important part of any relationship to say it. Even though I know someone loves me, I feel the need to hear it sometimes. It doesn't necessarily have to be every day, but we (my partner, my kids, and myself) do say it in our house on a daily basis. My older son doesn't say it as often, but I'm thankful that he says it at all. Actions do speak louder than words but it comforts me to hear it.
• Philippines
23 Sep 07
for me action speaks louder than voice still..though we always say it to each other every chance we get but a of now we never got into better..everything had just come into its worst and i'm so sick of it..words are spoken but it does not have any meaning at all..not like before..after a huge fight the only thing that can bring us back into our minds is just when one say the word i love you..then everything just sets into its place and everything is normal..but now its not working..so basically, its not how much you say it but what matter most is how you show you love them..its not the words that counts its the action..
@jmbauer (43)
• United States
23 Sep 07
In most cases, actions do speak louder than words. However, there's nothing like hearing those three words with the underlying passion and conviction the utterance of such a meaningful pledge evokes.
@eunixia (387)
• Philippines
23 Sep 07
hi ebusaf, As much as possible,everyday, I always say to my husband "Padaba taka" means I love you -a Bicol dialect here in the Philippines. I'm in love everyday and I care to say those words to him. Sometimes, we can't get along with other things, I emailed here to say sorry and always tagged with I love you. This is the best way to show my love and affection to him, thanking him for being a loving husband, and a very responsible father to my daughter. it's me, eunixia
@LadyDulce (830)
• United States
23 Sep 07
My son gets at least 10 "I love yous" a day; he'll probably beg me to stop by the time he hits puberty, lol. I'm going to do him like my momma did me though, PDAs all the way! Why have a kid if you can't embarrass him? But he'll appreciate it. As far as my man goes, we don't really say it too much to each other. We've said it maybe 1-3 times this year? But it isn't really necessary for us. He eats my food and we play together. That's how we know. Now if he didn't want to come home at night, I'd worry. But he's there as soon as he can get there, so it's all gravy :D. He'll actually pick me up from work so we can talk on the way without the babies, lol. Blessed Be
@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
23 Sep 07
We say it all the time. We say it everyday. It renews our love for each other whenever we say it to one another. I like it a lot! And when my fiance is too busy with work and he forgets to say it, I miss those words a lot. I would remind him by telling him that I love him, and he remembers!
@diillu (5128)
22 Sep 07
I think it is really important to let people know what exactly you feel and for the important people like husband and kids I think it is better if we always tell them. I hear it quite a number of times daily in my life from my boyfriend and I just love it.It makes me feel good and even in my bad days when he says I love you I feel really relieved.
@izathewzia (5141)
• Philippines
22 Sep 07
Our days are not complete when we are not saying it to each other and to our kids. My husband says it everyday to me and to our kids. And I do also. And our kids to us. It is an assurance that we never forget to love each other even in a single day. My kids utter those words as they wake up in the morning. They followed it with a thight hug. Enough for parent like me to feel blessed for having such a loving and wonderful kids. Those words when uttered are the source of my strength in the midst of problems and trials. Just an assurance that people around me loves me, I feel stronger and carry on with my life.
@drummell (66)
• United States
22 Sep 07
We say it very often in our family. I hear it at least once a day, usually more from my husband. My girls tend to say it when things are going well and they're happy with what mommy is doing with them. I think its nice to hear. I find my self telling my family and friends it a lot more than usual, you never know what will happen tomorrow and I want everyone that I love to know it.
@PunkyMcPunk (1477)
• Canada
22 Sep 07
I hadn't really thoht about it but I say it A LOT to my guy adn he says it back just as much. I mean in the space on an hour long call we'll say it probably 3 or 4 times. Maybe it's because we don't get to see eachother as much as we'd like...?