My bos...

Indonesia
September 22, 2007 8:57pm CST
Ive been in love with my bos, i always wanted to know what he do and where he is hour after hour. I always ask my friend what should i do and things been going on hour after hours, that i don't know its already bugging my friend, my bos is single and ive been in love with him since i seen him for the first time. My friend keep telling me that i should love him with no expectation of no return love from him, and seems to me it is hard to do. Please help me handling this situation..
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15 responses
@diansinta (7550)
• Indonesia
23 Sep 07
You should hear what your friend told you. for sure she wouldn't want to listen over and over about the man you love about. May be you angry for your friend for not understanding you, but you got to listen, really listen IF you want her to give you her advice. Of course any advice its all up to you to decided. But don't ask all the times for not important things. May be you worry because he wasn't from your country, but all mans basicly the same.
• China
23 Sep 07
Yes ,no matter where he comes from,if you really love him ,pleased be brave to admit this nice emotion and let him kown about it .Come on.
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@diansinta (7550)
• Indonesia
17 Jan 08
I agree psyche2007, may be there is a way to make clear whether he loves you or not.
@academic2 (7009)
• Uganda
29 Sep 07
keep your study on your lboss on going-you are in a privileged position to know him better, know that a good research is that which is carried out over a reasonable period of time-very soon you will be able to draw the right conclusion as to whether you boss is your boss and also your fiancee. Keep collecting data, consult, here I mean dont discard any piece of advise from any body, analyze those views and see if they can help in your conclusion-all is really upto you nina_alan!
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• Indonesia
7 Oct 07
I will study about him to know more about him. Thank you so much for responding my discussion academic2, God bless you :D
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@carolscash (9500)
• United States
3 Oct 07
Please be careful in this situation! It can lead to problems in your heart and at work. I would sit down and talk with him and tell him how you feel and ask if he feels the same way. However, you both need to decide that if it doesn't work out, then you will be civil to one another at work or you will be finding a new job! He won't have to as he is the boss!!
@ifnalife (323)
• Indonesia
29 Sep 07
Take an easy, nina,... Do your best, and time will tell. I will wish for your happynness with him. And you both will life happyly ever after.
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• United States
24 Sep 07
I had a somewhat similar problem about a year ago...it was hard, that was for sure...not my boss...but my boss' son... Does your boss show any sort of affection toward you? Does it seem like you two could possibly go anywhere? If the answer is no, than you should probably not pursue it further...I had to keep the mindset that if it didn't happen, it wasn't meant to happen...we both felt something for each other, but it never went farther than that...then a series of events took place and realized that we weren't really good for each other...My affection ceased and I am so glad that it did...you just have to make sure you realize that he may never love you in return, and that if he doesn't, it's not you, it's just not meant to be...there are millions of fish in the sea...so if you don't catch this one, you definitely have tons of bait, and many more to choose from...I'm still fishing too...it's ok.
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@joshboz (1214)
• Australia
23 Sep 07
you say you love your boss nina. i hope you know the definition of love from infatuation. hey its easy to fall in love with anybody you might want too but be assure the person you say you love also have the same feeling to you so if you ask me its just okay to admire him but dont do it much because it might end up into obsessionmaybe he is dating with another woman or he is married or maybe he doesnt have the same feeling towards you so research more about him and do not increase your level of love to him.
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@izathewzia (5141)
• Philippines
23 Sep 07
Your friend is right, love your boss without any expectations. because he might or will never love you in return. If by chance he fals for you also, then it is meant to be you and him. But if it did not turn out that way, then you should also be ready to get hurt. or now, don't give too much of your love and life to him. Make reservations for yourself. Be ready of the consequences. It is not wrong to love someone especially if he is single like your boss. But the chance of being not love in return is there also. Let time do its work. Let it happe naturally.
• Indonesia
29 Sep 07
im so confuse. my bos is a quite type, never spoken and just a litlle to show. I don't know what its mean to me. Reading his mind.
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@wisedragon (2330)
• Philippines
23 Sep 07
in love - if you're in love do something about it!
I don't see any problem with this, unless if you're married or there's a law in your country that prohibits women from making the first move. If not then by all means go for it. Talk to him more often, send him text messages. If he's responsive then you can ask him out on a date. Who knows, maybe he will like you too. It's okay for the woman to make the first move. Just don't overdo it. Don't be desperate.
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• Indonesia
29 Sep 07
The problem is, my bos is a western man from New Zealand. And i don't undertand western people , why they don't want to get mariage, but my religeon is important.
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@vidyadas (415)
• India
23 Sep 07
love is a feeling that comes from within..so if you love somebody express it to him..then only he will respond...its foolishness to wait for him..as he may not be loving you.. anyway best of luck...
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• Indonesia
29 Sep 07
i will try that,. but only i don't want to giving up my virginity.
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@CEN7777 (858)
• India
23 Sep 07
Hi Nina,You are in love with your boss,and you said that your love is the love at first sight. Your condition also justifies the saying that "love is blind". You have not at all mentioned about response from your boss, he also loves u or it is one sided love from your side only. your friends are right that you shuld not expect much frm him as he may not be honestly commited to you. I think you should wait for some time, think twice before moving forward and get commited. Believe in your self your the best judge of your realtion.
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• Indonesia
29 Sep 07
indeed my love is blind with him. And i have no idea is he love me like i do. We have kiss, ..and sometimes he take full spoon his meal to my mount when we have dinner. i will wait for some time to see as you said
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@barehugs (8984)
• Canada
23 Sep 07
does he know you like him? write him a note telling him you want to make love to him
• China
24 Sep 07
And does he use the MSN or QQ,add him and talk to him. I think it is a not bad way to show your emotion.
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@Bubbles3 (67)
• Italy
23 Sep 07
Hi Nina! Are you sure that your bos is single? I'm according with your friends, maybe he doesn't feel the same and he's trying to ignore you or he's waiting that you fall in love with another guy. It's a common situation. But if you think that this is a strong feeling, you'll try!
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• Indonesia
29 Sep 07
yes, im sure he is single. Because i have seen his pasport and stuff. But what is confuse me is, some times helikes me, sometime he don't , seems like that.
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@SHAMRACK (8521)
• India
16 Oct 07
Hi, Anyhow if your love is sincere and true you will definetly get its fruits. Wish you all best this all I can convey now as I do not know both of you. Anyhow love that too a true love from your side will be a success. All the best to attain you lover.
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@dpk262006 (56760)
• Delhi, India
15 Oct 07
Do not be too excited, falling in love with your boss can be risky at times. Evaluate your relations with your boss and check if it is not infatuation?
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@signum (547)
• Australia
23 Sep 07
Nina, I lived with my boss from my last job. Take it from me, do NOT bother. It can cause many problems at work and at home. For the first year it was fine, then he would make me work overtime unpaid and started being really mean and nasty to me for no reason at all. He wanted to hide what we were doing from everyone else which made me feel as if he was ashamed of me. After we had a big fight at home, he fired me from work. Stay away from him, relationships at work never ever work out properly. Find someone else you like instead.
• Indonesia
29 Sep 07
is that so,... i haven't though about that your experience will happening to me. Perhaps it will.Oh im so affraid...
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