I couldn't believe what she said.

United States
September 22, 2007 9:26pm CST
OK long story short my mother has not really been in my big sisters and my life. In and out is more like it. Well I made the decision that I wanted to look for my mother, So I did and Internet search one day and called her. My sister knew and I asked her before I gave her my sisters cell phone number. My sister gave me permission and we have all been keeping in contact via phone email and letters. Last week my sister got a phone call that our mother might have been having a stroke. She called me and told my only she could have cared less. I called her back asked her for the phone number of the person who called her and as she hung up my sister said something that shocked the hell out of me. She actually said very wholeheartedly I just hope I'm in the will. I was so shocked and just hung up the phone. And have not been able to talk to her since then. Am I over reacting? Would you be upset? I just don't know what to say to her.
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• United States
23 Sep 07
No i dont think that your overreacting. If i was in that situation im sure i would be very upset too. Maybe your sister has some resentment towards your mother. Maybe that is why shes acting the way she is. I hope everything is ok with your mom.
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• United States
23 Sep 07
Maybe she does has resentment towards her. But I think she should have kept that comment to herself.
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@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
24 Sep 07
I am sorry to hear that your sister had been so rude..She should have kept this to herself..I would have figure your getting together with your mother was to hopefully be a family again somehow, but your sister seems to have other ideas..How sad that she thinks this way...You are not over-reacting.
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• United States
24 Sep 07
Yeah you are right.
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@suspenseful (40314)
• Canada
24 Sep 07
You are not over reacting, but you have to understand that your sister was probably being sarcastic. After all, if your mother had given both of you up for adoption or if she had been mentally ill or sick and had been in hospital, then your sister might not have said what she did. But your mother more or less abandoned you, so for all the trouble she caused and I guess your sister felt that she had to be compensated financially for the attention your mother did not give you.
• United States
24 Sep 07
Yeah I guess that's her way of thinking.
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• Australia
23 Sep 07
No. I don't think your over-reacting either. She is still your mother in the end. Maybe your sister and your mum had a bit of an argument before the stroke and that is why she said those things. I am sure she does care about your mother or else she would not of called to let you know. Just try and talk to your sister to see why she is so upset.
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• United States
23 Sep 07
I did see update.
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@jillhill (37379)
• United States
23 Sep 07
Yikes...Well I guess your sister is entitled to her opinion. Since there never really was a relationship developed between the two to them, meaning a loving relationship, I can see your sister's point of view. It's a sad one for her. It's a great thing that you on the other hand care about your mother, but don't judge your sister on this. Everyone is entitled to their feelings, maybe she thinks that if she is left in the will that would be the only real gester you mom make to really be a part of your lives.
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• United States
23 Sep 07
Yeah I guess.
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• United States
23 Sep 07
I don't think you are over reacting. It sounds like you are living by your name "lifez2short" and have forgiven your mom for not always being in your life. I'm guessing your sister hasn't gotten to that point in her life. Hang in there, your sister will probably come around in her own time.
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• United States
23 Sep 07
And if she still wants to be evil towards my mother fine but keep you nasty comments to you self.
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@crazed_moma (1054)
• United States
23 Sep 07
It sounds like she's mad at your mom. Maybe she didn't really mean it? I wouldn't discuss it with her. Hopefully your mom will get better and they can have a chance to discuss the issues they must have.
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• United States
23 Sep 07
she can be mad all she wants but she should have kept the comment to herself.
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@kaplya (1578)
• India
1 Oct 07
that's very upsetting without any doubt. though your sister has never been able to see her as a mother of hers and she may have developed specific resentment for her...so perhaps a resentment can make some people say that but still i can't consider it as a right thing. that would have made me very much unhappy even if my mother was the worst one on earth!
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• United States
1 Oct 07
You are probably right.
• Canada
24 Sep 07
On the one hand you are not overreacting, on the other hand, we all handle things in different ways. I am not defending your sister's behaviou, just offering a different slant on it. Perhaps your sister was shocked, and said what she said to cover emotions she didn't feel like expressing, or didn't know how to express.
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• United States
25 Sep 07
Perhaps but it was still wrong.
@izathewzia (5141)
• Philippines
27 Sep 07
It is nice you have contacted your mother. But what happened is really shocking. I dunno what to say. I know you and your sister are hurt with that. But let us hope for the best -for you, for your sister and for your mom. Even things did not turn out well. Life must go on. You've done your part already. If you can still do more, the better. But if it is the only thing you can give and you are already on your limit, very understandable. Just carry on. Life is yours to live.
@eftychiap (349)
• Cyprus
25 Sep 07
Since it it a long story, I assume that there are various other things that happened between your mother and your sister in the previous years. Your sister's anger towards your mother is obviously frustrating and of course she doesn't mean what she said about her. She is just reacting -in a wrong way- to something she can't handle (your mother's stroke). You should try to bring the two closer together, especially now that your mother needs both of you. After all we all do mistakes, say things we don't mean, argue.. The point is not to regret it when it's already too late
• Philippines
25 Sep 07
Maybe she had something, like hatred for your mother deep inside her. Or maybe they have a big fight with each other that you do not know. On e thing is, why your mother did not see you for many months? That is a very questionable. A mother would always wants his children. So basing from that she might have something in her. Well, I understand you. But try to talk to your sister. Maybe later you would understand her point. What matters now is that you should care your mother.
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