To be true friends,easy or not?

@mari123 (1862)
China
September 24, 2007 9:11am CST
As I'm growing older,I find that most friends are not my true friends. Maybe they've been focused on their studies or personal engagement. But I'm the girl who don't like to take initiative to keep in touch with them.I confess my enthusiasm sometimes seems unaffected to them on account of my arrogance to them. Nowadays, living in such society,namely,econmomic-orienated,I bring myself up against value or emotion. I feel insecured if an acquaintance ever impressed me with bad will. Should I change personality to adjust to new friends or to be more conscientious about my friends? what's your opinion?
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15 responses
• India
24 Sep 07
dear mari i feel we can not describe friends in few words. friends are just friends and you always find them near your heart when you need them. their emotional presence gives us a lot of strength. atleast i can say that. i have gone through very difficult periods and at such times my friends were always with me.yes in todays economic- oriented society it is really difficult to be present with your dear ones physically but at the same time science has blessed us with things like cell phones and e-mails. due to various reasons i have to spend a lot of time in the hospitals. believe me i never had to worry about my food and other things. my friends always divided their duties amongst themselves without bothering me. let your feelings take their stride and you will find yourselves surrounded with true friends. friends can not be chosen you just find them. so give your best and you will get the best.
@ssf12ster (489)
• India
25 Sep 07
sorry to say this do u really believe i the term true frends. no i dont .money ed people may be there also.so watch your wallet and their actions and reactions. a true frend can only be member of your family,like ur son.i dont belive in them. if u have money they come otherwise they dont.maybe here and there there mayu be stary incidents. but very rare to get them.if try to change they will aslo change dont even attempt it.dont change
@daring (234)
• India
25 Sep 07
its not easy to have a true friends as i have seen many people are making friends for some self intirest so i can say its nor easy to have a true friend
@enru246 (89)
• Philippines
25 Sep 07
Being a true friend is easy...you just have to balance what relationship you have. Balance is just understanding once ideas and opinion. Friends life is different from yours...
• India
25 Sep 07
Princess,It's a part of life nothing else,sooner or later every one faces this kind of situations,life goes on and things starts to turn their back on you,but the moral is life never ends b,cauz U always chases for a better future, If ur frnds doesnot care about U,then it's not ur fault and for them U need not to be changed or must not change ur individuality for them,U just carry on as U are,Sweeter to every one,just continue ur part and one day U won't hav any complaints,one day ur frnd will think that V hav lost something,& god will provide U better frnds U need.......
• Indonesia
25 Sep 07
I think almost all the people in the world have their own achievement and purpose. you also must think about your basic achievement and life purpose. based on that thing you will know that you are in the right characteristic or you need to change you habbit...
@shy_gal (235)
• Malaysia
25 Sep 07
Hi mari123, What is friends? At first, you need to understand who should call friend? Friends are the one who give help when we are in troblue or face any diffculties and we share the happiness with them when we have sweet memory. But some friends only close with us when they need our helps and keep a distance from us while we need them. So we have to choose more carefully. That is not an easy to change your own personality, maybe you can go to meet one or two of your close friends, then keep in touch with them, You can get some good opnion from them also. I think we should have one or two good friends instead have many of them. If have too many, the relationship with them will be seem not so close.
@friendship (2085)
• Canada
25 Sep 07
Mari123, True friends are not easy to be found. Most of them are feather friends. You don't have to change your personality. It is not worthy because true friends will always be on your side -- no matter what your situation is.
@tujiagirl (368)
• China
25 Sep 07
Yeah,It's easy to have new friends but t's is not easy to have true friends,not only for us, but also for everyone. The most difficult thing is to distinguish who is your true friend. We all want true friends,but it not easy to meet. How to recognize them, that's a big question. By they way,don't change yourself. They became your friend because who you are. Treat your true friend sincerely. I think a friend is a gift God sends to us.
@chym1101 (169)
• China
25 Sep 07
Hello, mari. I don't think it is hard to make true friends. It is really a nice thing to make firends. I am introverted but I have good friends. What do you think of friends? Good friends should change minds , share secrets and so on. Giving is more satisfied than receiving, and you should not expect anything from your friends.Use your heart and you can make true friends. Good luck!
• United States
24 Sep 07
You should sit down and think about the things you have in common with your old friends. If it is something that you still like to do, get in touch with them and do the activity.But if you can't think of anything that you still have in common with you old friends , then let it go.It is hard to make new friends but I think you should do the hobbies that you really like to do and look around and see who likes to do the same thing. They are good candidates for friends.You shouldn't have to change your personality to make and keep friends.Real friends like you just the way you are.so go out and have fun doing what you really like to do and it will happen, you will make some new friends. Take Care.
@anuj291 (575)
• India
24 Sep 07
i guess this is the the most difficult thinng to do ,,for any one cuz a true frnd is one who is always with u,for u ..to support u in whateva u do,,,,to telll u if u r wrong,,on ur face,,,,to stop u frm doin anythin wrong i guesss its very difficult to find true frnds,,,cuz u will always find frnds,,who r thr for u,,when u r happy and alll,,but only a few stick when u r sad thnx
• India
24 Sep 07
if we r true for our self we can always b true friend hen e cheat our friend it is more than cheating our self
@TTucker3 (146)
• United States
24 Sep 07
I have found that a lot of friends can be fake, they care in the begining, and then there gine when you really really need a friend. I have found that people say that they want to be friends, and thne you just don't add up, so they dump ya, you may not wear the same clothes ect.. But I am like you, I want a fiend who is going to be sincere, and take a little effort to be there when you need them. I don't think anyone should have to change themselves to be friends!
@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
24 Sep 07
Hi Mari123, you definitely should not feel guilty or bad when certain friendships of yours are less worthy than you thouht in the beginning. Nor is it strange - your wish to break out of such friendships. Do not change who you are. With time you will see that everything will work out, your friendships will come and go and only a few will remain for life time. This is why we only have but a few true friendships as most of these change and disappear when we change work places, or the city or country we live in. TheFortunes