Unnecessary Complaints - don't you just hate them?

I think that people feel insecure about themselves, so they point out other's flaws to make themselves feel better. Your right though. It is unnecessary and it proves to hurt the other person and ruin their happiness. Don't worry about them, you seem like a very strong person and are comfortable with yourself and as long as you feel good about yourself, that's all that matters. Why don't you tell them that these comments they make are not polite and you would appreciate it if they didn't point out these things? We all have flaws and imperfections, that's what makes us all individuals!

You sort of lost me in your discussion! Are your friends talking about something to do with your body? Whatever if your friends are always talking about your appearance I would reconsider their friendship. Good friends accept us for what we are and expect othing more!

It is very unecessary. My mom alwyas said "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything." I know that I have often been guilty of complaining and whining about myself and it was brought to my attention. Make a negative into a positive. That is what I have been told, repeatedly.

I hate it when people and friends say things about my weight or my looks, it really ticks me right off. They should take a good look at themselves before they start on me. Tell them, that if they don't have anything nice to say about you then DONT SAY IT. I knwo easy said than done and probably can be said nicely but if you hold it in (like I do sometimes) you will burst and might say something hurtful (which I have done) and apologised for, but have lost a friendship.

Well I see two reasons why friend would comment on ones physical appearance. The real friend is concerned and "helpfull" just not productively helpfull and may untactfull about her/his approach without really knowing it, as they think its within your friendships boundaries. The other is the one that isnt really your friend. The ones that belittles you to fell better themselves. I hate these :D The first one you can talk to about this, change how you talk about these things or stop altogether. But this person might actually be right, in that there is need of a change for the benefit of you. The other will consistantly not listen to if you say anything about it. The last one needs to be dumped as a friend fast, cause that person is just way too destructive a person to bother with. Have fun matey

People like to feel superior by pointing out the flaws in others, without noticing their own. Our bodies show what we have lived, and for some its been a harder life than for others.

A true friend will not critisise you hun, so try not to let is upset you too much. My Grandmother used to say *if you can't say something pleasant, don't say anything at all*

I agree, a lot of people feel insecure about themselves, and it makes them feel better by pointing out other people's flaws. It's ridiculous. I think it's usually people who can't handle the fact that some people are ok with their flaws.