Are you a good friend?

@nehrlas (202)
United States
September 25, 2007 9:57am CST
I don't play well with others, it should be plastered to my forehead for all to read! How can you be a good friend? What do you need to have in common with someone to be their friend? Is friendship unconditional? If a friend has a problem, do you side with them always, or do you tell them the truth? I shouldn't be a friend to anyone, not so good at it. :( Would love some advice
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@lexridley (231)
• Tokelau
25 Sep 07
You don't choose your friends, they choose you. And once your friends your always friends and you stick to them through thick and thin. No matter what.
@nehrlas (202)
• United States
25 Sep 07
I had a friend for almost 20 years. Last year she just stopped calling me and returning my calls. We didn't have a blow out or discussion that led me to believe that was the case. So I have a hard time with your theory :(
• Tokelau
25 Sep 07
Well you didn't do anything either it looks like it. Your just as much to blame.
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
25 Sep 07
"You don't choose your friends, they choose you. And once your friends your always friends and you stick to them through thick and thin. No matter what." I'm sorry but thats a big fat load of crap! WE DO choose our friends...If someone wants to "be my friend" and I think they are an idiot I will happily CHOOSE to NOT be not have that person in my life...And to think that friendships once established will last a lifetime is also a load of crap....Ppl change, ppl grow apart, and sometimes the best of friends can end up moving in two completely different directions which can ultimately end that friendship...
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@anuj291 (575)
• India
25 Sep 07
i guess u r being to hard on urself maybe the ppl u have been with are not ur true frnds and thats y u are not able to reciprocate well a good frnd always stays with u,,tells u if u r wrong,,and not the opposite everyone is different and everyone has a frequency match,,and those ppl then become frnds,,maybe thats wht went wrong,,anyways tc thnx keep postin/ratin/replyin
@kitty1234 (1476)
• United States
25 Sep 07
I agree, she is being way too hard on herself! Everyone is different so don't worry about it and you will make good friends. True friends are the ones that stick by you even when times are tough!
@nehrlas (202)
• United States
28 Sep 07
Thanks. Maybe I am being too hard on myself. Its not that I judge others that I want to be friends with, its just that I expect something from them. Whether it be moral ground, values....?
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
25 Sep 07
So many questions LOL...I dont necessarily play well with others either..sometimes I do but it depends on a few things really.....How can one be a good friend? by being real...What do I need to have in common with someone to be their friend? Nothing in particular really..I just require that a person not be a self absorbed a-hole...Is friendship unconditional? It should be for the most part but there are some things that must have conditions on them I think..for example, I have friends who are potheads..I'm fine with that..just dont EVER smoke around my kids or bring it into my house..another example, dont EVER EVER LIE TO ME...I will and do tolerate a great deal but liars I refuse to deal with....So for me personally there are in fact SOME conditions in my friendships....If a friend has a problem do I side with them or tell them the truth? LOL I'm very well known for being brutally honest with ppl whether they are a friend of mine or not...I see no reason or purpose in candy coating things for anyone regardless of who they are... I think EVERYONE is capable of being a friend to someone...Maybe you are too stuck on what OTHERS deem is a "friend"....I mean what makes you think you shouldnt be a friend to anyone??
@nehrlas (202)
• United States
27 Sep 07
My daughter is a good friend to me. She is 20 and we talk every day, about almost everything. She isn't the girlfriend that i can talk to about EVERY thing, but is there for me when I need someone. Everyone else, can just be friends?
@luzamper (1357)
• Philippines
26 Sep 07
When we see or meet a person, sometimes we feel a sort of like or dislike on that person. If we seem to like him/her, then that might be developed into closer relationship if that person feels the same towards us. It's very difficult to have a sincere friend for a lifetime.
@nill_07 (1104)
• Bangladesh
26 Sep 07
I think I'm so.. I think I try to be as good possible to be.. That is never be the right judge since what I like may be haten for others.
@metmet (54)
• Philippines
29 Sep 07
me is good friend forever because i can help my friend if she have a big problem. also my mother is my friend.
• Kuwait
25 Sep 07
befriending is difficult foe i am certified choisy,stuburn and not trusting anyone in just one minute but when you have me as a friend it will be for good and you will not be sorry... i think most of my friend just love for what and who i am,, just a simple person that you can share everything you have and a shoulder to cry to be a feather that will tickles you when you are down...
@hassanah (387)
• Malaysia
26 Sep 07
Yes, i am a good friend.My friend always share her problems with me.And i always be her good problems's listener.