Do you feel like you have to be nicer to your stepkids than your own kids?

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It is just a question. I know that when I was talking to my friend the other day she made it seem like I should be nicer to my stepdaughter than I should my own kids. I said that is ridiculous I treat them all the same and that is just the way it is. She got upset with me for feeling the way I did. I said well whenever you have some kids of your own and have to take care of a kid that is not yours as well you tell me if you will trying to kiss up to one over the other. She said that I should do that just so that the kid will like me. I told her that is where you are wrong whether it is my kids or not my kids I treat them all the same and I let them know that I am not your friend, but your parent and you should understand that they have to respect that. Am I wrong for feeling that way? I just can't imagine treating one child better than the other one because honestly I believe that it would make me seem superficial to always be nice to my stepchild no matter what they did or my own kids for that matter. Tell me what you think and if you think I am wrong or right.