In-Law

United States
September 26, 2007 10:30pm CST
Earlier this week my mother-in-law came to the house begging for $20. We really didn't have it to spare, but she said she really needed for food and gas. The next day at work, she came up there to show off her new Coach purse. I was so mad I couldn't even look at her in the eyes. This is not the first time she has done stuff like this. I feel she is a very greedy woman. Because, if we had asked her for $20 I KNOW she would not have given it to us. I am nice to her, and don't say anything about her to my husband. But I really can't stand the woman. Tell me about your in laws. Is there one you just can't stand?
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11 responses
@tujiagirl (368)
• China
28 Sep 07
It's not easy to get along with the mother in-law especially when she is not understandable. We should treat them as well as our own parents but it doesn't means we must do anything they want us to do. Mother in-law, as cunning as yours, should be rejected next time.
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• United States
28 Sep 07
I agree, but I still face that fact that my husband won't. Thanks.
@lenapoo (678)
• United States
27 Sep 07
I really don't like or dislike my in-laws,but if they did something like that then I would definitely have to confront them. I would know that I would not be giving them anymore money if they lied about what they needed it for. Also I would definitely discuss it with my husband to see what he had to say because its ridiculous for her to take advantage of you all like that especially if she knows that money is tight for you right now. I hope you take this as a mere suggestion and not a negative intake of what you are saying. I am speaking solely on how I would handle the situation. Just think about it because you could be hurting your family more by not saying anything to her or your husband about what she is doing.
• United States
27 Sep 07
I totally agree with you. Only problem is, when I tried to talk to my husband about it all he had to say was "That is my mother. And I don't want you talking bad about her." So, I just don't bring up my issues with him.
@deebomb (15314)
• United States
27 Sep 07
I have to admire your husband for respecting his mother like that. But at the same time he needs to open his eyes and see her for what she is, and not support her this way.
• United States
28 Sep 07
I agree.
@deebomb (15314)
• United States
27 Sep 07
Apearently she is like the alcholic that begs for money for food on the street then buys alchol. So if you realy want to help ether one the thing to do is to buy the food and gas for her instead of giving her the money if you feel that you have to give her any thing.
• United States
27 Sep 07
Trust me, I never for a second thought she even needed he money. She is in the middle of a divorce and her husband has to pay alimony that is about triple of what my husband and I bring in.
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@deebomb (15314)
• United States
27 Sep 07
I w2as going to say then don't give her any more money but on reading further, I see your husband probaly would give it to her. I'm sorry that you are blessed with such a mother-in-law.
@aowaow (1516)
• Indonesia
27 Sep 07
consult with your partner. next action, you may give the last $20, and the next time. Stop this immediately, giving another $20 will not end the chain reaction. Sometimes we need to stay hard, if not other will see you as weak victims. It's nature, not because we are mean, but others make us so.
• United States
27 Sep 07
Very True! And I know I won't be giving her anything. But that doesn't stop my husband from doing so.
@aowaow (1516)
• Indonesia
28 Sep 07
yes, this is the hard part. because she is his mom. In case, what if she is our mom. It takes himself to judge by his own, whether this money is affordable or is it worthy by giving continuing like that. As I said, you really need to consult with your partner about this behavior, before it will become a cause of unnecessary quarrel lately. I hope your partner is an understandable one.
@youme8 (29)
• Malaysia
27 Sep 07
So far nobody will beg money from me because they know I don't have money. Only enough for my own stomach. So I'm safe on this matter.
• United States
27 Sep 07
I don't have money either, which is why is kills me that she would do that to her own son.
@laydee (12809)
• Philippines
28 Sep 07
What's her son's view about this matter? Is he ok with his mom doing this to you guys? I think the next time she begs, you should not give in no matter what. I have a friend with the same problem as you do. It seems daughter in laws don't really have much of a choice. But I told her that it's better to be cold than to allow such things to happen all the time.
@forgenth (72)
• China
27 Sep 07
It seems that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have serious problems.But what do you think of your mother? And if your mother-in-law is really impenetrable.The more you can stand the more tolerant you are.
• United States
27 Sep 07
My real mother is great. And she knows what I go through. Which is why I'm usually at my moms house when she comes to visit.
@gr8life (6252)
• Malaysia
27 Sep 07
Hello TripleS519, Oh, how come she acted like that? She knows that you and your family don't have enough for yourselves and why she needs to act like that? I always listen to my friends' stories on how they handle their mother-in-law. I am lucky though... I am married to a foreigner and I don't have to deal with my mother-in-law. I will call her once a while to say hi and when my husband went back there, we bought some souvenirs and gifts for the whole family. When I was still single, I always prayed that I won't have to deal with a 'difficult' mother-in-law. At least, my wish came true *smiles* I know what you are going to say...I am bad. Yes, I am *laughs*
• United States
27 Sep 07
She acts like that because she is greedy. And she knew she would get from her son. Like she has told me before "Sherry gets what Sherry wants" (not her real name by the way but you get the point) She says that all the time.
• United States
27 Sep 07
there is really just one in law i cant stand and thats because he thinks hes better then everyone else and if you dont see things his way then your wrong and hes right. and hes a hipocrit. other then him I pretty much like my inlaws
• United States
27 Sep 07
I know people like that. I just nod my head and smile when they talk. :)
@smin2x (46)
27 Sep 07
You have to really stretch your patience with that kind of in-law. For me, I have no problem with my mother-in-law, she is very understandable woman though our principles do not meet, she knows how to respect it. My husband is the one who have a problem with his mother-in-law....that is my mother. My mother has personality problem that even me has a problem dealing with her, how much more for my husband.
• United States
27 Sep 07
I'm really glad you and ur in law get alone. I thought at first she and I would. Oh how I was wrong. But that doesn't mean you won't have better luck!
@lucky_witch (2710)
• Philippines
18 Oct 07
Well, my in law with my former husband is also a disaster, I believe that she is one of the cause with the separation of my husband. She love to interfere with us and do it in my back. Now, she keeps on blaming me for what happened to me and my husband. I really hate her. She is back fighter who love to make stories behind my back.
@Arshian (478)
• Pakistan
28 Sep 07
well this is a rare case in this case you should be a ristricted person when she came to you you should be crying louder then her to feel her that you dont hve a single panny left with you :)