Independence

Philippines
September 27, 2007 12:25am CST
I've been cut off by my dad few months ago. Now, Im independent and earning a living for myself. Despite my capcity to support my needs, sometimes I still feel daunted by my independence. I suppose it helped and secure me then that my father supported me. The question is how will I be fully confident that I would be able to support myself and sustain my dreams? It's my average compensation that troubles me, I am worried of the future.
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5 responses
@talisman (1308)
• United States
27 Sep 07
What you're feeling is completely normal. That's the very first thing that you need to realize. Starting out on your own for the very first time is hard, but is also an awesome experience. It's great that you have someone there for you, appreciate that. Building confidence takes time, but it'll come. Just take things one day at a time and before you know it, you'll be right where you want to be. Don't worry about average compensation, we all have to start somewhere. Compensation grows with experience. No one starts out on top.
• Philippines
1 Oct 07
Thank you
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• Philippines
2 Oct 07
well, talisman. i should say that you have here presented such profound ideas and a string of good advises. it is not easy to deal with a new found independence. one will usually feel lost at this new experience. and yes, i can understand why our friend here, is worried about the avaerage compensation that she is getting. it is really difficult to think about coping with all the expenses ahead of us with the little that we have. yet, as we go along with life's struggles, we usually find it out in the end, that it is very much manageable after all.
@rmuxagirl (7560)
• United States
2 Oct 07
I think you can be confident because you are on your own. You are paying your bills and making a life for yourself. The more you work towards the dreams the more they come true. I save just a little and have found it to be wonderful. Everyone worries when they first start out, but we all somehow make it. and you will too.
• Philippines
3 Oct 07
Thanks!
• Philippines
2 Oct 07
just simply keep on fighting marge, for your little place on earth. keep that place guarded and keep on working at improving on it. we all have our qualms in life. even the older folks, even our parents, have their doubts about being able to have a good tomorrow for themselves. it is therefore nothing new that someone like you is fazed with such fears. remember, marge, that eventhough you are now independent of your dad, you can still count upon him for help and advises in times of need. our parents will always be our parents regardless of our age and status in life. forever, our parents will love us just as we can never grow out of the state of loving them.
• Philippines
3 Oct 07
I'll keep what you've written in mind. Thanks
@tutul0045 (2630)
• India
2 Oct 07
Hi marge, What u r going through is something which everyone goes through once in life. So take it easy. I alway belive that there is no short cuts in life and one has to work really hard to make a good furtune. In this perios of time you are going to realize how tough life can be and its going to make u a tough person. So take it as an experiance and there is a famous saying.. " marge dont get bitter get better". Cheers, Tutul
• Philippines
3 Oct 07
I'll get better, thanks
@ailema4ever (2675)
• Finland
6 Oct 07
When it comes to the amount of money we get every month, I find that it's up to us to use it wisely. Even though it's average, as long as we can budget our expenses, we'll be able to make do. Even cutting off small treats matter in the end. For example: if you REALLY need to spend less, then you'd better not buy too much snacks or other small expenses that you usually make. Other than that, there are cheaper alternatives that you can choose: for example buying second-handed items or wait till there are discounted items to buy some stuff. I think it's all about budgeting if your earning is still limited. :-)))) If it's still not enough to live, then you can always find another way out to have a side job. Don't worry...life has its way to help you out just when you need it...or if you believe in God, He will help you too. ;-D