Giving up on partnership and deciding to live alone....
By liranlgo
@liranlgo (5752)
Israel
September 27, 2007 1:58am CST
There are alote of people that i know at the ages of 35-45 that decided judging on their past that they are better off living their life without a partner.
What do you think about this?
Do you think that they gave up too soon or do they just know what they want and need in life??
Are you one of them? why?
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8 responses
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
28 Sep 07
Hi Liran,
this is a very pertinent but a tough one. I cannot judge ppl generally. We never know what goes on within the minds of them. We all are different in our own rights. Some are independent, some are open while some are vulnerable. Obviously it depends on the frame of mind the individual possesses.
Again, I feel, Love is such a thing that we cannot predict, it happens very magically. So 'giving up' is temporary, you never know what follows. Personally, as of now, I am better off single. After all those oddities and mental tortures there is no question of settling down again. But then, life and love is strange. I might fall for someone in distant future - who knows!
smiles...
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
28 Sep 07
Excellent thoughts on a tricky subject. Well Done!
:):)
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
29 Sep 07
Thanks Liran.
You are absolutely right. Some things in life is unpredictable and we never know what to beget us.
Thanks DeepaK.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
28 Sep 07
I think it may a personal choice to desert your partner and live alone. The one who decide to live alone, I feel, may not be able to make adjustment with his/her partner due to one reasons or another.
As fas as I am concerned, I will not desert my partner/family and would like to live alone. Staying with the family/partner, while some kind of adjustment is life. I feel I have certain responsibilities towards my partner/family and I must fulfil those responsibilities.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
28 Sep 07
please read 'it may be' in place of 'it may a' and 'would not like' in place of 'would like'
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@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
28 Sep 07
Hey deepak:)
i was talking about desserting a family, i wa talking about making a choice in life of living alone, as the best way for one person or not.
But i am sure by knowing you that you are a person that will never leave a family and that your family gets the most love and care from you:)
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
27 Sep 07
Oh I almost definitely without a shadow of doubt fall into that category, I am 36 and I have resigned myself that I will stay happily (I emphasize) happily for the rest of my natural. There is absolutely NO way I would want to settle down or find a partner. I have had 8 years of hell with relationships and there is no way I want to go through that again, I have lost trust with people and I refuse to find anyone else. There is NO one out there for me and I don't want one. Besides my walls are so high and so inpenetrable that no one can get through this heart of mine LOL! I love being single and wouldn't want it any other way. Being single is being FREE, I value my freedom and my independence to much to give it away. Living alone is a dream that I am aiming to fulfill x
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
28 Sep 07
Everyone is different. Not everyone should be in a relationship.If your friends are giving up looking for a mate because they pick the wrong people, it may be a good thing. By being alone they can figure out why they go for the wrong people. but if your friends are giving up because they don't believe love is out there for them, then it is very sad. They should stop looking and start doing what they like to do and love will find them.But if your friends never wanted a partner, that is okay.Like I said at the beginning, not everyone wants a relationship and that's okay. Me, I am not looking, but i haven't shut the door to romance either. It will either come or not.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
29 Sep 07
Who knows. Everyday there is a possibility to find your besheret, soul-mate.
@Healthkeep (996)
• Israel
28 Sep 07
Well, giving up on partnership in life seems rather sad to me. The fact that one relationship didn't last or didn't get the "wanted results" doesn't mean partnership isn't good...
Partnership is wonderful, but it takes a lot of effort. Some think there should be no effort involved (and no sacrifices be made) - and if there was, so they would have been better off without partnership at all.
Partnership is demending and hard, but the rewards given by it are wonderful and numerous. One should look at the full 3/4 of the glass instead of the empty 1/4... ;)
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@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
28 Sep 07
Hey yonatan long time no seen.
I want to start with a shana tova and gmar chatima tove
(to all the readers we just had the holidays..so that is how we bless each other)
i do agree with you giving up on partnership in life is a very sad thing.
And i do know that our nature is to be in pairs.
But there comes a time when a person had his share in life,
and decided that he knows himself enough and can choose the choice that best fits him.
And the most important thing: be happy with this choice he made.
I really think that a person should be happy with his life and i do not really care if it is through having a partner or alone.
I personally do want a partnership, but now alone for a while after a long one, and not really doing nothing bout that, i guess i am happy,
but am looking forward to also be happy with a partner. :)
@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
27 Sep 07
Yes i know, but to go on living alone is a big decision, it is really a decision of giving up on love and being loved isn't it?
Most of us have problems, got hurt and so on, but in some stage of life people get aid, and work on it,
i am talking about the ones that do not want it and prefer being alone.
@DesigningLife (903)
• United States
1 Oct 07
Hmm, I think some of us are "meant" to be alone. I don't mind much as I have raised my kids alone for 13 of the past 20 years.
Sometimes it is just more convenient to have a casual partner now and then with no strings...and based on the stuff I have gone through in my past with "committed" partners, the former option looks MUCH more appealing.
