Betrayed
By angelface23
@angelface23 (2494)
United States
September 27, 2007 11:16am CST
So most of you have read the discussions I post about how I still love my ex. Well here is a new twist to the situation. So for the past week or so I have been thinking about maybe leaving my husband. Some reasons not related to my ex and some reasons are related to him. Anywho, I've been confiding in my best friend Mary who always sees him at the bar. They are friends. So I get a phone call yesterday from another friend who tells me that my ex told her that he and Mary slept together not that long ago. I guess they wer both drunk and he regrets it but it happened. I call to ask her about it and she freaks out saying people have been spreading rumors about it but it didn't happen. But since then she hasn't called me and I just know it's true. I sent my ex a message on myspace asking him how he could come between me and my best friend who I probably can never be friends with ever again. Am I right to feel this angry and betrayed or is it really none of my business??
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6 responses
@beutfulmama6701 (1718)
• United States
28 Sep 07
I am not trying to sound b*tchy or come across rude and mean when i say really you really have no grounds to be totally upset... it doesnt concern you, you are a married woman, what happens in your exs life belongs in his life only. its his business and any ones elses he choose' IN a way you can be upset your friend slept with your ex, ok no good in genral... friends dont mess around with friends ex's its just wrong... and you have to think back... did it happpen before or after you confessed to her how your feelings towards his was???
regardless of her answer, you shouldnt end a friendship over htis. because like i said... you are a married women your husband and his relations is all that should really matter in the end
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@smacksman (6053)
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28 Sep 07
I wouldn't be too miffed about it. After all, he is an ex and you are now married and you probably told her how good he was in bed and hey! she just had to have that good experience herself.
No big deal. I would just ask her how it was but now that opportunity has moved away.
You seem to be pretty free with your body now on to man 2 (at least?) so don't be surprised that others (male and female) do the same.
Life is too short.
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@angelface23 (2494)
• United States
3 Oct 07
well for the record he wasn't that great at all in bed and apparently he said that she was the worst lay he's ever had! Makes me feel better anyway!
@mansha (6298)
• India
26 Oct 07
You know what since you are still not over your ex its bound to hurt you but it will hurt you as long as you will allow it to. He is your ex now get over him-sometimes when we are seprated we tend to idiolise that person forgetting how much pain that person caused us when we were with him. What he does or what he does not is now not any business of yours. Try and do some meditation or do something you really enjoy for yourself and stop going over the past -yopu have to live in present now. Let bygones be bygones-do not look back. Ask yourself why you feel the way you feel-do some soul searching -aall answers are with you only and you just have to find them out for yourself. Be strong for your own sake.
@nangel78 (1454)
• United States
28 Sep 07
Well I do not know all the details here, but from I have read here and my own experience, I would focus more on your marriage and forget about the ex and your friend to be honest. Then again I do not know what has gone on in your marriage for you to consider leaving. Have you and your husband tried marital counseling or even just communicating more?
Here is another thing to consider: there is a reason why he became an ex. Would you want to go through that pain again?
Just my two cents. Hope it all works out for you. Take care.
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@lucky_witch (2707)
• Philippines
18 Oct 07
I guess it is not right, because as you have said he is already your ex... meaning he is no longer your boyfriend and he could do anything. I am not updated with your situation, Im sorry if I am wrong but I think you should focus with your present relationship now. If there is something that should be fixed, I think its the problem with your family. If youre already through with your husband then thats the time that you should think of other.
@juashing07 (32)
• Philippines
28 Sep 07
Well, if you're angry with the situation, I guess you still do have feelings for your ex. But since you are already married, I think that you must settle your problems in your marriage first before jumping into another relationship just because you no longer have feelings for your husband or because you're still in love with your ex. This things should not be a reason for breaking a marriage. Marriage is a commitment, so if you want to leave you must talk with your husband about it first and see if you can still work things out but if not perhaps that's the time for you to leave. Then you have to give yourself time to think things over if you really want a relationship with your ex whom you think have slept with your best friend. You also have to talk with your best friend too so that you will know the facts and not just assume things that might cause your friendship to break.
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