If you caught your lover dating someone, what will you do?

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Philippines
September 27, 2007 4:56pm CST
we always hear about lovers are in quarrel because they caught their lover dating someone, if it happens to you what will you do?
7 responses
@ljames85 (294)
• Canada
28 Sep 07
GOODBYE that would be my only words to him. I wouldn't even sit to listen to what he had to say. who says he isn't going to do it again? or continue...
• Philippines
28 Sep 07
i think it would be better if you will listen to his explanations first then meditate before going to decision, right girl
@ljames85 (294)
• Canada
28 Sep 07
with the things that have happened in the past and the current situation not necessarilly
• Philippines
12 Oct 07
It is unethical, in my opinion, for a person who is in a relationship and still finds time to date someone. Relationship should be a commitment of two people who plans to stay on together. If any of the two cannot stay true to this commitment for sure, they'll fall to the hipocrisy of the relationship.
• Philippines
16 Oct 07
great
@gesell03 (173)
• Philippines
29 Sep 07
i really cant predict what i would do, but in my imagination if ever this lover does something like that i would just stare at him and walk away and never give him the chance to talk to me, or explain, i dont need to hear it, i would totally cut him off my life and wouldnt even show him that i got hurt by what he did to me, i would remain composed and seem witty and intelligent and under control, i wouldnt let him see me cry, i would not even fight the other woman, i would show him that if he was able to give me up that easily then he is not worth fighting for, i will not be cheap and go down his level.
• Philippines
12 Oct 07
it's your right to do that
• Philippines
28 Sep 07
All i wanted is a good relationship. I'm not asking for a guy who's handsome, rich or famous. I just want an honest and faithful guy. I told my boyfriend that if he doesn't love me anymore, we could break up just don't date outside the relationship. I've been faithful to him and I don't think i deserve an untrustworthy relationship. If that happens then it means it's the end. I mean, what's the point of pursuing a relationship when he's just fooling around while you remain faithful. I don't think I don't deserve that.
• Philippines
28 Sep 07
yeah he don't deserve you. good idea girl
@aowaow (1516)
• Indonesia
28 Sep 07
I'm a man. So, if my woman is the one who did so... There must be a root or cause, why she did so. First I will talk to her. consult her why, and do my self-introspection. Showing curiosity and spark the quarrel fire will only make the problem going to become more sour. Good communication and approaching is the key to solve this. Part of it, some women will not be easily anymore sharing out the information(the problem inside her) with freely when she didn't believe you anymore (aka, she feels unsecured anymore with you), even she is your partner. I need to be patient on the approaching, make her convinced back again to me. After root problem is sharing out, self introspection is needed, some person might take this as "she is the one who start the problem". This is ain't the way. Because we are only focusing on her, and not seeing inside us could be the root and made her did so. The root could be probably starts from common stuff of no good communication and sharing when past problems floating in surfaces when both sides was arguing heavily. One trying to insist the perspective, and at last the "white flag" side might consider seeking another "secure" relationship with third one. What if in purpose, there are no in purpose. Human even brings egoism emotion in life. When they are engage in relationship, it will make him/her thinks thousands time before choosing another path. They will, when they are tired of the relationship. When they are tired of the relationship, they will put their heart to someone else who give him a secure environment. Hope this is useful.
• Philippines
28 Sep 07
thanks bro. that really helps.
• United States
28 Sep 07
I would leave. If he's dating someone else, then I can only assume I'm not making him happy. Someone else must be able to make him happy so I would let him find that person. Of course in the past I didn't act like that. I freaked out and told the person he was dating and started all kinds of trouble. But I realize I didn't love those guys. I was doing that for greedy reason. My husband, I want him to be happy, no matter the cost.
• Philippines
28 Sep 07
if your mate is dating anybody don't blame yourself, just think that it's your loose it's him/her
@yhamz_85 (21)
• Afghanistan
28 Sep 07
ouchhhh..., i think i'm gonna kill him, joke only. Well, if i caught him dating with someone , i will go to their table and say "HI!HELLO" to him. I would not react right away, maybe it was one of his relatives. If it was, then that would be OK!. But if not, i'm gonna let him go.Well, that's love , you have to sacrifice. If that what makes him happy, i would rather let him go but deep inside it really hurts.
• Philippines
28 Sep 07
good attitude, keep it up