Being Kind To Yourself: Is It Easy?

I am super hard on myself because I know I can do better but I only push myself to the point of what I feel is better then my classmates or coworkers. I dont give it a hundred percent so when I mess up I feel even worse about this. Im a perfectionist.

I also tend to give myself difficult time if I did stupid stuffs. Well, that is if the consequences is too much. However if it is just a light mistake, after everything is settled I treat myself either for a nice meal, a chocolate or just anything I can grab....hehehe...Then, I will talk to myself infront of a mirror that there's nothing to be worried about because it wasn't a biggie at all..LOL

Hi Ailema4ever, Nice to meet you, here! Its very true its easier to encourage other rather then ourselves.but wht i feel is anybdy learn thru mistake only.if you or me, not make a mistake then how we learn further.we are human and human is consider tobe body of mistake.its our responsibility to take care tht we not make a mistake.ohhhhh im also doing the same, telling you not to make an mistake. its happens, if i make a mistake then you told me and if you make a mistake then i told you, its happens in friends.isn't it? ^_^ Swatig

I know I have to learn not to be so hard on myself and treat myself better.I used to blame myself for everything, even things I really could not control.Also I guess I put myself last too often, and everyonelse before me.

Yeah you are right.Sometimes it is easy to be kind to others liek to ourselves.but also that's what maybe a lot of us wants.to be hard to ourself to reach our aims.

It depends much on the type of mistake. Generally im not hard on my self, however if the same situation comes along i won't make the same mistake twice. All we can do is learn from our mistakes and move forward in life. No real point on being hard on yourself, because it can only make you think more about your mistakes.

I agree.. sometimes we are hard on ourselves. But we should also learn to be a buddy to ourselves. Thanks for sharing this. It may serve as reminder to the self

Hi, It defers from person to person, still in my case I hope I get not tempted easy. Kindness falls may be due to sympathy.The person who show kindness has humanity in him not all. Still kindness give forgiveness. It is also one of best trait in human character.

I found it very hard to be kind to myself since I have many people that i wanted to help. being kind to myself will compromise my helping of them. But sometimes I pampered myself just to get a break.

It dont matter to me whether i commit mistake.i know for my self that i should not be punishing my self for that. so for me,i think it is easy being kind to my self

At most time I am kind to myself after I did some mistakes,because I do not want to make the mistake,if it happen,I did anything is late,I just try to relax myself and tell myself that you cannot do this next time,this time is past,please be happy to do other things,donot remember this.

it takes time too forgive myself for what i've done, it's not easy to accept having mistakes while you know what's the best thing to do..sometimes i always think that if im not done this mistakes i cant find myself being much stonger, having mistakes makes me want to find what's the cause of my failure i didnt stop finding it until i realized what's the cause, in that case im now more calm and contented.