I'm Sorry But Some People Really Pi$$ Me Off Here
By pyewacket
@pyewacket (43903)
United States
September 28, 2007 6:17am CST
Okay maybe I'm venting. I'm not naming names and I don't want ANY of you to do either.
Now you have to understand where I'm coming from. I pretty much get along with anyone and everyone, whether it's in "real" life or here at MyLot. I treasure the people who I consider friends here. There are many on my friends list that I feel VERY close to and you know who you are.
BUT!
I always avoid very controversial subjects....these are a no-no for me, and avoid like the plague, but sometimes even seemingly innocent discussions can turn nasty and maybe some reply I've made is taken the wrong way, or I'm just plain attacked, and I think each and every one of us can relate to that. I know many of my friends who have been insulted and ridiculed...is this right when they are expressing some opinion or feeling which I believe we have the right to do so?
How any times has some one viewed their opinion, and not necessarily in our friends list, but someone who comes out of the blue and said nasty things, making me at least feel like throwing my computer out of the window...seriously!! I have to walk away from my computer just to "cool" down. Now like I said I pretty much get along with anyone and everyone....it takes a lot to bother me....
BUT!
Then there are the times where I see a particular member here, and not one of my friends and their avatar and I just want to cringe and scream...cause yes, I get real strong negative feelings about the person...I just can't stand the person, even though I've never met them in real life, but I probably wouldn't want to anyway and I certainly wouldn't want them on my friends list here.
Okay maybe I'm venting here..this is just an "opinion" and observation I've made here all these months here...but am I the only one that feels this way? And no --no one has attacked me lately...this is a just in general reference.
WARNING: DO NOT NAME ANY MEMBER HERE!! THIS IS NOT WHAT THIS IS ABOUT. I JUST WANT TO KNOW IF YOU FEEL THE WAY I DO
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@Scorpio2111 (170)
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28 Sep 07
Yes I feel like that too. Someone told me a was an example of 'stupid parenting' on here recently. I couldn't believe it, then they went on to be quite nasty calling my children 'poor children for having a Mum like me' or something to that effect. This person doesn't know me at all. I am not stupid, and I try to bring my children up as best I can. I felt a bit of cyber rage coming on when I read it :-) Mind you this particular person sounded kind of 'angry' if you know what I mean, maybe they had got out the wrong side if the bed or something but there really is no need for nastiness on here. Spolit it a bit for me really cos I was enjoying reading other peoples opinions etc
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
29 Sep 07
That's horrible Scorpio! I do hope you reported the person for abuse...that was really hitting it below the belt and so wrong for that person to say that--good mood, bad mood, really doesn't matter, no one should say things like to another person or make judgments like that
Have to ask...Scorpio?? Take it your one too? My birthday is November 19th..LOL
Wow AmbiePam..I didn't know that, to check a person's profile and see some comment like that..will have to check more often!
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@jeweledbluerose (3061)
• United States
28 Sep 07
I get the same feeling sometimes. Usually I just let it go through one part of my brain and out the other, and try to ignore it the best that I can. Sometimes people really do catch "foot in mouth" syndrome without really realizing what they have stated, until it is to late.
That's why I tend to take it with a grain of salt and move on.
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@jeweledbluerose (3061)
• United States
28 Sep 07
Oh there have been plenty of times I wish I could just reach through the screen and smack some sense into some of the people here on MyLot, but than I just tell myself, when those feelings arise, that they are merely words on a computer screen, and they no longer have the effect on me as they once did. Which gives me the strength to move on without so much as giving them much more of a second thought.
Haven't really got to much a negative vibe from anyone here as of late, but I haven't really stuck around here all the much over the past few months to really read into people and get any other feeling than the positive ones I get from my friends on here.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Sep 07
I sure wish I could have your calm attitude...LOL. Like I said though, sometimes just by seeing someones avatar..I'll get those negative vibes.
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@howard96h (11640)
• New York, New York
28 Sep 07
Hi my friend, I think we all have someone that we would rather not see at all on mylot. I have this woman who can't wait to hit the negative button to try and pull your ratings down simply because you don't agreee with her views. I wish mylot had a button that I could press to knock her out of her computer chair and land on her a*s. This would really please me!
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@howard96h (11640)
• New York, New York
29 Sep 07
Hahaha your comment made me laugh so hard - I really needed that - thanks!
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
29 Sep 07
Oh--better yet...how about a button that one can press, and every time you see that person, it ejects a flexible arm with a boxing glove at the end of it, that then goes into the computer and punches the person in the mouth...hehee
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@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
28 Sep 07
Hi pye,
Yes I have run into these kinds of things before. A close personal friend of mine whom I convinced to join mylot had someone stalking her (going to ALL of her discussions just to stir the pot), and constantly attack her anytime she wrote anything in her discussions. I tend to steer clear away from that person and just the site of that persons avatar makes me want to scream. I do not feel it is right to rate someone negatively over a difference of opinion, but when it comes to abuse that is a whole different story. Hope you have a great day hun.
Love & Hugzz, Your Friend PurpleTeddyBear ;)
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@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
29 Sep 07
Hi pye,
Yes, my friend was able to get rid of her stalker thank goodness! I really hate how some people are here just to take out their own bad moods, abuse, ignorance, etc on someone. Especially someone they don't even know. It's really sad if you ask me!
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
29 Sep 07
Isn't it a shame that there are the "stalker" type that will hound someone, chime into the discussions just to disagree with the poster's discussion and then rate them negatively? I hope you friend was able to ditch the person somehow-was she?
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@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
28 Sep 07
Yes, there are people I try to avoid. If I see them in a topic, I normally skip responding. Sad really that we are diverted from topics just because someone else makes us want to hurl !! I hope I have never had that affect on anyone. I try to remain calm and out of trouble. But sometimes, even as careful as I am, I get sucked into something..
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@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
29 Sep 07
Yes, unfortunately there are nasties running amuck. I remember back when I used to be on AOL discussion boards.. there was a woman that would argue anything and I mean anything you had to say. Some people feed off being nasty..
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Sep 07
Like you there are people here I deliberately avoid, but it's hard when out of the blue they appear on a discussion and they start in and being nasty about a seemingly innocent discussion, but then sadly I think there are those here that just LOVE to create problems no matter what--right?
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@3lilangels (4639)
• United States
28 Sep 07
i feel the same way,i see some of those avatars and i just skip right passed them because i get real negative results from them and a very first bad impression.and some people with all their negativity shouldnt even be on here just to make others feel bad,so lets just ignore them and have a great day my friend.you brought up a great discussion and you are so right on this so thanks for bringing this up,now i know i am not the only one that feels this way.pattie
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Sep 07
Glad I'm not alone in this too...Isn't it odd though how we can react just by a person's avatar? It's like gee, even through cyberspace, these negative people emit these negative emotions in us
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
28 Sep 07
we are here to have fun and enjoy and if a person dont agree with you they dont need to downgrade ya.
They can just go tot the next post and see if they agree with that one.
I know a few here that have been attacked for no reason myself have had a few but I just ignore them and go on no reason to get up set with the few! hugs amd blessings
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Sep 07
I really hate it when one of these jerks starts up with one of my friends and all of it is so un-called for. Yes, why don't these people just move on to a discussion they can relate to better--think some just like creating trouble
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
28 Sep 07
I understand where you're coming from. I know sometimes what people are trying to say comes across the wrong way - it's because it's so hard to put emotion into our comments with this format. It's just really easy to misunderstand a post.
Then there are the idiots that think that their opinion is the only right one, and those people just drive me to drink (more). Agh, it's SOOO frustrating!!!
I just ignore them and move on - or at least try to!
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Sep 07
I know...people need to realize every one has their own opinions about something...and it doesn't make it right or wrong...but like you said some believe there viewpoint is the only one and the correct one
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@GnosticGoddess (5626)
• United States
28 Sep 07
Oh dear YES! It's ridiculous on the amount of times I've found myself in a situation like that. Especially when it comes to religion - which is one of those things I now avoid unless a friend starts the discussion. People on here can be so tactless, rude, and nasty!
And when this happens I feel ridiculous for letting someone who doesn't even know me to upset me so much. So THAT further angers me LOL.
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@GnosticGoddess (5626)
• United States
28 Sep 07
It makes perfect sense. I know exactly what you are talking about.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Sep 07
Oh yup--religion is a biggie to get entangled with, or abortion...that's a real hornets nest! I know it is ridiculous to let someone we don't even know well get us ticked off...but it's like you can feel the bad vibes from them or something...does that make sense??
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
29 Sep 07
I think the ones that make me cringe just love to get my goat...for now on, I'm not going to even waste my time answering them
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
28 Sep 07
Funny you should post this discussion at this time, pyewacket! I have experienced much of the same recently. I didn't come to myLot with any agenda except to make friends and earn a little spending change into the bargain. Little did I know that I would come up against certain people who DO have an agenda and don't care who they hurt when it comes to getting their point across. I, like you, try to avoid potentially hot-button issues that are sure to cause a flap. Sometimes, however, a seemingly innocent discussion will bring out the worst of the worst in some of these people. I used to enjoy spending time here on myLot so much, but lately it has become harder and harder for me to even sign in. I think that people should think more about what they decide to say in a forum such as this, because everyone has feelings, and nobody wants to be made to feel unwelcome.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
29 Sep 07
It's hurtful too for me when I see one of my friends being attacked...there is one person here who is as sweet as can be, and has such delightful discussions that puts a smile on my face, but sure enough, some a$$hole comes along and makes really abusive remarks to her discussions...that isn't right by any means
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@IcyCucky (361)
• United States
28 Sep 07
I want to share your frustrations because I had read a few posts from you, and felt the same way about a certain people. Although I have not experienced the same thing, but those people bother me just as the same.
Some have very lame humor, and some have no shame. If you see the avatar, avoid it, skip it pyewacket. They are not worth it, especially when your emotions are at the stake.
I hope you have a better day today.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Sep 07
Thank you IcyCucky..yes I will try and avoid the person,kind of hard though when they show up on one of my discussions or a discussion by a friend of mine...
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@IcyCucky (361)
• United States
29 Sep 07
I know exactly who you're talking about. It bothers me to see those avatars in genuinely good discussions.
But whatever you do, don't puke, don't throw out your computer either. (LOL). How would you post discussion then? Slowly, I hope those will disappear from mylot :))
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
28 Sep 07
Hi pyewacket. Yes I feel just as you do so you're not alone. Just yesterday I was attacked and I retalated in which I shouldn't have but I did. It ticked me right off and I let the person know. I guess some expect us to back down in which I used to do that in my younger years but I will not do so now. However I should've considered the source and moved on but figured that was the easy way out. I hate it when someone thinks it's ok to attack because it's not ok. It's ok to disagree but do it nicely in a way that we can talk about it but to be so low down and derogatory just isn't right.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Sep 07
Then too I think lots of times we have trouble makers here who just love to get us riled up. I always have to restrain myself at times and reply to a hostile person "very" dilpomatically..and I admit that is hard at times, right?
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
29 Sep 07
I was attacked just yesterday and it hit a nerve something fearce and I retaliated however it didn't do any good. The so called girl is so demeaning and down right nasty and it really pi$$ed me off. However I wish I never responded but she just hit that nerve. Check it out if you want. http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1289122.aspx#up_wE%2fsqfwwtQwBYRO%2f%2bKGyGAzCWLsmtod6c4R6ZTF9H8k%3d
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@kathisharpe (140)
• United States
28 Sep 07
I really haven't run into this but I've got an extremely thick skin -- I used to run an evangelical outreach forum for people involved in the occult.
Too bad myLot doesn't have an ignore feature, that would come in handy!
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Sep 07
Nope I don't think it's odd we feel the same way...hey, we're cyber sisters...LOL
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@rosie_123 (6113)
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28 Sep 07
Hi Pyewacket. Well I do know what you mean - some people just annoy me too - but I don't get stressed enough to want to throw the PC out of the window!! I just try to avoid their comments and discussions and move on! Life's too short for negative energy and bad feelings.
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Sep 07
You're right...life is too short. And like I said, I don't often react, just occasionally --and I don't like it when they start attacking my friends either!
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@ElicBxn (63235)
• United States
28 Sep 07
I've only had one issue with a person - and I can't name names because I don't remember it anyway. I did report one person for responding in a language other than English.
I agree that I stay away from subjects that are likely to stir up trouble and I also pretty much get along with anyone that I meet. I haven't had to get up and leave my computer because of what someone on it has done/responded.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Sep 07
I avoid the discussions too that are "heated" issues, but it's surprising sometimes when it's a seemingly innocent discussion and you have some person act up and attack ...I really feel bad too, when I see one of my friends being attacked
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@zabawaus (1730)
• United States
28 Sep 07
Hi pyewacket,
i hope you are not talking about me :P I know you don't! There is only one person that I can't stand him. He is always attacking people who has different believes. I several times wanted to reply his discussions but finally changed my mind since he is not a open minded person. He is insulting people as well. I wanted to report him but couldn't find a way to report and finally changed my mind. Here is a platform that people sharing their ideas and feelings. But if insult involves than someone has to stop these kind of people. Thank you and have a great day!!!!
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Sep 07
Nope it's not you..hehe..or anyone on my friends list...It's these "others" that often will get to me even if I just see their avatar..I particularly get riled up, if one of them attacks one of my friends as well as I feel for my friend having to go through this do-do
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@peanutjar (5198)
• Canada
28 Sep 07
Hi pyewacket!:)Actually im starting to get those feelings just lately from someone who does not make sense at all sometimes and answer in a VERY rude way trying to put me down and dig my discussion topic apart like a psyhiatrist would by putting a meaning in a response concerning me.Like picing certain words from my response like me=negative...you=possessive,blah,blah!I think im to the point of hitting the friend delete button again.:(.Sometimes people only ask to be my friend to have me referred(referral).Thats happened alot lately.Grrr.I usually delete them very fast after seeing a message come up with a website to join with them.I dont want referrals and dont need the nuissance.Ive noticed some peopl are getting quite snippy as the days go by,showing their true colors.It can only go so long with a fake face until they breakout the real person behind the advatar.I dont look forward to that person responding to my topics because i feel like reaching in the computer and choking who ever it is.LOL.:)
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Sep 07
Oh--wouldn't that be something if we could reach into our computers and choke the person...LOL. Yes some people will pick our discussions apart, or worse yet, read something into it that isn't even there, or misinterpreting what we're saying.
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@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
28 Sep 07
uh oh, I'm pretty new here pyewacket so I haven't really come across the undesirables yet, lol!
So far, my friends are really super great so I try to respond to them the most. It's safer, ha ha.
I take my time reading posts and try to find people that have a common interest with me. So far, so good.
I'm sure it'll happen though, and I'll be just like you.....ready to throw the computer out the window because I'm so pi$$ed. I'm sure I'll learn the longer I'm on Mylot and eventually you'll see me posting the same subject, ha ha.
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Sep 07
Give it time my friend...if one is here long enough, one will come across these people, and yes, I'll be looking forward to your discussion about being pi$$ed off..LOL
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