marrying a virgin?

Philippines
September 28, 2007 10:32am CST
There was once a debate regarding marrying a virgin. This is how the question goes. "I know from most of us (Filipinos), we would probably like to marry a virgin, at least i know i would. But many of us have fallen short and made mistakes. How important is it to you all that the person you date and get serious with is a virgin? Considering that they are not a virgin that they have repented on that sin and have changed their ways and now believing in waiting for marriage. On a scale of 1-10 how much does this affect how you look at the person?"
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@switlyf (649)
• Philippines
29 Sep 07
well as a filipina its really nice to get married and still be a virgin but it doesn't always turns out to be like that...in my case i got pregnant by my husband good thing is that he is the first one...
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@sampip (99)
• Philippines
28 Sep 07
a lady dont need to be a virgin for me to love/marry her. marrying a virgin would be nice but it's so primitive and unfair to make it a standard for marriage. for me as long as she's not hitting anyone just because she wanted to, she's cool for me.
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@ashtraay (46)
• Pakistan
28 Sep 07
Marriying a virgin is some thing very luckyin 2007.bcoz tis is the time in which it is very difficult to find someone really virgin. even if we find someone then what will happen.we will enjoy for the firsttime and then sameeeeeeeeeeeeee old story
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@gradyslady (4055)
• United States
28 Sep 07
I don't think being a virgin when you marry them matters much, just as long as you know that they don't go out every night messing around. I know I'm a virgin and that my boyfriend isn't, but it doesn't make me think any differently of him.
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29 Sep 07
For me it's important that I should marry a Virgin.
• United States
24 Oct 07
Why?
@aowaow (1517)
• Indonesia
19 Oct 07
Then virgin is a good pear, not-virgin-anymore is just rotten one? It's unfair. Scaling means we made intention of looking down for not virgin anymore. Nobody's perfect. If the girl can provide a virginity, what in return he could possible provide to her to same the rate of virginity?
@wisedragon (2330)
• Philippines
29 Sep 07
I guess I do prefer it, but I don't demand it. I mean, if the woman I love admits to me that she's no longer a virgin, well, she's got a lot of explaining to do, but I wouldn't love her any less.
• India
29 Sep 07
zero.. i know i made mistake.. and i know i'll be true to my wife after marriage.. so do will be others, i believe..
@izathewzia (5141)
• Philippines
29 Sep 07
It is part of the culture and upbringing to search for a virgin for a lifetime partner. but because of the so many changes and the fast phase of the time nowadays, it is also should be consider that virginity is no longer an issue in marrying a person. But of course, how i dearly wish it could be preserve till one gets married. But we are all prone to commiting mistakes. And that should be greatly considered.
• China
29 Sep 07
if both like each other,i think whether she is a virgin or not is not important.the point is i love her,and she can share time with me no matter what happen and what gonna happen.
@liranlgo (5748)
• Israel
29 Sep 07
Well in my culture it does not really matter. It is common here that we live together and make se** before marrying to see if we fit each other in that way also. i really do not think that it says somthing about a person, It just says that this person had experienced that side, and that's it.
@todine (40)
29 Sep 07
On a scale of 1-10 i would say its a 1! Virginity is not that important to me as long as that person stops flirting and jerking around with other people. What really matters is the whole being of a person. What will you get if you will marry a virgin with a bad attitude? virgin with a negative outlook in life? virgin who is close minded? and virgin who could not love you no matter what happens? In today's generation, virginity is not that big issue anymore. What really matters is how you can make your relationship healthy and accepts the person for who that person really is. Even if you'll marry someone who is not a virgin, you just have to make your marriage work.
• Portugal
29 Sep 07
hi there chryztyn :) I was a virgin when my hubby took me.LOL Yeah seriously. But for me personally, I don't think virginity is a big deal in marrying a person. Everybody made mistakes. Yet, if he or she learned his or her mistakes, why should we bother those pasts? Moreover, we are not living with our pasts. Life must go on, and what matters most is how you stand up life after you stumbled down. If he is true to himself, I should still rate him or her perfect 10. That is how I look at the person I loved. Pasts could not affect me. Well, so far in my perception, that's how it will be. Nice discussion chrytyn! *wink* :)
@kun2349 (23464)
• Singapore
29 Sep 07
To me, marrying a virgin is not that important because everybody makes mistakes.. Curiousity about things is not wrong too so i wun jugde them on that and wun affect my jugdement on them too ;)
• China
29 Sep 07
I really do not like that topic,because here in China ,also have many man talk about it ,and they think if marring a virgin ,shuld be very good to her,but if not varin ,should be a lose face things.untill today I belive many man will pay more attation to the virgin blood after first time. so sometime I think I am lucky girl ,because my BF is kind to me ,also my first time with him have no blood .but he told me ,nothing compare to feeling love me
• Philippines
29 Sep 07
Here in the Philippines, it's quite common. But to tell you honestly, guys who wants to marry woman who are sitll virgin, and they know in themselves that they have devirginized any girl from the past, then that man is selfish jerk. I mean, every once in a while, a woman falls in love with a guy and got devirginized, then how about if she breaks up with the guy? DOes that mean, she's not acceptable anymore, and doesn't deserve true love in the future? So, I think guys should learn to accept woman wholly if he truly loves her, despite the fact that she's not virgin anymore.
@barehugs (8984)
• Canada
29 Sep 07
Would you buy a car without a test drive? You keep a car for 5 years and trade up. You keep a woman for a life time. Think about this before you marry a virgin. A virgin bride is a poor choice because she has No experience and will bleed all over your wedding night.9 chances out of 10 she will be too sore or too tight and your first night will be ruined. I wouldn't dream of marrying a Virgin. I've already seen way too many of that Kind!