Do you think its ok to yell at your kids in public?

I think that yelling at your (not you specifically, you in a general blanket sense) children shows that you have no controll over your children and that they know it. It shows that you are completley overwhelmed and do not know what to do with your children, or how to make them obey you. Using a stern voice should effectivley quiet the child and make them listen to you. Unless of course the child already knows they have controll over the parents.

I never really yelled at my children, in public or in private. When we were going out in public, I made sure they knew exactly what behavior was expected of them. If they didn't comply, I would remind them quietly of how they should be acting. If they still didn't comply, then we would simply go home, and the next time I went out, they got to stay at home.

I think it is better not to yell at children in public. Because children are as well as adults. They also need to have their face and it will be hurtful for them if you yell them in public. No matter how mad you are, please try to calm down to have a nice talk with your children.

I agree with you not to yell the kids in public. Too much yelling will only make the kids ignore you once they are used to your yelling. I think that it is better to yell when it is time to yell instead of yelling everywhere without considering where you are.

What are you suppose to do let your children run like wild animals ? No if yelling works than yell.

i do agree with you ,we should not yell at our kids in public,the kids are innocent and naughty ,sometimes make you mad ,but they don't really wanna make you feel that,they just for funny or catch your attention

I don't believe in YELLING at kids, period!!! I think your method is just fine. As for the reaction of the child who was being so poorly disciplined, it makes me laugh to think that the yelling parent was getting that kind of grief. The parent deserved that for yelling at the child. I agree with you, but the last part still made me laugh.

I save all of my yelling for at home or in the car times, and it's when I am loud when my teenage daughter seems to understand the words that come out of my mouth. I haven't always yelled at her, it began two years ago when she was 13! I worked in retail for 6 months, so God bless you...and I always had issues with mothers yelling at their even-louder children. I nearly got fired one day for the obnoxiousness of one kid sent me over the edge. I said loud enough to be heard that someone should take that child outside until he is calmed down. Unfortunately, I was heard by the parent and my boss, and quickly learned that the boy was autistic. Sad story, but still, it was quite frustrating dealing with him being so loud and each time his mom spoke he would repeat his own monologue even louder!

I don't yell at my son. Period. It doesn't matter where we are. All it does is frustrate him and make him want to yell back. When he acts up in public, I get on eye level with him, and tell him that what he is doing is wrong, and if he continues bad behavior, I take away treats. If there is a book or a toy in the cart, it gets taken back.

Congrats on your 500th post and NO I don't think it is ever right to yell at your kids in public because that just teaches them to yell at other people. It is annoying to everyone and as you say, usually ineffective anyway. It is better to go close to them and speak calmly and if that doesn't work to take them outside the store. I don't think people ought to let their kids be halfway across the store when they are shopping anyway.

No, it not only doesn't work, but makes the parent look foolish. My child knows that if he gets too out of hand in the store he is removed and if he still doesn't behave, I take away something he likes, like the game cube..And of course in order to get it back, he must tell me what he did wrong, that way I know that he knows, because what is the use of punishing the child if they have not learned the lesson??

if i have a kids id rather not yell at them in the public. Its very embarrassing. Ill talk to them and tell them where not finish then when you get home thats the time to yell and tell what you really feel. Cuz even they're just kids they still feel embarrass with other people. Thats only my point view.

Never. First of all I don't want to attract people's attention, and like you said, parent and child might just be made fun of by people if the kid don't follow what the parent said. Like you I would wait to get home to reprimand my kids. In public, my children know I don't approve of what they do when I give them the "look" with the "tight lip". I don't say anything, just do those and they know already.

No I woulod not yell at my daughter in public, I never have and never will! If she ignores me and still doesnt listen, I take her to the bathroom and correct her, or I take her out of the store, and when she gets home, she gets put in the corner fo rnot listening, the corner seems to work well with her.

Kids sometimes get on your nerves (esp. in public when they know that the might get away with anything). I had a friend who would yell at her daughter and she has even slapped her once in public. Well, I wouldn't yell at my child in public (even if he deserves it) for the sole reason that it might be annoying to people around. What I usually do when he is trying to act up is, hold him by the shoulders and go down to his level..look him in the eye and say that that behaviour is not acceptable and I don't want him doing it (of course, my tone would be hard but not loud). So far, my son's got the message. I hope it works in future too.

Children have this way of making their parents look foolish, without much effort. I think it looks silly to see a grown man or woman yelling at a child. Essentially you are saying, i can't get you to behave when i speak to you normally, so i will yell at you and see if that helps.. but usually the child realizes they are affecting you, and they act out even more. When my son acts up, (which he does, all children do, regardless of how good the parent is) I take him to the bathroom for correction, if that doesn't work, and we are standing in line to pay, I will take him to the van, while my hubby pays, if we are still shopping, we may leave our things, and the store and take him home if he will not get under control. We've only had to leave once, he's never acted up to that point in public again. I think the biggest problem many parents have, is they wait until the behaviour frustrates them, and then they lose control. If they would deal with the offense immediately, and the first time it happened, and not allow it to get to the point where they (the parent) are frustrated and angry, they wouldn't be reduced to yelling at their children in front of the whole store. We, also use rewards for good behaviour. Not bribes, bribes come before good behaviour. A bribe says, here is a candy bar, be good for me please. While a reward says 'you were such a good boy in the store today, that i want to get you a cookie' (of course if a reward is offered EVERY time, it will soon become a bribe). with a bribe, once the candy bar is gone, the child has no reason to behave. WHile we need to teach our children to behave w/out a treat, sometimes a little reward is an extra incentive.

I don't like to yell at anyone in public, kids included. Actually I don't like to yell, period. I have at times but usually people that know me, know that the lower my voice is the more upset I am. MY kids got used to it really early and they know when I mean business. I know that sometimes when people are really stressed about something or angry there is a tendency to talk louder, however I haven't found that it works that well - at least not in general.

I don't feel that it's right to yell at children either. If my daughter were to act up in a store I would simply leave, and wait until I either got into the car or at home to yell. It does sound like the kid in the store was asking for it though lol. PurpleTeddyBear.

You did the right thing. It's not good to yell with your kids in public. Even they are still kids, they will also feel embarrassed. Changing your tone of voice will relay you are serious. You can gain the respect of your kids without yelling at them.

I always tell my husband that yelling at them shows a sign of defeat!LOL...Yeah I do yell at them sometimes, but never in a store, it's tacky. Just as about annoying as a child that throws temper tantrums in public. My kids say I get the look, :| I have a thing where I get my sons pressure point right between his neck and shoulder. Pushing down just a tiny bit and I have his full attention, then I tell him very stern but quiet I said cut it. This has become a good working machine for us!! LOL:)