Should You Wait To Start Dating Again Till Your Kids Are Out Of High School?

I have two older teenagers who have graduated. I am divorced and what I did was dated but I never brought my date home, never introduced them to the kids or anything like that. My kids knew I was dating and I told the men I dated I had kids and they were only going to meet them if things got serious. The men were ok with that and it worked out fine for the kids they didn't get attached to someone who may or may not have been in thier lives.

You need to find some one for you and going on dates is one way to do this. your son is young and will be looking for some one to have a life with. and mom will always be thair but will need some one for her life to be with. Get old with some one not alone.may you always have a smile to give away

I was 40 when I divorced after 24 years of marriage. It was a bad marriage and I stayed for the kids, but in the end the kids told me they wished I'd of ended it when it started going bad. If your teenage kids are ok with mom dating, I would say go for it. You deserve a life too. So long as your kids still get "mom" time and they are not emotionally upset by it I'd say you do what your heart tells you to do. Mom's are people too and have feelings and desires. Just b/c you are a mom doesn't mean that you have to live like a monk. Now I'm not saying to kick up your heels and forget you have kids & responsibilities, but it might even be good for your kids to see you happy, smiling and enjoying life. Talk with them, they are old enough to share an honest opinion with you. You might be surprised, they may even encourage you. I wish you the best of luck.

I don't see any reason to wait. Surely your kids want you to be happy. Maybe you could sit down and talk to them about it. Tell them that you're lonely, and you'd like to start dating, and get their feelings on it. You might be surprised as to how they'll take it. You might want to let them know, that you don't have any plans to bring a new father in to the picture, at this time, that you're just lonely, and want to live a life.

I don't know that's a tough question. I'm 18 and I wouldn't mind if my mother started dating again. But I think I know why your friends are saying to wait, because your kids might have a problem with the guys that you date. So I have no idea what you should do but if your really lonely then you need to talk to your kids and tell them how you feel. They should be able to understand.

My parents divorced when I was about 5, so if my mum had waited until my sister and I graduated, she would have been alone a very long time. She had three serious relationships before meeting my step father, and neither my sister or I had any problems with any of the guys she dated. I honestly don't think there's any reason to wait - just because you have children doesn't mean you don't have a right to having a life. Depending on your relationship with them, I would sit down and explain to them that you plan on beginning to date, but you're not looking for a replacement father for them, just some companionship for yourself.

I don't agree with your friends. You have the right to be happy to. Go out and have some fun. I am sure that your teens would be happy to see their mom happily dating. Don't waist your life away waiting for your kids to graduate.

I divorced when my children were younger and really debated the dating game for quite a time. My son was the one who was opposed to my dating but it was because he did not want another father. I did explain to him that no man would replace his father and he finally understood. I met a man and both of my children accept his as my partner.