Would You Pass On A Nice Wedding For An Awesome Honeymoon?

@gtargirl (5376)
United States
September 28, 2007 1:54pm CST
My cousin from Australia just spent some time with us here in California. One of our many conversations was about honeymooning on Wadigi Island. It's in Fiji. Her fiancee booked this private island for a week for their honeymoon. They will have the island all to themselves--no other guests. It's $2000 a night--everything included; your chefs, house keeper, boat captain, surfing, scuba diving, hand gliding etc. etc. The only thing is, in order to be able to afford this she will have no wedding. Just a date in court and off they go to paradise. What do you think? I might want the great honeymoon.
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
29 Sep 07
Well, my dream wedding was actually just going to the courthouse with my family present. My first husband wouldn't go for that so we had a small church wedding with a couple attendants. My second husband had no problem going to the courthouse with me - he was all about saving the money so that worked out well!! The next day we had a party at our community clubhouse, we got fried chicken from the amish market, the cake from a grocery store, and people pitched in a brought the side dishes - probably cost us less than $2,000. Then we went to Aruba for a week!!! I definitely say, spend it on the honeymoon - it's hard to get alone time after that!
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@gtargirl (5376)
• United States
29 Sep 07
I totally agree and since my Dad is a pastor he could marry us (if there is ever going to be an us again) in our back yard--free of charge perhaps. I'm hearing more and more that if people could do it again, they would have a very simple wedding and spend the bulk of the money on a great honeymoon. Anyway, thanks for your input. Have a wonderful weekend.
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@aduck06 (19)
• United States
28 Sep 07
I guess it depends on your personal preference. In my opinion, the wedding and reception are kind of for everyone else, such as family and friends. But the honeymoon is for you and your spouse only. When I got married, we did something kind of in between. We had a relatively small wedding (approximately 125 guests) and a small reception with no meal. Then we went to Tahiti for 10 days on our honeymoon. I couldn't see spending thousands of dollars on a wedding and reception that lasts for a few hours. I would much rather have spent it on a great honeymoon that lasted much longer.
@gtargirl (5376)
• United States
28 Sep 07
Was Tahiti wonderful??? I agree with you. A lot of money spent on weddings and such anxious moments with all that planning. A great honeymoon seems more important to me now.
@gtargirl (5376)
• United States
28 Sep 07
Okay now! A bungalow over the water. Snorkeling from the porch. Oooh, to die for.
• United States
28 Sep 07
It was wonderful! I think it was probably the most beautiful place I have ever seen. And it was soooo relaxing. We went to three different islands: Tahiti, Moorea, and Bora Bora. Bora Bora was the best by far. We had a bungalow over the water, and we could go snorkeling off our back porch. It was definitely worth it to spend more on the honeymoon than the wedding!
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
27 Oct 07
A wedding has greater significance than a honey-without a wedding, the honey moon is obviously hollow because what are your honeymooning about?. A wedding tends to be religious, in my country it is done either in a church or a Mosque, it is marriage neatly displayed before men and before God, so it deserves a honey thereafter. Now if the condition is honey moon before wedding then OMG, I rather have the wedding and forego the honeymoon!
@gtargirl (5376)
• United States
27 Oct 07
I don't think a honeymoon is considered hollow in our country. It is a time of getting to know each other, living for each other and taking care of each other. Then life begins, lol. And getting married in front of the Lord God is more important than to "display" it before man. Therefore, personally yes I would get married by a minister not a judge. Still, family might be hard to get together for the wedding. And you are right, no honeymoon if there's no wedding.
@usmcsgtwife (4997)
• United States
27 Oct 07
I think I would ahve to pick to have an awesome honeymoon, a wedding is a one day affair we as a honeymoon is a few days and you have more time to relaz and enjoy it
@gtargirl (5376)
• United States
27 Oct 07
So true, so true! As a matter of fact I could use a nice honeymoon right now.
@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
27 Oct 07
I could not do it. My wedding was for all of us, me and my husband, our parents, sisters, brothers, grandparents. A way to join both families. It was nice to have evryone together in one place to share our special day. If I have to do it 100 more times I would do it the same way because family means a lot to me. But If someone wants to do it some other way thats fine by me whatever works for them thats why we have all these options available.
@gtargirl (5376)
• United States
27 Oct 07
Yes, that's nice. Unfortunately our grandparents are no longer with us. And family is scattered around the world. It's sad but it would be way too expensive for everyone to gather in one spot. We've tried. It's a blessing for you to have two nice families join together. It didn't work for me. Sad huh? My ex-hubby's side of the family just didn't care for mine. To their credit, they tried.
• United States
28 Sep 07
I would probably go for the honeymoon. Yeah, she won't get her dream wedding, but her family will still remember the day she got mattied and (hopefully) be overjoyed that she got married before being whisked away to paradise.
@gtargirl (5376)
• United States
28 Sep 07
Looks like the great honeymoon wins out. I totally agree. And yes, my cousin's parents are very happy that she'll be saying "I do" before flying into paradise.
• United States
4 Oct 07
Good. I mean everyone has a dream wedding, but they also have a dream honeymoon in mind and it all comes down to which one you want more.
• United States
28 Sep 07
Well, I honestly would say that I would go for the awesome honey moon! I had the fru fru fancy wedding and a mediocre honey moon to go with it, so I guess if I had a second chacne to do it over that's what I would do - especially since it's a private island!! I didn't even know those existed any more!! I would for sure go with paradise and skip the flowers and fancy dresses! Good luck to them in everything!
@gtargirl (5376)
• United States
28 Sep 07
Yes, I tend to agree with you. Maybe your hubby should take you on a second honeymoon. Then again those private island paradises could cost more than a pretty penny.