Net Safety
By twoey68
@twoey68 (13627)
United States
September 29, 2007 12:06am CST
Do you know how to be safe online? Do you meet ppl from online in real life? Are you looking for Mr./Mrs. Right online?
Years ago when I first went online, I learned something very valuable. The internet is a beautiful place with a wealth of knowledge and information on every possible thing.
Most of the people you meet online are very nice, honest and upfront. However, there are also perverts, pshycos and some really sick individuals out there hunting for their next victim.
Most people tend to think that everyone else is just like them, that’s not always the case. Some people don’t care about wrecking your home, using you or destroying your life.
Meeting people in person from the internet is risky, to say the least. There is no first impression, sizing up a persons character or personal knowledge of their background. You can’t even be sure that the person you are talking online with is actually who you are going to meet.
If your sure you want to meet an online friend in person, here are a few tips to help you out:
1. Try to set up the meeting during the day at a public, well-populated area.
2. Never go with them in their car.
3. Never give them your last name, address or phone number.
4. Bring a friend with you.
5. When you leave, drive around a little before heading home.
6. Tell a friend or reletive where you are going, who you are meeting and any other information you have about them.
If your looking for Mr./Mrs. Right online, here’s some more help:
1. Never use your full name for your Id (johndoe), avoid tacky Id’s (wetandwild) and avoid people who want to cyber.
2. Beware of people who start talking right away about marriage, having children, needing money or meeting.
3. Watch for inconsistances when they are talking.
4. Ask the hard questions: Are they married? Do they have kids? Have they been to jail? Do they drink or do drugs? They may not tell you the truth but you may pick up on whether they are lying or not.
5. Beware of people who become angry if you won’t give them your phone number or address or if they are angry about your questions concerning them.
I hope everyone stays safe on and off the internet. I hope this helps ppl out.
**AT PEACE WITHIN**
~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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10 responses
@mouse27 (1155)
• Canada
15 Oct 07
i never give my real name online unless i have gotten to know the person online really well. and i never give my last name. i used to meet people online i always made sure i asked what they were whering and what they looked like and met them in a public place i never told them what i was whering or what i looked like in case i they were'nt what i was expecting
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
29 Sep 07
This is a very good discussions and one that I hope a lot of people will read and think about.
People feel so safe online that they often forget that although - as you say - most people are honest and nice, there are exceptions.
A lot of people I know have committed one or two safety mistakes in that area and one of them with if not serious at least inconvenient results.
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@Polly1 (12644)
• United States
29 Sep 07
Good tips you posted here. I have met some terrific people here on mylot. I would love to meet some of them in person. I have exchanged emails with a few. There is one lady I have exchanged phone numbers and address with and hope to meet in person some day. We have even talked on the phone and last spring exchanged some flower seeds. You are right we do need to becareful and keep our guard up, we don't always know who we are talking too.
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@nannacroc (4049)
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29 Sep 07
This is very useful information. I am very careful about what information I give on the internet and would do all the things you suggested but there are many people who are naive about interent safety and these tips will help.
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@naty1941 (2336)
• United States
29 Sep 07
That is very good advice. I think it should be posted on all dating sites. I met a gentleman from on line and learned that he was married after we met. I wasted precious time with him even though it was just about 4 hours. Never again, from now on I will follow your advice.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
29 Sep 07
I really don't have any expectations of meeting anyone that I communicate with online, twoey. I am happy getting to know people, but I am not a traveler, so the chances of actually meeting anyone are slim to none. I think I would have a problem entering into a romantic relationship with someone I met online, although I know that many people do this. I guess I am just not that trusting. What you say is true though. Anyone contemplating meeting someone in person they have met online should take as many precautions as they can.
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
29 Sep 07
nice advice which I follow all the time.
and I have met a few people that I have met on line all gal pals and 2 of them have moved here now. So its fun to meet after years of talking on the net .
But of course be carefull I would have them meet me in a casino.
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@Destiny007 (5805)
• United States
29 Sep 07
Even though this is good and valuable information, I know from sad experience that even when you take every precaution you can think of there are people who will lie and deceive in order to make you believe that they are something they are not.
Although I have met people here on myLot and on the internet in general that share similar interests and beliefs, the truth is that on the internet we can all be anything and anyone we want.
Great care must be exercised always, and most especially if someone is trying to find more than just a friend.
While I do believe most people are decent, I know for a fact that there are a lot who are not, and it can be very difficult to detect these people at times.
While the internet is a wonderful place to meet new people and learn new things, it can also be as dangerous as any dark alley.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
29 Sep 07
I have never gotten this close to anyone online. I do not mind giving out my address as I live in a public facility. You can not just show up here and not be noticed.
I am very selective about who I will even communicate with online. Very few people even get my e-mail address. For the most part, to me, being online is like going to a club or talking on a chat line. People will say and do things to try to impress you. They will become whatever they think you want them to be.
This is where men miss with me. I am not easily impressed and not at all impressed by the things that the average woman is taken by. So most of the time when they start the crap talk, they end up annoying me more than anything else.
Not to say that I can not be touched or become a victim, but it takes a lot more work. For instance, if I do not feel a man is a child of God, regardless to what he says or does, I will not give him the time of day. I do not humor men, if I do not want to marry him, I do not want to date him.
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