Do you have nasty inlaws.......

@Bobbz21 (155)
New Zealand
September 29, 2007 1:04am CST
Hello mylot users, I am wondering on how many of you mylot users have come across having nasty inlaws or know anyone who has.... I have a sibling whose mother inlaw is a real b....., she is a two faced old lady who loves you to your face, yet when your back is turned the very one to start back stabbing you.... She always puts our ethnic group down as she is of another ethnic race, this only happens when she is drinking the old alcohol... What can I do, anyone got any good responses, Im really running out of patients, and cause of the love I have for my sibling I tolerate her bulls...! Thankz to those who respond to this discussions in advance...
2 responses
@Ciniful (1589)
• Canada
29 Sep 07
I'm a little confused. I'd like to offer some advice, but first I need some clarification. If it's your siblings mother-in-law, why do you need to concern yourself with her at all? She isn't your family. Simple avoid her and save yourself the trouble of dealing with her. There's no point in hanging around people who irritate us only to complain about it when we have the choice to NOT be around them in the first place. As for your question, ALL of my inlaws, save one. My husband is a great man ... but he's a rarity in his family. His mother is a drunk, ethically hollow person who shifted him off to foster care when he was a kid so she could marry a child molester. Although my husband convinced me to give her a chance many years later, she ran up our phonebill into the thousands, stole money from my purse, called my oldest 2 children a few interesting swear words and then disappeared for years. She resurfaces every now and then to hurt my husband some more. I've since barred her from my home, permenantly. I've told my husband that I will not come between him and his mother, but that she is not welcome in my home or around my children. He can go out to see her if he pleases. He doesn't, agreeing with me that she'll never change and is purely a detriment. I haven't seen her now in 5 years. It's been a very peaceful 5 years, lol. As for the rest of his family, his sisters a moron who left her husband, taking their 4 children, to move across the country and move in with some guy she met on the internet, not even giving the kids' father a chance to say goodbye. And THAT is probably the most polite example I can give. We have nothing to do with her either. His father is a truck driver who hasn't bothered to come see his son in more than 12 years. I've never met him and likely never will .. just another deadbeat. And the rest of his family is pretty much the same. He has ONE family member, out of one big family, that I sincerely like .. his one aunt. We see her often, and thank heavens each time she isn't like the rest of them. In laws can be a pain, but we have to pick and choose our battles. If they are doing something detrimental or harmful, having to put up with them no longer means a thing. We each have the right to restrict access to our lives and our homes of those we consider a physical or emotional danger to ourselves or our families. I would say the racist remarks qualify, as does the drinking, in your case.
@Bobbz21 (155)
• New Zealand
29 Sep 07
Hello there and thanks for the comment.. In my case its been quite difficult for me as I have a close bond with my siblings and ever since he has moved in with the inlaws and plus his girlfriend having a baby its made it more difficult for us to visit him... Now and then I would go over to see my niece and don't mind sitting out in our car just to get a visit as we are not aloud inside...My brother would feel so down, but I would always say its ok... I try not to go over but its hard cos I miss her and now they have a new addition.. I feel for him and then again I get real angry with him, well once again thanks for the comment...
@Ciniful (1589)
• Canada
29 Sep 07
Can you not call ahead and make sure the mother in law isn't around before you go to visit, or can they not meet you somewhere else for a visit? Why MUST you go to that house and be in the company of a woman who isn't related to you? I really do think you're making the matter more difficult than it has to be. You have no obligation to be anywhere near the woman. She's not your family, or your inlaw. She's your siblings family now. You can easily arrange visits that she isn't present for.
@TTucker3 (147)
• United States
29 Sep 07
I understand you dont want your family hurt! I had some nasty mother in law, and even told my husband I didnt like her..froim the first time I talked to her on th ephone the very first weekend I met my husband she decided to talk to me about his ex and how much she loved her...I"M SORRY but you dont do that! We have been getting better, in fact the last time she came to vist for two weeks, we had a great time, all because I decided that this is my house..i dont give two hoots what she has to say about me, and I did what I always did everyday! my question is how com eyour sibling does not stand up for herself??