we should care for the old
By downaalice
@downaalice (209)
China
September 29, 2007 1:22am CST
these days my father in law is at my home because we are too busy.nobody will have time to pick up my daughter from school.so we invite him to my home.he is nearly 80 years old.i found he is very lonely though not alone.my mother in law passed away earlier.at that time we didn't get married.so for the 10 or so yearts ,he have no company at home.we always cannot understand what he said.he always like to tell us something that happened many years ago.sometimes though we really don't want to listen to him,he still goes on telling us with great interest. he is very funny ,whenever he goes he likes to carry a stool with him so that he can sit on it for a rest.he always likes to talk with other old people.it was very cold this morning.he still went out to chat with his old friends.when he came back,he said he felt very cold.why not stay at home?maybe ,he is lonely.so we should care for the old,not only in matter but also in spirit.so each time he tell me something ,i will pretend to be listening to him patiently,though i am not interested in what he says.
3 responses
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
29 Sep 07
Be patient with him, a day u will be in his place.. It's not that he is lonely, is just that he just wanna talk.. He just wanna share his life experiences.. But dun think being old means boring subject, because they tend to have lotsa surprises in wat they say.. Cherish him b4 u regret in future when he's gone ;)
@downaalice (209)
• China
1 Oct 07
yeah you are quite right.we should take good care of the old.thank you for you post ,my friend.
@wasons (302)
• China
1 Oct 07
hi downaalice!you are right,i think we should care for the old,specially for the one whose partner was gone.he/she would feel very lonely stay at home,when he/she meets someone,he/she would like to talk much with others.most of us would be old one day,maybe at that moment,we can catch the feeling actully,so i agree to treat the old more patiently and tendly.
@downaalice (209)
• China
1 Oct 07
yeah ,we should care for the old. they are lonely. we should understand them. some day we will be in his place.we should set a good example to our children,then in return for it,we will also be respected by our children when we are old.i have ever heard a story which goes like that,there was a young man long long ago,he treated his old mother very badly.considering his mother is his burden,he decided to abandon her .so one day he put his mother into a big basket and thew them with the help of his little son.when he was old ,his son threw him in the same way.he felt very sad and asked him the reason why he treated him like this. "after all im your own father, and i brought you up so you are not filial obedience"he said to his son.he accused his son of not filial obedience.but his son said i just do as you did to my grandmother.at the moment the man had nothing to say.
@yxinxin (467)
• China
29 Sep 07
Haha, downaalice! You are a caring and dutiful daughter-in-law. Since you are always busy while your father has nothing to do and wants to talk with you, you can tell him that you are busy and promise to listen to him tell you more when you are free. And do chat with him when you are not too busy.
I am touched with your concideration.
@downaalice (209)
• China
29 Sep 07
hi mryuan ,glad to see your post..thank you for your advice.my father is very good at takling.he always talk with me something about his past.for many stories i have learned many times even i can recite them.but each time he still talked about them with great interest.i always felt it impolite to discourge him.so i just pretend to be listening.haha.
