Why Do People Handle Death So Differently?

@KrauseHome (36448)
United States
September 29, 2007 2:15pm CST
You would think with my Mom dying Tuesday, and then the Funeral yesterday things would be getting better for me. But actually, I would say in some ways, I am feeling more down today than I did yesterday with it being her Funeral. I have actually had a headache that will not quit since then as well also. But it has been interesting seeing the different ways that people in my family have dealt with this. My sister that is 40 who's house we have been at since Tuesday night in Montana, decided her way to deal with death, is by getting drunk. I guess if that works for some, but I am Glad I am a Christian and do not choose that way. I also am Diabetic, etc. so it would not be Good for me to do that as well. I am really wishing I could go hide for about a day or so, and just be alone, or it be just my husband and I and I can regroup like I need too. Well, we are going home tomorrow, so I can then. I just am needing to regroup and get my thoughts in order so life can move on like it needs too. Maybe one day I can look back and know things were for the best. I just Thank all my friends and the support everyone is showing me here while I have had to endure this.
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@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
30 Sep 07
Our grief has a life of it's own and we must deal with it on that basis. There are sentiments and platitudes, that are spoken and while it is meant well as you said you need to find a spot away from all this and go through the grieving process, it is not a simple thing to do, as you are coming to understand, but perhaps you faith will carry you through, if you feel that it is not them go and speak to your pastor and discuss all this with him/her.they usually have dealt with this before and are more than willing to assist you. be alone if that is what you need but please also ask for help if you find that it isn't working for you. Loosing a family member can be devastating and I do extend my sympathy and wish you a safe journey home
• United States
29 Sep 07
We all grieve in different ways. It is hardest for the living to go on. Heal your heart in the way that you feel is best for you. Big huggers to you.