My man hates my hair.... Do I change it?
By vicki2876
@vicki2876 (5636)
Canada
September 29, 2007 6:21pm CST
I dyed my hair which was supposed to be dark brown but ended up black. No I am not changing my pic, HEHE and my man said he likes me as a blond or light brown more. Now I am not happy with the black but now I feel like if I change it back he will think I did it for him. He isn't going to leave me over it or anything carzy, we have been together over 11 years, but I can't give him that satisfaction, can I? LOL
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34 responses
@Cheerful_Beauty (89)
• Australia
30 Sep 07
Hi Vicki, I think you should never change yourself for anybody else. The most important thing is that when you look yourself into the mirror, you like what you see. Do not need to worry about what other people will see in you.
@3lilangels (4639)
• United States
30 Sep 07
well its your hair and if you like it black then keep it but if you dont like it then color it back to blonde.for you not for your husband.he loves you for you and not the color of your hair so it really shouldnt matter what color your hair is,even if it was blue,its just our hair and we have to live with it,so if your not happy with it then change it.if you need advice about coloring it back to blonde,i will be glad to asist you.i have been a hairdresser for over 15 years.take care.pattie
@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
30 Sep 07
Thanks Pattie! I have been washing but not with pert. I will check that out and let you know!
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@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
30 Sep 07
Hey pattie you do have excellent hair! Too bad you are far away I would get you to do it nice! I do have a question though. How long should I wait to dye it again. i don't want to overkill it or something. And should I use a weekly treatment or something. Getting rid of black is pretty harsh right?
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@3lilangels (4639)
• United States
30 Sep 07
alright my friend,first step is to buy some pert plus shampoo and wash your head like 6 times and see how light your hair will lighten up.because this shampoo will strip out some of the color very quickly and it does work well.you might be able to wash it with this stuff for a few days and you might like the color it will end up to be without even coloring your hair again.because the blonde will bleed thrugh this dark color.so i would do this for a few days and at least shampoo about 6 or 8 times and see from there.if it lightens up to a decent color then you dont have to color again.but if you want to color it after you lightened it up from the shampoo,then you can continue doing the shampoo and then once the black is no longer black then you can add a blonde color.but do the shampoo process first and let me know what it does from there.then i will take you to the next step.just use a regualr conditioner for color treated hair.pattie
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@bronie123 (4587)
• United States
18 Oct 07
lol i do all kinds of thing with my hair so my fiance knows i dont care i will try anything :)
it will fade out after a few weeks but hey if you dont like ot change it add a few blonde peices to it that would look cute (
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@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
18 Oct 07
Thanks bronie, yeah after all these years and colors he is used to me trying anything with the hair. I can have it half way down my back and the next day gone to a "boy cut". Be any color, no matter. Thanks
@lucky_witch (2707)
• Philippines
18 Oct 07
WEll, I believe that he does not hate it, its just that she like it more when you still have your blond hair. It is up to you my friend, because I can say that with your words, he is not forcing you too. If you would be more happy, making him happy rather than your black hair then go ahead change it back. :)
@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
18 Oct 07
I have it a bit lighter now, not black and I am happy with it. Thanks
@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
19 Oct 07
Thank you very much *blush* LOL
He must have because I don't complain that he looks like he just crawled out of the woods. Which he does. LOL
@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
30 Sep 07
LOL next equation
hate the hair, love the man = changing the hair (someday soon) HEHE
@stilpeanu (1)
• Romania
30 Sep 07
if you want to change your hair, change it anything you change at your look is not important becose you will be the same person
@sreejithsreenivas (10200)
• India
6 Oct 07
I think there is no need to worry much about your hair and there is nothing wrong with your hair.If you want to change the style,you can change it.
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@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
6 Oct 07
Thanks, I actually got the black out last night and I am happy with it. It is still not blond but I like this. LOL
@nickventere (1420)
• Zambia
1 Oct 07
Maybe he just doesn't like the hairstyle, or the colour. However, tell him that he has to love you the way you are, as the old line goes! he he he
You are cute, and still will be cute even with that yellow hair!
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
30 Sep 07
You have to ask yourself the question, are you really truly satisfied with your hair being black? You also have to decide to change it back, going back gradually and for your own reason. Now if you find out that you have to buy a whole set of new makeup and perhaps clothes, get yourself new colored contact lenses, then perhaps black was not the color for you.
Doing this will let your guy think that you are doing it for yourself, that you discovered that black was not a becoming color for you. What is your real true hair color? Maybe you disliked it because you wore the wrong color type of clothes and used the wrong makeup. So once you find out what looks best on you, you will look stunning in what nature gave you.
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@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
1 Oct 07
Nature gave me grey at 28. HEHE Maybe I gotta put on different clothes and stuff to like it more. Thanks!
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
30 Sep 07
If he prefers your natural hair color then I think that's exactly what you should have. No point in having fake hair that your man doesn't like.
And what's wrong with doing it for him? You love him don't you?
A problem would be if your man doesn't like your natual hair. You're lucky he likes you just the way you are naturally.
@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
30 Sep 07
He has said why not just natural but my natural hair is grey. I am only 31 so he can forget that. LOL Thanks!
@DesigningLife (903)
• United States
2 Oct 07
I'm sorry to hear you had a bad hair coloring experience. HA, I still do the eeny, meeny miney mo thing just for gray coverage.
Anyway...it sounds like your guy was just giving his honest opinion (something rare as men seem to say what they think women "want" to hear). I don't think it is about winning or losing anything and it won't hurt to say, "you know, I don't like it this dark either, I was afraid you'd say you liked it this way and then I would have felt bad about lightening it some". And then go for the shade you wanted to achieve in the beginning.
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@fab315 (1231)
• Philippines
30 Sep 07
Hello!
It doesn't really matter if what's the colour of your hair, what's important is you feel happy about it. If you think you don't like the black colour anymore then change it for yourself and not for your husband. But you know man, they like to think that you do it for them. Make him wait for a little while then change it..LOL! Don't worry, it's how you carry yourself that's makes you pretty and not your hair colour. *smile* Take care.
ciao! c",)
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@twilight_75 (479)
•
30 Sep 07
Change it back if you don't like it. Just make sure he knows nothing to do with hin lol Hope it was a wash in wash out one though, otherwise changing it back could be tricky
@pondlife (467)
•
30 Sep 07
Well Vicki, I think that you should look how you want to look. Your happiness is just as important as his! I think you should experiment with your appearance - it's healthy to change and update yourself.
And if you've been together for that amount of time I'm sure he'll relish the chance at being with a lady that looks a little different and one that wants to look good!
I reckon he's a very lucky guy :)
xxx
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@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
30 Sep 07
thanks pondlife! Its true, I told him that me doing things like this is one of the things he fell for. He giggles and agrees. :)
@NewHeart (528)
• Canada
30 Sep 07
why not you love him don't you... know were not friends and after i post this probably never will be lol. but to put it in a nutshell for you, you're skin is too light to go with a black hair sorry if the truth hurts as they say. you might get away with being a red head with your colour but think i would agree with your hubby and say you should go with lighter colour such as a light brown or mousey brown would even say you could pull off a being a dirty blonde and don't mean it as it sounds. stay with colours that suit your skin tones. hate me if you must thats ok just keep your man happy and everything else will fall into place and work out...
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@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
30 Sep 07
Thank you for your honesty! I am not offended at all. My daughter is a red head and there are many in my family, Maybe I might do something like that! LOL
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
30 Sep 07
LOL no you shouldnt give him the satisfaction...never ever do that ;-) Just kidding....If you dont like the black BUT still want to go dark brown then GO DARK BROWN...Its your head! and your hair...My husband hates when I do different things to my hair (sometimes he hates it) and of course i do crazy things mind you but still..if he doesnt like it, he doesnt have to look LOL thats my attitude at least...
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@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
30 Sep 07
LOL True he doesn't have to look! I remind him it is the little crazy things I do is what he fell in love with in the first place. He smiles and says true! LOL
@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
30 Sep 07
That's too funny! I would say if you don't like it - I mean you didn't want it that way to start with, right? - then just say "Ya know, I don't really like it either" and change it back. Of course I have never dyed my hair because I don't want to damage it, so you might want to wait a while for it to get stronger before putting more chemicals in it. Then he'll probably like it and when you go back to brown he'll comment again :)
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@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
30 Sep 07
I will probably change it but yes I do want to wait a bit cause I am worried about damaging it. Thanks
@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
30 Sep 07
Hi Vicki2876 - LOL, your reaction is funny ;) or I find it funny since I wouldn't mind to give him the pleasure to look at me the ways he prefers to see me. So, change it if you tink he is right ;), and if you don't than stay back haired for awhile :)
TheFortunes
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@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
30 Sep 07
I know he is right cause I don't even like it HEHE. I think I am gonna have to give the bugger an ego boost HEHE All in fun!
@changqingshuHappy (28)
• China
30 Sep 07
Any kind of coular you dyed your hair is your privary life. Even you married,don't give up that. cause you love each other so you married. Also there is love between your spouse you shoud respect the personal life and preference of each other. right?
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@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
30 Sep 07
He still loves me for sure and accepts me either way. Thanks for posting!
