Chasing for 3 years - Couple for 3 months - Breakup and Alone for 3 months
By aowaow
@aowaow (1516)
Indonesia
October 1, 2007 7:11am CST
My best friend had chasing a girl for 3 years. This girl is very pretty, and had never been in any love relationships before, and so was my friend, my friend's personality is just so-so and he runs his own store.
Many handsome and riches guys had been trying to attract her and make her as girlfriend, but no one succeeded. With our help from friends, my friend is the lucky guy who got her 3 months ago after a long run chase, and he was proud of it. They committed their love relationship 6 months ago. The first month, he was the happiest ever, always smile when I met him with or w/o this girl. I was busy on those months, so I never get a fresh news from them anymore. 3 months ago, he came to my house with a bitter face. He said he had his g/f broken-up. That was shocked to me. Then I tried to talk to him about the girl's reason. Nope, all reason from the girl is too typical to me (this I heard from my friend). Then I tried to contact the girl's best friend (the one who was helping make them couple) trying to get an information from the source, girl-with-girl talk is better. I got it, it's the same with my friend's explanation. It was my busiest time at this round, so I told other friends to talk to him. Then 1 month after he had his g/f broken, the girl's friend told me, she already committed with somebody else, and they looked so tender-hearted couple on everywhere. She said, their tender-hearted is never seen as the same as with my friend's. The worst, this news reached to his ears.
Now, he everyday lives just like no mood, never smile, and always locked him inside his home. I and other friends tried to ask him out for friend's talk or going for a walk. But he softly rejected our offerings, with several reason, tired, no mood, etc. Tried to visit him, he talked, but not much, he is closing his heart to anyone else, including his relatives. It's been 3 months until now and he is still same like this, we are worried about him.
Do you have any suggestion, me and our friends had tried to talk to his parents and relatives, but no effect. Any help is very appreciated. Thank you so much.
1 response
@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
2 Oct 07
so your friend got the girl as his girlfriends from your help? maybe the girl just wanted to make you guys happy. i mean maybe she didint really like the guy but becasue you and her friends are trying to make them as a couple, thats the reason the girl give in.
this is really painful for your guy friend for he really like the girl for 3 years now. and all he really like is her to be his Gf, but not for long. maybe because they are not really compatible. 3 months of mourning is really to much and i think you really need to talk to him before he drives himself into nuts.
live, love get hurt is part of life we should accept it and live with it. it is not yet the end of the world.
i will pray for your friend, i think he needs prayer too.
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@aowaow (1516)
• Indonesia
2 Oct 07
Yes, thanks for replying roniroxas.
He is back last night by visiting us. Thank God.
I had figured out that part too, of the girl is just didn't want to hurt my friend's feeling. In fact, the girl told her friend, that she already wanted to break him up one month after they committed as lover, but she didn't know how to do it. Yes, we are just afraid, he will go short-minded and then scold us for the introductory, since he didn't want to open to us.
But good news is, the girl's friend told us 3 days ago, that he made contact several times with girl's friend, and heard all his heart word, and then she told to him including why the girl is falling in love with him. You can't believe it, it's her mother suggestion at first place to make a move with my friend. Crap, if at first we knew this motive, we wouldn't do this stuff.
Last night we all friends try to have talk with him as a man-to-man talk. He asked for apologies to us, he said he just need time to cool-down his love emotion by himself and try to forgot her, and get all clear before he wanted to say anything out. I think it's acceptable since at first time he must be thinking of the girl's typical reason.
Some of my friend tried to advice him to not to the locking self, but I hurry cut their crap and saying, eventually he is back now, that's the important one. I know how sharp our advices sometimes in friend-to-friend talk, but he is too fragile now to listen to any advice right now.
Hope he will get better soon.
@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
2 Oct 07
Thank God he is okay.
let him heal on the best way he knows. as they say time heals all wounds but not sure when but eventually it will heal.
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