how to deal with roommates

@xiaoxu (31)
China
October 2, 2007 3:31am CST
I found it difficult to deal with one of my roommates.she never tell you what you do is wrong,just keep it in heart,and then one day burst out.just some misunderstanding and individual differences.she is too proud of herself and only regard what she thinks is right.she has many shortcomings,but she can only see others.I know I should torlerant and live in harmony with her.but up to now I havenot spoken to her for one term.what should I do?
1 response
@nbtalle (40)
• Singapore
3 Oct 07
When I was in college, I shared a room with seven others. There we were, all fresh college students, with diffirent attitudes. I have learned that not everybody will like me even though how much I try; and vice versa. Each of us has diffirent attitures, outlooks in life, and principles. Once in a while, there will be disagreements. So how did I deal with this? I learned not to judge a person by what I see. I cannot read what's in their minds. I just try to put myself in their shoes, to try to understand them. If I still cannot understand the person, and I feel frustrated by the attitude, I pray for them. And, you know, the more you pray for a person, the more you care.
@xiaoxu (31)
• China
4 Oct 07
you are right!I just not torlerant enough I think.If I can pray for a person I don't agree,things may change.I put myself in their shoes,but still don't understand why she did it in such a way that most of us cannot accept.Maybe I should learn from you.god bless you!