how to be a girl

@agnescav (566)
United States
October 2, 2007 7:03am CST
My boss is getting married. I don't want to go to his wedding. I don't want to be invited to his wedding. Then, even though he wouldn't expect one, I would have to get him a gift. The mechanic asked me if I got my invitation which I hadn't. He hadn't either. He was upset because he thought he wasn't invited and two other people were. That was a week and a half ago. Yesterday he asked me if I got my invitation, which I hadn't. He had his. I am hoping mine is lost in the mail because I am mad as heck that I haven't been invited to this wedding that I don't want to go to.
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@gwendovere (1279)
• United States
2 Oct 07
I wouldn't worry too much about it. Heck, you don't want to go anyway. It would be *nice* to be invited, but I would just try not to let it get to me too much if I were in that situation.
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@agnescav (566)
• United States
2 Oct 07
That's the problem. I am so frustrated with myself for being upset about this.
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@meholl (510)
• United States
12 Oct 07
Well look at it this way. Your co-worker will be stuck spending time with the boss (boring) at a stuffy wedding. Your co-worker will be spending extra bucks on a present. The co-worker may have made mention to the boss that s/he hasn't recieved an invitation, which may have made the boss realize the co-worker wanted to go. You didn't want to go in the first place, and I am sure you can find something better to do with your time than spend it at your bosses wedding. You don't have to spend money on a gift, but I bet a nice card would hit the spot and maybe even cause the boss some pangs of guilt for not giving the invite. I know that I would be a bit tweaked if my co-worker got an invite and not me, but I wouldn't let that ruin my day. Make plans for that day to do something that would be a lot more fun than going to a wedding.
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@meholl (510)
• United States
15 Oct 07
Well, I hope everything works out for the best for you, but before you quit your job, you should ensure that you have another one lined up. Best of luck. Do you want to share the reason you weren't invited
@agnescav (566)
• United States
16 Oct 07
There was a lot of money missing from work and, naturally, suspicion fell on me. I am the only one with access to the money. That does not bother me. So I'm sure my boss figured I would be caught and fired by now. He bought the security disks from my store and told people who work there he was going to watch them until he figured out how i was doing it. There is an office full of people who could watch those tapes. He should not have brought it to employees at my own level. I was not stealing the money. Customers have a tool that will open the coin boxes. I am quitting because my boss will not even talk to me about suspecting me. Actually, he offered me a promotion since then. But it is based on my not doing my other job in the winter. And I do not trust him anymore. I work independently but he was at my store for an hour and a half yesterday. He asked me if I wanted a sandwich from next door. He won't bring up what he did and I cert ainly am not going to! I
@agnescav (566)
• United States
15 Oct 07
I am scheduled to work that day anyway but so are some of the people who were invited. I know now why I wasn't invited and I will be quitting my job with a splash, and no notice on the busiest day of the year!
@melody1011 (1663)
• India
13 Oct 07
If you dont want to be invited and have not yet been invited why are you wasting time wondering where your invitation is?? If someone asks, just be evasive or tell them outright ur not interested in going for that wedding
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@AmbiePam (84668)
• United States
2 Oct 07
Oh, that makes me so sad to think that he didn't have an invitation at first. I'm glad he got one. And I don't blame you for being upset, even though technically it doesn't make sense to be mad. But I think you fit in with a lot of people. Even if a person has no intention of going, it's nice to be remembered in the first place.
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@agnescav (566)
• United States
2 Oct 07
That's why I think it's a girl thing. It makes no sense at all!
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@AmbiePam (84668)
• United States
3 Oct 07
Guys may say they never do that, but I would bet money almost all of them would feel the same way.
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@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
18 Oct 07
I understand that you feel left out, even if you don't want to attend the wedding. It hurts to feel as though you aren't wanted. I have been in that situation. There was a party here at the school for one of the coaches that was getting married. She and I didn't get along and I quite frankly just didn't like her, and didn't want to pretend that I did. But, the fact that she deliberately snubbed me when she sent out the shower invitation still hurt. I was the only employee at the school that wasn't invited.
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• China
11 Oct 07
i know it is very bad for you. maybe your boss is too busy to remember everyone in his company, so please take it easy and give your congraduations to him.
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• China
11 Oct 07
actually, if we want a happier life, we have to be tolerant sometimes