Is love really sweeter the second time around?

@rhed07 (23)
Philippines
October 2, 2007 10:17am CST
I have been separated for 3 years to a man I've been married for 9 years. It was painful and left me with a lot of scars but circumstances seems to be bringing us together again. I'm 27 and at the top of my game; a sucessful manager, a mother to 2 great kids and looking younger and prettier as ever...lol! I mean, I would say I've changed since that time and I know that anyone can still change (if they really mean it) but I guess at some point I'm still traumatized with my experience before that left me hesitant to allow him back into my life. However, seeing how my children's faces light up when they see their dad pinches my heart every time..... A part of me wants things to stay as is and go our separate ways but part of me wants to see my kids happy. Is love really sweeter the second time around? Should I give it one more shot? Advice, please!!!!
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@ann168 (111)
• United States
22 Oct 07
when you find our soul mate .
@rhed07 (23)
• Philippines
23 Oct 07
Is there such a thing? Do you believe in that?
@ann168 (111)
• United States
23 Oct 07
Yes I do. ANd I did. I am with him now.
@rhed07 (23)
• Philippines
24 Oct 07
That's great! I'm curious how you met him though. Was there a lot of challenges in your relationship but you still ended up with him? Please do share.....
• United States
23 Oct 07
Well, I'll tell you my story. When I was 19 I met someone who I thought was the most wonderful, intelligent, attractive guy I'd ever seen. I got pregnant the day we met. Neither of us were ready for a relationship, and while I was pregnant, he ended up moving away to go to college and I didn't see him for nine years. I raised our son, dated other people, finished college and basically moved on. Still, a little over a year ago he came back into my life. Now we live together and plan to get married. I don't think we were ready the first time. It's great now though. He's a wonderful father and very sorry for all the time he missed with our son, but we don't look back. Good luck with your situation! It could work!
@rhed07 (23)
• Philippines
24 Oct 07
That's somehow similar to my situation; I only met him a couple of years younger when you did yours. It's nice to hear people having happy endings. I guess we do meet the right people in our lives but at the wrong time and it will not work if both of you aren't ready to make that commitment. Let's see how mine would go but thanks for sharing that with me.
@ann168 (111)
• United States
22 Oct 07
You can give him a second chance but also watch closely to your heart. Are you still in love with him?
@rhed07 (23)
• Philippines
23 Oct 07
At some point he will always be part of my life but I have also experienced being able to move on....
@noriko (1254)
12 Oct 07
no, well for me it is not. once a relationship has ended and thats it. dont look back. if you one to to try it again analyze your feelings, dont do it for your kids do it because you like to do it.