How clean is clean? ... My roommates do not think the same...

Hi terrych, Every person has their own definition of clean I'm sure. If I were you I would try to sit down with them and tell them how you are feeling. You should also explain what your definition of clean is so they understand, and hopefully you can come to a reasonable compromise! Your Friend, PurpleTeddyBear

Hi Terrych. Well, when you encounter this kind of situation, maybe you should really talk to them about that, seriously. You shouldn't be the only one who working for the cleanliness, especially that guy, can't he try to be gentlemen a little bit (Alright, this is not the main point)? Well, worst case, maybe you should consider of moving out or maybe try to change your roommates? Maybe you try to talk to them, if really can't work then just don't force yourself to stay with them. We are born to have a happy life, don't let them spoil your mood anyway. So, you are new in the town? Wish you all the best and hopefully you can adapt to the environment soon. Take care

Yes roomates wont support a lot in cleaning the rooms..even in India there was article regarding this topic the problem is in India too...So Please keep the rooms clean and live a peaceful life..By cleaning your room daily and be fit

You know something can be dirty to you and for somebody it can be clean.It is really different.I would probably talk to your roomates about some rules, how to work better in your apartman together.Or if this doesn't help, you have to find probably new apartmen, but I would try at first talk to them and let them know how you see it with their cleaning.MAybe they would like to change, but didn't know it could disturb you.

Hi Terry, I think you and your roomates should establish rules for common areas, such as the kitchen and bathroom and of course the living room. Its not going to be easy, but you all have to work together. One person cant be responsible for 3 and their messes. Your in a catch 22 here, you cant afford to live on your own, and Im quite sure you will have trouble finding roomates that have the same idea of clean as you do. If you cant establish a cleaning routine between you and your two roomates, you will either have to just let it go and clean up after yourself only or take on cleaning up after all of you, and when this lease is up, move out on your own. Check with the school your attending and ask about housing assistance. I was a student once, and I had to work as well as go to school, I worked full time and didnt have roomates, for this reason alone. Working full time and going to school will be stressful, but I dont think as stressful as your current situation. You shouldnt have to live with a mess that you didnt create and have roomates that dont want to clean up, thats not healhty leaving dishes for days at a time like that, or cleaning without soap....lol thats not really cleaning. Good luck too you! I wish you the best. Bay xx

Talking about roomate,i am also troubled with her. because you konw we share a bathroom and I put all my shower cream shampoo etc in the bathroom. but i found that my roomate use mine, she has her own things,but she like using mine. i dont know why, would you mind it?

indeed, it is difficult to live with other people. even siblings have different ideas of what is clean. in the end, those who can't stand the mess end up cleaning up for everyone. if it doesn't bother you, then it's fine. but if it does, you can talk it out with them, and then maybe you can assign tasks so that you could all take turns doing them. just ask for their cooperation. if they don't, you can really do much except for when you can already afford your own place. wishing you all the best. i know how exasperating this could be. i am now living with my husband and i am usually cleaning up after him. but since he is my husband, i can't do anything much but remind him. otherwise, i just pick up after him and keep my mouth shut. i just remember that i love this man and i married him so i am living with it. lol :-) bless you!

Well it sounds to me like you need to establish some house rules. If they dont go along with them, they are free to move elsewhere. When you get new roomies, you can explain the house rules before they move in and hopefully avoid future problems.

What is clean for one, might be dirty to another, and vice versa. So, what can you do? One, you can move to another flat. Two, you can take the responsibility of cleaning up, so that you won't feel that it's unfair that you're the only one cleaning. Three, the three of you can talk about sharing in the cleaning. Four, pray to God. What I did when I was in the same situation as you, I did number two, and number four at the same time. Prayers really work. But be specific with your prayers. However, just remember that God can answer your prayer with a Yes, a No, or a Wait. :)

well my friend,i would definatly have a long talk with them and set some rules with them.because clean to them might not mean clean to you.everyone has their opinion of clean,i hate messes and even with my kids my house gets so messy and i just want to scream but when they go for their naps i clean it up and then again when they go to bed.it needs to sink into their heads what clean means.it just might be their way of living growing up,but they need to change that way of thinking.hope all is well hon.take care.pattie

please tell them that "cleanliness i next to the god so keep our room clean " remind them whenever the place is dirtied by them it may be dishes or soap or extra. as you are also one of their roomates you have eonugh eligibility to order them and mind you also follow the cleanliness

hi... our perspective of things are different from another person... what is black to me could be white to you or vice versa. this includes cleanliness.. cleanliness for me is affected by training when we are smaller. if our parents are particular in cleaning, we are likely to do so. for me, i could say is, try to talk to them, in a very non-defensive way and simply make them understand your point-of-view and you try to get around your busy schedules and set ground rules...make them understand that these will benefit you all, in prevention of diseases (unwashed dishes). i know picking up after someone could be pretty difficult.. hope this helps. God bless.