rush wedding plans

@cefaz_21 (2597)
Philippines
October 3, 2007 11:26pm CST
My closest cousin is getting married on the 28th of this month..and they just arrived at thier decision to get married just last week..can you belive it? we only have one month to prepare..so we're really rushing on things,looking for caterers,possible venues,dresses and all..:) She had asked my help because she kne of my experience in wedding planning but my oh my!!! 30 days of preparation?? tsk..tsk..tsk.. But I'm doing my best, right now I was able to finish the invitation lay out..and just given her a long list of to do's for the next few days.. I just hope we can pull this through... I prepared for my wedding for 9 months..and I thought then I'm so late in preparation.. To my married friends- How long was your wedding preparations? one year? 6 months? Can you guys give us tips to make this wedding as beautiful as those who prepared earlier.. And to those who are yet to be married-how long do you plan to prepare? thanks thanks!
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16 responses
• United States
4 Oct 07
First of all - the biggest mistake everyone who is not the bride or groom make is not remembering that the big day is NOT about them. When I got married, a lot of people complained that it wasn't on a convenient weekend for them, or this or that and you know what...there are always going to be people no matter when you have it that can't come even if its planned 5 years in advance, etc - it all doesn't matter. Its about the joining of two people and all the little inconveniences are going to just fade away. I recommend in your mind approaching this with the thinking of "can i pull a party off in less than 30 days?" because thinking about pulling off a wedding just makes one crazy - when really aside from the ceremony - all the planning is similar. THey just mark things up 20 times because its "bridal." All you really need are the officiant, the couple, the rings, the location to say "i do" and everything else is easy after that. Get a dress from a consignment shop, buy "in season" flowers and don't tell the florist its for a wedding. it will be cheaper. THink of places beyond the traditional "banquet hall."
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@jcyap888 (721)
• Philippines
4 Oct 07
i do my wedding only for 3 weeks, day one i go to church advice the priest for what i'm going to do, second is i check for my invitation, on how many person are i'm going to invite, check for restaurant price by phone, then clothes to wear by groom,brides brides maid etc. i dont believe i done it in a few weeks.
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• United States
4 Oct 07
oh weddings.. how wonderful..
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• Philippines
4 Oct 07
well i still have 6 months to prepare for my wedding..my bf and i had decided we wanna get married but i think we'll do it civil first..he's living in different country and i just have to come with him and remarry on church by the time i get to be with him there..
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@peanutjar (5211)
• Canada
4 Oct 07
My boyfriends niece told us 1 month and a half ago when she came to give us the inventation,lol.I plan on to be prepared for the rest of my life!LOL.Im stuck now with a boyfrined who has it made"im already living here and we have a daughter together"thing.Ive finally came to the point that i will probably never get married and fulfill my dream of a wedding,sigh.Oh well,we are so called married as you would say,we are just missing the paper to sign.I have an engagement ring that he bought for me 5 years ago and we decided to call it a normal ring,lol,because he never proposed.Id like to kick him in the butt,beleive me!!:{I want to get married!!!SO BAD!What can i do??????
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@joshboz (1214)
• Australia
5 Oct 07
congratulations to your cousin. if oyur asking me my friend i will only need one month for the whole preapration of everything but in this one month i must work the preparation everyday. the one month does not include the day of proposal .maybe 1-2 weeks before that one month preparation. that's me.joshboz
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
5 Oct 07
A wedding doesn't have to be a big fancy thing. It can be a nice intimate setting with a few close friends and relatives. I personally just went to the courthouse and did it. I didn't bother with the wedding or the reception, we just had a small to do with family... just too much money spent on one day that could be better spent on the honeymoon or paying bills. I know everyone wants that one magical day, so with such short notice I would really think to limit the attendance, just make it a small gathering and that will ease the need for a big catering event. I went to Publix to get my cake and they do nice cakes and don't need too much time on notice to get one made. Wal-Mart also makes nice cakes as well. I would go to bridal warehouses that have many of the same gowns for bridesmaids and most times they have staff onsite that can get the alterations done quickly. That's all I can think of right now. Hope this helps!
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@Zelmarq (11638)
• Cebu City, Philippines
5 Oct 07
AM I included here? I am still not married but if I plan to get married I plan to have a longer time for the preparations. I knwo its not going be easy and it takse so much time to prepare for a two hours ceremony. Its nice to make earlier preparations to have the best bookings in hotels and other thing to consider like the photo and video coverage and many others. Best wishes to your cousin.
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@wiccania (3360)
• United States
5 Oct 07
My wedding was planned in about 4 weeks. The wedding and reception were held in the same place. We had a DJ and open bar. The food was really casual, a buffet of meat/cheese trays, veggie trays, rolls and condiments for sandwiches, meatballs, taco salad, etc. Most of it made by family members. The centerpieces were ivy bowls with purple rocks and beta fish in them, and the mayor of the town we were getting married in performed the ceremony. A friend of my ex mother in law did the photos. In the end it cost about $1000.
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• Canada
5 Oct 07
I wish them all the best. Through the years I have found that the most enjoyable ones are the ones that were quickly put together. Keep it simple and focus on each other. Beautiful!
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@Debs_place (10524)
• United States
4 Oct 07
Who says that a wedding has to be a big fancy affair? I just got married. There were 8 of us. I made one phone call, we had a wonderful evening. I would not change a thing, except maybe the weather-- 5 degrees cooler would have been nice.
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@Debs_place (10524)
• United States
4 Oct 07
Who says that a wedding has to be a big fancy affair? I just got married. There were 8 of us. I made one phone call, we had a wonderful evening. I would not change a thing, except maybe the weather-- 5 degrees cooler would have been nice.
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@Debs_place (10524)
• United States
4 Oct 07
Who says that a wedding has to be a big fancy affair? I just got married. There were 8 of us. I made one phone call, we had a wonderful evening. I would not change a thing, except maybe the weather-- 5 degrees cooler would have been nice.
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@blackbriar (9080)
• United States
11 Oct 07
You sure don't want my input in this department cause we went to the courthouse and got married. Only plan was when to do it. After that it was simple and quick.
@svelte (132)
• Philippines
8 Oct 07
hi! are staying here in the philippines? where exactly will the wedding be held? I'm offering chocolate fountain service. This might help if your interested. =)
@subathra (3519)
• India
5 Oct 07
Its quite difficult to plan out everything for a wedding in 1 months..sorry its only 23 days more..so need to be very quick in all your actions for the wedding ceremony..inviting people is one big job as we need to go personally and invite some close people as i have faced it during my elder brothers wedding in jan 2007..it took us days to confirm the wedding card and inviting family and friends..then food arrangements, marriage hall, flower decoration , bridal make up and lots.. But its not impossible to do and hence plan a list of whatever things that needs first priority and do accordingly..i hope i can plan my wedding if i have 1-2 motnhs time..
@magilives (261)
• Australia
5 Oct 07
Positive Attitude! You can do this. You just need to learn to make quick decisions instead of taking a month to decide on flowers, cake etc do it now. I had 3 months to prepare my wedding but I also had a lot of people telling me what I should have and most of the ideas were good so I went with it. It doesn't have to be perfect for others just as long at the bride and groom are happy.