When you CANNOT Choose between 2 options - how would you solve it?

Hello Thefortunes, I cannot help but wonder if the Dad doesn't have some reason to believe that the Mom would spend the money other than wisely. In order to solve this conundrum, I would consider some other relevant facts. For example, I would find it helpful to consider the following: - How long were the couple married? - Did the Mother have any part in the ability of the Dad to acquire this income? - Has the Dad given the child any reason to believe that he would wish to keep the Mom from benefitting from this opportunity? Or is the child assuming that the Dad would keep the money to himself? In other words, has communication already occurred about this matter? - Is the couple just "separated", or are they legally divorced? If they're only separated, then legally the Mom is entitled to benefit from the income. Without knowing any other details, and presuming that the Dad has given reason to believe that he would keep the money from the Mom, here is what I would do: I would sit down with Dad, and tell him that since I (the child) am instrumental in his acquiring the money, that I would like him to consider splitting the booty, in a way that he feels is fair. I would tell the Dad straight up that what I will do with the money is to give Mom a specified amount, so that she can do something nice for herself. And, that the balance will be used to help 'the family', including Mom, in the regular costs associated with life. I'd let him know that I would put the money in an interest earning account, to be used for any unexpected emergencies, or shortfalls. I suspect that any Father would be enormously proud of a child who demonstrated such maturity, fair-mindedness, and commitment to the family, in the manner that I've described. The child is not giving the Dad an ultimatum, rather the child is gently reminding the Dad about fairness, generosity, fiscal responsibility, and the importance of family. If the Dad says "No", then I would still go through with helping him to acquire the money. Once the money is in hand, I would again ask him to 'do the right thing'. If he still says "No", then the child will know deep down in his/her heart, that he/she is a better person than the father. A small consolation for sure. I'm pretty confident that the non-hostile, reasonable discussion that child opens up with the Dad will make a very deep impression on the Dad, and will haunt him. Hopefully, helping him to 'do the right thing' in the long-run. If this scenario is your own personal conundrum, then I wish you the very best possible outcome -- for all involved.

First of all, in general, if I think I am really undecided about something, then I toss a coin. (Heads one decision, tails the other) That way I find out in a hurry if I am really undecided! Usually I find that trouble making a decision involves not really wanting to deal with the consequences of a decision! In the example you posed: You don't make it clear if Dad would ever get the money without the help of the offspring. In any case--it's still Dad's money. I would explain my feelings and ask Dad to give Mum her due. If he doesn't, there isn't much I can do. I can get mad and stay mad at him, but that may or may not make any difference to him. On the other hand, if I stew over it, it hurts me! We can ask, hope and pray that others do what we think is right and fair, but the bottom line is, we have no control over their behavior and need to understand that up front.

close my eyes and pick one!

hmm, there's a hard one... i thinkm that it would depend on how much they both need the money, and how much it is. i would go towards the first one, although its kinda lose-lose, i think.