Do you think living together before getting married lessen chances of divorce?

No lol, I lived with my husband for a year and half before i got married to him, Once I did everything changed... I mean he was different he used to cook lol pick up his things and keep things tidy... NOW I have to fight with him to do it.. Even after getting married... I have many years to train him back to where he was once and I don't believe I will ever get that same guy back you know the one that was good at doing his own things and me not having to worry about the messes he'd leave.. today that's a different story all in one.. lol With the cheating part No I've never had any problems with that, Cheating on your husband and wife just means something is missing and they BOTH need to find that together to make there marriage last!! Cummication is the number ONE key in a marriage! If you don't have that you don't have anything... Just my oppion!

I don't know, because people always say even if that happens, people still change after marriage. My brother and his fiance have been living together for like four years now and they're still not married, but they've been engaged the entire time, they just can't afford to do a wedding yet. I guess it depends on the people.

I believe that it should and it would, if people were so obsessed with preconceived notions about what marriage is "supposed" to be. If a couple lives together for 2+ years and then decided to get married, nothing in their lives should change. They've been living together, they know what works for them to be together, but then marriage comes into play and people freak out. They start to feel trapped, attached, chained. And that is what causes arguments, infidelity and divorce.

If you live together for two years before getting married... it does teach you one thing only... you know what sort of a person you are marrying. The biggest problem with marriage is that people wants everything to remain the same as it was the day they met. - people change physically when they don't take care of their body. - people change mentally as they get older... and their values change. The biggest sin in marriage is to take each other for granted because you are married.

i think living in with your boyfriend or girlfriend is a smart way to deal with the differences...this way you'll find out if you can tolerate a person bad habits and vice versa...you become more intimate on the relationship and closer to one another...this way you will know if youre meant to be or not.

Dear MarieJ23 I do not think that the together living will lessen the chance to divorce aftr. it depends on you . i know lots of couples who live together without merriage and they are happy and even do not want to get merried. but if you want to be merried with the person living with you more than 3-5 years you can get merried because i thinkn it will not change anything in your lifes.

i think its depends. in ideal way you can say yes. as in living together you can get the idea of marryimg that person and how the life can be.but still after marriage differences can crop in.

I don't think living together makes a difference in the outcome one way or another. My husband and I lived together for about 2 years before we got married but even now, 7 years after marriage, we find we both continue to change and have differences that come up now and again.

I believe living together before getting married lessens chances of divorce. Because: 1) Living together just like acting couples who share everything; house chores and finance etc together. This will allow them to learn and realize what the married life will be and prepare the couple to share and communicate better. 2) Living together also can reveal the shortcomings or bad habits to each other so that it will be a test for both parties to re-consider they can be together in the rest of life or not. If they cannot put up with each other, it is easy to separate instead of going through a divorce. Obviously, this is not hundred per cent applies to every couples. Some couples fell in love in the first sight, married and happily together for the rest of their life.

I think getting used to living with each other is very hard. That took years for my ex and I to get used to living together. I think what made it so hard was that my ex refused to do anything. He treated me like a slave. When he was growing up a teen in his step mothers house she used to beat him if he didnt do the housework correctly etc. So then when he moved in to my house he refused to do anything that reminded him of what he had to do there. So literally he would take his clothes off and leave them all through the house on the floor. He wouldnt even put them in one pile or in the hamper. Stuff like that made it impossible for us to get along. I had two kids and was having to take care of him like that to it made it seem like I had another kid but who was bigger. He would eat a bowl of cereal and instead of rinsing it out and putting it in the sink for me to wash later he would leave the cereal box opened sitting on the table and the cereal bowl and spoon on the table and cereal scattered around the bowl on the table. What a slob. I lived with him a few years before we got married. I wish now I hadent married him at all he was a horrible husband. I am glad that we split up a year ago.

No i dont think it makes any difference at all. I lived with my fiance for 4 years before we got married. Our marriage lasted 18 months. Sometimes it is assumed that nothing changes in your relationship if you have been living together and then marry, but it often does. Our mistake was not discussing what was expected of our new role as husband and wife , so when we tied the knot we were a bit shocked to find that i wanted a modern marriage and he wanted an old fashioned one where i was tied to the kitchen sink! Sadly we could find no compromise as our opinions were worlds apart so we divorced.

I really agree with living in together before marriage, but it's not a prevention of divorce.