Have you had to break off contact with your family?
By gwendovere
@gwendovere (1279)
United States
9 responses
@raychill (6525)
• United States
4 Oct 07
My brother and I were always close until about 4 years ago when his wife and I had a huge falling out. So my brother and I barely speak. I only ever really see them for their childrens birthdays and I handle it. I mean, I don't really know how to tell you how I "cope" with it...it's just something that you have to deal with...without really any sorts of tips or instructions.
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
4 Oct 07
reading through the way you feel about this, raychill, i can see that you have been through some difficulty dealing with the situation. since your brother and you were really close, it must have caused you some torment. yes, this is what usually happens to us when we are leaving a good friend or family member with some unsettled argumentation. instead of falling off to sleep in the evening hours, we are pondering on what was it that went wrong and why. i honestly hope that the gap shall be lost again and the relationship shall healthily heal.
@raychill (6525)
• United States
4 Oct 07
thank you for your concern trinidadvelasco.. but I don't really fret about it much. it's been 4 years...and while my brother and I were close for 21 years and he abandoned me for someone he'd known less than a year, ...after time you learn not to dwell.
@THKOhio (329)
• United States
5 Oct 07
I've never actually had to make the choice to break off contact with my family. However, when my parents got divorced in 1979, I started to lose contact with my father's side of my family. It has now been about twelve years since the last time I had any real contact with my father or any of his family members. Sometimes it is still a painful thing, but most of the time it has no impact on my life at all.
@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
4 Oct 07
I know I made the right choice by breaking all contact with my daughter. All I feel is relief I dont have to deal with her thieving hateful ways anymore. During the holidays I have friends and their families to fill the void.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
5 Oct 07
I am only guessing but I think the thing to do is to have close friends that can be your new family.That way you are not alone. I hope that everything works out. Take Care.
@ElicBxn (64177)
• United States
5 Oct 07
I have not had to, nor ever had a need to. I can understand needing to. One of my roomies (the "new" one) probably at one time needed to, and actually sees very little of her siblings. I tell you, if they treated me they way they treat her, I'd never see them!
@scarywhitegirl (2766)
• United States
5 Oct 07
I broke off contact with most of my family for a while, though I have restored contact with them now. They basically didn't approve of decisions that I had made, so it was almost a mutual breaking off of contact, as they didn't really want to talk to me either. Eventually, they realized that I would make my own choices, and while they might not agree with those choices, I was still family.
@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
4 Oct 07
I dont think thats a good idea! Family is everything and someday you will realize that. I see my family on every holiday and every birthday and I have a big family. And I dont live that close to them. But I would do anything for them. Dont give up on your family!
@goodsign (2287)
• Malaysia
4 Oct 07
I had my family break off previously. It happened that way because; before I finish up my college study I need to apply this step to let my soul and mind focus and concentrate on my study. And I'm happy on that time when my family does not respect me,
After my graduation, I consider as 'success' they now spontaneously reflect their respect on men and my words. It just like a mirror, good face will have good image on that mirror.
Don't blame others, but blame ourself for not making any 'life success'. Once made, not just human like us but the animal as well.
