Mother's Favorite?
By sneezeklenex
@sneezeklenex (344)
United States
October 6, 2007 12:43pm CST
OK I haven't been here for awhile, and am truly sorry, but I have a problem I need to discuss with you all. I got married in 2005 and my husband and I lived in Shenandoah, Iowa. Then, about a year and a half later, his dad got really sick and we decided the best thing for us to do was move to Rock Port, Missouri to take care of him. So we moved to his house and have been really happy, as well with my father-in-law because his health has gotten a little better. Anyway, while all this was going on my brother went to college, got a girl pregnant, graduated and moved to Shenandoah, about 1 mile from my mom. The girl had the baby and Mom completely turned around for the worse. She talks about my brother, his "fiance" and the baby ALL THE TIME! That's whom she ever has anything to talk about! The reason I am so mad is because she never treated my sister's kids (she has 3) quite as well, and she said many many times she doesn't play favorites. For example, a lot she would make up an excuse to not watch my sister's kids, when now with my brother's son she drops everything to watch him. Make sense of that. My brother has never had to pay for daycare because of this while my sister has had to pay a lot of money in daycare. It is not fair to my brother's son either because he needs to learn how to interact with other children. My sister is sick of it too. She feels the same way I do. We've brought it up to my mom many times and she changes for about 3-5 days and then goes right back. What am I to do because she is pushing me away. It's not only the kids either it is that she doesn't even make an effort with me anymore. She hasn't been down to see were we live or anything. We are the ones that go see her. Help me please.
2 responses
@sugarfloss (2139)
• Malaysia
6 Oct 07
hello sneezekleenex,I know what you mean.Mothers are like that.When they say they don't play favourites,they actually do.I always disagree with Mum because of this.The younger sibling always gets his/her away or the eldest,while the middle child always gets blamed.I don't think there's anything you can do except to tell your father-in-law to advise your Mum.(and this is her husband?)Ok,sneezekleenex,goodluck on that!
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@sneezeklenex (344)
• United States
6 Oct 07
My father-in-law is my husband's father. Ha! Ha! Ha! Anyway thanks for your advice.
@sugarfloss (2139)
• Malaysia
7 Oct 07
hahaha!ok that is hilarious.I wrote that at 3am!hahahaha.get your Mum's husband@Your father to advise her.lol.
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
7 Oct 07
I don't know that you'd be able to make her change. For some reason - favoritism or whatever - she is clinging to this child and your brother. Maybe she feels that you and your sister can do things without her and she thinks your brother isn't able to do this on his own??? Sometimes it seems like we punish our children that do the most for themselves...
Try not to let this run your relationship with your mother, I'm sure she still loves you, your sister and your neices/nephews.
Best of luck to you!
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