to continue the pregnancy or not to?

@tantal25 (838)
United States
October 9, 2007 5:25am CST
if one day you discovered you were pregnant (your boyfriend is the father of course) but you are not ready yet for marriage because you are not stable yet and both of you are still students, what are you going to do? will you still continue the pregnancy? why or why not.
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11 responses
• India
9 Oct 07
If it were me i am absolutely sure that I would not get into such a situation. Afterall, we are not living in the ancient ages and we have after morning pills and protection available to prevent such a thing from happening. My sincere opinion is if anyone is not capable of bringing upthe child then they should not have behaved in such an irresponsible manner by getting pregnant.However,If such a thing has happened I would take full responsibility and continue with the pregnancy and put all efforts to give a comforable living to the child.
@eden32 (3973)
• United States
10 Oct 07
While I think it's good that you would take steps to prevent pregnancy when you wish not to be a parent, you should be aware that no method of birth control is 100% effective. Even with careful, and faithful use, birth control can fail.
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• United States
9 Oct 07
This has been something I have thought a lot about. I am a student and working to pay my way. I have a lot of opportunites coming to me that having a baby would completely take away. I am in a stable relationship and live with my boyfriend. We could make it work but would struggle for a long time. I go back and fourth and since I have not been in the situation I haven't even figured out what I would do. I have a year and a half of college left and that will make the life I will be able to provide to my future children much better than it would be if I were to have one without finishing college. It's a huge decision, not something taken lightly but it is very interesting to hear other takes on it. Great topic
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
9 Oct 07
I think it would be better to terminate the pregnancy, if possible, when you cannot manage the future of your would be child.
@eden32 (3973)
• United States
9 Oct 07
Being or not being married would have little or no impact on my decision. The things that would make a difference for me would be- where am I living and can I continue to live there with a child? Do I have an income? And again, would it continue if I had a child? Is my health pretty good? Will I be able to continue school during the pregnancy? I would continue or not continue the pregnancy based on those variables & based on how I felt about becoming a parent at that time.
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@ANSHAIL (58)
• India
10 Oct 07
if both are student and donot have any source of earning,then the question does not arise the continue the pregnency.
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@gradyslady (4054)
• United States
9 Oct 07
I would keep going, I could never end the pregnancy because of something like that. It's not that child's fault you were being irresponsible and now it's life has to end.
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@phayeth (519)
• Philippines
25 Nov 07
yes i will still continue the pregnancy.. co'z its also my responsiblity.. to let that baby live.. even if i know i'm not still ready.. co'z its really wrong to denai a baby to live..
@CEN7777 (855)
• India
9 Oct 07
To continue with pregnancy or not is an individuals decision. But I think abortion is not a solution and it is always risky to have first abortion this may mis lead to permanent infertility. I think if their financial situation is stable and can afford to have a child than must continue with pregnancy though they are student. later they can put baby for adption in a good family. In my view abortion is only accepted if it si required for medical reasons. to avoid lifethreat to child or mother.
@eden32 (3973)
• United States
9 Oct 07
Having a legal, early termination in no way increases your chances of becoming infertile. It's a safe medical procedure, only slightly more invasive than a yearly pelvic exam.
@CEN7777 (855)
• India
9 Oct 07
Yes you are right, but what i think is it better to avoid abortions.
@talisman (1300)
• United States
13 Oct 07
There's is one, it's called abstinence.
@nadezna (203)
• Philippines
10 Oct 07
i'll continue my pregnancy if he wasnt ready maybe i have to see myself ready and responsible because it's my choice i enjoy doing it why should i'll be scared that's a gift by the way.. i also dont want to kill a person who cannot fight for his own will,,,..
@dianne17k (587)
• Philippines
19 Nov 07
Abortion will always remain debatable. I wouldn't know what i'd really do if i was in the situation but I'd be a hypocrite if i said i wouldn't think of abortion as an option. If I had the support of my family, I'd have the child since clearly my BF and I wouldn't be able to raise that kid alone.
• United States
26 Nov 07
1. What does marraige have to do with anything anymore. 2. I'd abort. Simple. I don't want kids, ever.