Would you like to borrow money to your friend?

coin - a lot of money
@eve0922 (364)
China
October 11, 2007 4:01am CST
If oneday one of your friends tell yo that he needs a lot of money in hurry,but he could not tell you where it will be used and how it will be spent,so in this situation,will you borrow him money?
5 people like this
26 responses
• Philippines
11 Oct 07
Hello eve! It depends if how much money will she borrow. If I have enough money, then maybe I can lend her some money, provided if she is also going to tell where she is going to use it. I am sure she will tell it because money is not so easy to have. Have a nice day and God speed!
2 people like this
@eve0922 (364)
• China
11 Oct 07
To a student,it's not a small amount, i think.
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
11 Oct 07
As a good friend, I would lend them what they need if ever I do have to lend to them. But I would also be hesitant the first time and would ask what they'd use it for, then I would also be glad if they would share their reason. This depends on the severity of our friendship though, of how deep and how much we know of each other. Besides, all of my friends have been my childhood friends and it's the understanding that completely bnds us together. So no matter what happens, we'll all be friends and won't allow money or any material to ruin our relationships.
@eve0922 (364)
• China
11 Oct 07
I borrowed,but she disappeared.What should i do ?
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
11 Oct 07
Just wait till he reappears, he must shy to talk to you especially if he still doesn't have enough money to repay you. But if it's already been a long time now, I suggest you ask him on your common friends.
@eve0922 (364)
• China
11 Oct 07
It happened 4 years ago,but she still disappeared,in fact,i know her number now,but i'm still waiting for her call.
1 person likes this
• Hong Kong
12 Oct 07
ya,a good discussion! I think most of us have had this kind of experience. For me,if he is my colsest friend and I have enough money, i will lend that money to him. If I have not enough money he needs, I can only say sorry to him, but I will lend him as much as I can. I think, we should help our friends when they are in trouble because they would give us their hands when we need them. I have many friends, and they have given me so much help, and I am sure to give my hand to them when needed. But about the lending money thing, I think he'd better tell me how to use that money. it's not a difficult thing to make it clear. Actually, even he does not tell me the reason, I will still try my best to help him, but I just wanna know the truth. If I get to know what's going on, maybe I can provide him more help and give him some advices.
@eve0922 (364)
• China
15 Oct 07
Hello,maximus2006,nice to meet you ! You know,i knew mylot from your homepage through the internet,thank you,my friend!
@subha12 (18441)
• India
12 Oct 07
i would definitely ask for the reason and where to spend the money. I have faced this situation. Where a friend used to ask for money now and then and when he realised i wont give t unless i know the reason, he used to tell me before asking.
1 person likes this
@coolmailraj (2460)
• India
11 Oct 07
Hi. I surely will hand over the amount to him or her if I do have the sum with me without even thinking aboutit twice. In any case, among my dearest of pals there dhas been no problems related to money and I just wish it remains that way always.
1 person likes this
@eve0922 (364)
• China
13 Oct 07
Thanks for sharing
@eeb2006 (15)
• United States
12 Oct 07
If this person has been a good friend to you and this is not a habit for him/her, I would be happy to lend them the money, as long as I was capable to do so. I would be somewhat nervous not knowing what it was for, but I would just hope that he would do the same for me if the tables were turned.
1 person likes this
@rinaaus (1201)
• Australia
12 Oct 07
it depends on how much my friend want to borrow? and for what? And the most important is how much i have to lend my friend!
@eve0922 (364)
• China
15 Oct 07
You are cautious,and i admire that. Thank you ,rinaaus
@jencai (3412)
• Philippines
12 Oct 07
In my case, it would depend on the situation I'm in. I don't lend money with new friends and if I don't know them personally. If ever she/he is one of my old folks I might lend him/her some money that I can give. In the situation you have mentioned, I might lend her some money if I feel like she's really in need of it.
1 person likes this
• Pakistan
12 Oct 07
No eve, I would never borrow the money to my friend. Because I know that taking and giving loan causes to cease the friendship. I dont want to miss or lose my friend. So I will refuse to give him or her money in shape of loan. I will try to pay him without any interest or hope of return. And this will make stable and life long friendship among us. Money is some thing ordinary. It comes and goes, But friendship is some thing valued and also permanent. Do you agree eve?
@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
11 Oct 07
well yeah, if his really a good friend then i'll lend some money to him, he might really need it for something important. as long as he returns the money then its okay. hehe
@eve0922 (364)
• China
11 Oct 07
nice to meet you,donsky!
@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
29 Oct 07
nice to meet you too
@overdosed (230)
• Philippines
12 Oct 07
I would lend my friend money, but I have to know first where it's going to go. If she/he will spend it on something that I know it's unreasonable/impractical or invest it on something that will bury him/her in more debt then I would refuse flatly and I would explain why. Small amounts are okay, since if he/she ends up not paying up ... it'll not hurt much. But a huge sum of money is serious. It destroys everything when the other party doesn't live up to his/her promise of paying. I mean what if I need it? What's gonna happen to me if my friend doesn't pay up? That's why I'm very careful lending my money, because when a friend is indebted to me, I feel I am also in debt because I am losing the capacity to use the money I saved for the rainy days.
1 person likes this
@Malyck (3425)
• Australia
12 Oct 07
It would really depend on the friend and how soon they would be able to pay me back for a large sum of money. If it was $1000 or more, I would definitely try to find out what it was for, although I would still probably lend it to a close friend or relative. Depending on the sum of money, I might be a little more suspicious also.
@MarieJ23 (1040)
• United States
12 Oct 07
If she can't give me any valid reason, I will not let her borrow a money. Life is so difficult right now and we just don't acquire the money that easy so there's no reason that I will just dispose it easily without due reason. I am saving it for my future and not just spend it with not important things. I said not important because if it has been important then my friend would certainly tell me what it is for.
1 person likes this
@bopbop (9)
• Philippines
11 Oct 07
of course, I will. with no second thought, i knew how it feels when you have no money and there are people who are understanding. and for me as long as i can help him or her i will do my very best. and i want him or her to feel that i really love my friends very much...
@eve0922 (364)
• China
15 Oct 07
I guess you are a good friend,thak you ,bopbop
@michfroi (413)
• Philippines
11 Oct 07
yeah....when im needy i borrow money from my friends and vice versa...
@eve0922 (364)
• China
11 Oct 07
You are lucky,i think.
@djmarion (4898)
• Philippines
12 Oct 07
if i trusted my friend and i think she/he will not use it inillegal manner then why not, i would lend my money.
@sugarbabe (114)
• Fiji
11 Oct 07
If it's my bestfriend, surely I would lend the money to him/her without any hesitation.
@eve0922 (364)
• China
11 Oct 07
do you mean,no matter anything?
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
11 Oct 07
I don't know that I would loan money to a friend anymore. I have done this in the past and many times it doesn't end well. I have made it a very big policy not to do so very often. I have loaned money to my girlfriend of many years when she was having financial hardship and she has always returned the favor. It wasn't much money, maybe $100 or less. I don't ask her where the money was used, it's not my business. I know she is an honest person and she wouldn't ask it if she didn't need it badly. So for her, I would loan her money, for my parents as well. My brother, I would have to think seriously about.
@eve0922 (364)
• China
13 Oct 07
I understood you ,mamasan. Good luck!
@ZumiHaru (38)
• Philippines
12 Oct 07
Yeah, I will if i have that certain amount in my pocket/wallet. But if I found out that he's using it in a bad way, I'll get him for it.
@cywong (143)
• Malaysia
11 Oct 07
You can borrow money to anyone, but an agreement and monthly payment must be done. This is a more secure way to borrow money to others. I have experience to borrow money to others. Initially I ask them to pay me one lum sum. They can not make it after few month later since they spend their money consistently every month. No way they can pay you one lum sum. so the best way is to ask them to pay you month by month. Thanks.
@eve0922 (364)
• China
13 Oct 07
Thanks for your suggestion,it's a good method.