Please help me!

United States
October 11, 2007 4:05pm CST
I need help! Im in a rush to get these wedding plans together, we have decided to just have a justice of the peace courthouse marriage and a decent reception. I think thats what we decided now. But, either way, he wants to do it eithr November 16 or 23, THIS YEAR. Im stressin, I have never planned anything like this before and I want it to be great! Can anyone help me get this together??? Tell me what to do!!!!!!!
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@jillhill (37379)
• United States
12 Oct 07
I have helped with several weddings and planned most of both of my daughters and my sons.....the rule might be....less is more. The less you do with decorations....the more simple you keep things the more elegant they will be. How about something simple like a pot luck....my daughter had that for her second wedding and wow! tons of food and everyone thought it was so special to be able to share their best recipies...pick your color...do a few flowers and candles.....and let the bride be the most beautiful thing at the wedding. She deserves it.
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• United States
12 Oct 07
Thank you so very much. I gave you best response!
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@jillhill (37379)
• United States
12 Oct 07
Thank you!
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• Philippines
11 Oct 07
Relax!!!!!!!!that's the first thing you have to do. Next list down all you need as well as your husband in a notebook. Check all the things you already buy or done...just like that...In inviting friends you should list down all your friend and his too. You can have a great outcome but doing it slowly & surely again relax...Think of the ideal wedding you wanted to....Wedding magazine will help you a lot in planning ....Best wishes....
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• United States
12 Oct 07
wow. thank you. I did need to slow down, breathe and relax. Im much calmer now...lol. Thanks so much! Im working on my lists now......
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
11 Oct 07
Sorry but Ive never done anything like that before. Why not have some cater your wedding? What exactly do want someone to tell you? Are you handling the whole wedding?
• United States
11 Oct 07
lol.....im not really sure what i want people to tell me! Im just really stressed! Im not even really sure what all I need to do to get the reception together!!!!
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@crazed_moma (1054)
• United States
11 Oct 07
What we did is we planned to get married in February so I sent my grand mother the fabric for a dress she was going to make for me but the pressure was just so intense, we both worked full time (and then some) and had two young children. One day we just looked at our schedule and found the first day we both had off and called out Bishop and scheduled it for that night. :) My mom took me to the mall to get a dress the same day we were getting married (did not find anything stunning but it was ok, a spaghetti strap knee length dress I put a white camisole over it and looked pretty good) and then we went to dinner after. Since it was such short notice it was a very small ceremony but it was still a special ocassion. :) Decide what's most important to you and do that first. This is your day and you need to do it your way. :)
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• United States
11 Oct 07
*Just wanted to add a little advice, DELEGATE. If you can. ie, put some one in charge of food, some one else in charge of decorating, etc.
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• United States
11 Oct 07
thank you! I'm trying to find something to wear for our little courthouse wedding, if thats what we do. What I would honestly like to do is to get the pastor from my church to just marry us at the riverfront....that would be beautiful. Especially this time of year.
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• United States
12 Oct 07
That does sound lovely. If he's some one you know you could probably get him to do it on short notice. :) Would you have to get permission to use the riverfront?
@bizmom (515)
• United States
12 Oct 07
OK first CALM down! :) this is why weddings DONT go off uneventful! :) dont stress its supposed to be ur Wonderful day! Now if u havent already call the courthouse and make the arrangments date time ect. CALL the place u want to hold the reception make reservations or reserve a room - giveing them the # of guests u have INVITED to ur day. then send out invites - or if ur wanting to go less formal call or email ( total up to u) ediquite is a thing of the past :) * THIS UR HUBBY CAN DO* Then either arrange a car to take u both there and to reception ( if u want to ) - u both can leave in ur own car and meet everyone there * u can also get a few disposable cameras - usually one per couple for them to take pics with - FOR YOU! ask them to take candids! even if they have their own! -( we did that and made out own photo ablum with them - did doubles to give the guests as well) * also u BOTH can make up BIRD SEED to throw as ur leaving he courthouse ( rice kills the birds) buy tule ( mesh like lace comes in circles) and color ribbon usually to match ur dress or his shirt! put a handfull of seed in the middle of it and wrap it up like a potporie sache! EASY * u can designate a young person u invited to hand them out for u during the ceremony (or during pictures on the steps) so they have them to throw for when u two leave! :) U can pre order flowers or do what i did and make ur own silk flower bouquet!they wil last forever! and u can use them with displaying ur wedding photos! :) just pick out flowers YOU Liek along with greenery and babys breath or anything YOU like and arrange it together then use thin green wire to hold them together then wrap ribbon around the ends- for u to handle them better - no cuts or anything ( cut them short IF u like a short hand held boquet OR u can keep them long if ur going for the *BUNCH OF FLOWERS* look u can also make his butenier ( i know my spelling is off)- the flower he has on his lepel! or shirt collar to match ur boquet - u can pick ONE flowr u like out of it as his to pin on. Then u can shop if u havent already for ur dress/shoes and ect. HE can shop for himself! - no need to put added pressure on u - OR u both go together make it a US day go shopping grab lunch maybe and then go home and relaxe just spending the day together ( have fun and DONT think about the arrangements) just BE!! If u can and u have someone u trust to help u with some of these things - like getting the tule seed cameras ect then its one thing u dont have to worry about I hope some of this helps :) Have a great day! CONGRATS again XX
@carolbee (16231)
• United States
12 Oct 07
Something I always enjoyed at our daughter's weddings was a camera. If you don't want a photographer and want fun pictures taken, put a camera on each table. You may want to ask one special person at that table to be responsible for some good pictures. It's really fun later after the pictures are developed. We used the disposable cameras. What I would recommend first is calling a few places, hotels or wherever you have in mind, to find out their cost per person. It can get costly doing it this way but is worth it. I've never been to a pot luck reception but it sounds rather interesting. Enjoy your day and above all, have fun. Best of luck and good wishes, carolbee
@azimsay (545)
• India
12 Oct 07
In our house there is nobody avalable and some guest came to my house,I become very unhappy and I do not think what can do in mind I pray to God pl help me what happend my daughter come back ,I thanks to God.
• United States
12 Oct 07
Um...WHAT?
• United States
23 Oct 07
Here are some good websites for planning weddings. http://theknot.com/ http://www.weddingchannel.com/home.html http://bridalguide.com/ Hope that helps, there are TONS of things on there, lists, and guidelines. Let me know if you have any specific questions... i'm planning my own wedding for June 7th '08 Iwould be glad to help you.
@kitty1234 (1476)
• United States
12 Oct 07
Stay CALM! Start with finding a friend who can help with some of the things needed to do. Next find the place you would like your reception, make reservations and plan meal. Pick out your dress! If you are trying to keep costs down, make invitations on your computer, but send them out soon. Get a drink and take a second to think,lol. During the evening start addressing your invites and mail them. Order flowers and sit back! Photographer or family, either way call them. Before you know it this day will be over and it will be a happy memory!
• China
12 Oct 07
hello,in my opine,you'd better ask a company which do wedding plan for help.It will spend more money,but I think it is the only,the best method tu help you made the party great and wordful!