how to avoid rebellion?

@jcyap888 (721)
Philippines
October 12, 2007 4:27am CST
Is it alright to allow children to enter into an enter an early relationship to avoid rebellion behavior if reprimended?
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7 responses
@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
16 Oct 07
I am not very sure what you mean by an early relationship. If you are meaning to date at an early age, I don't know about that. My daughter is 13 and she is not allowed to date. I know she has "boyfriends" which really means that she holds hands and say "I love you" but she doesn't go much further than a kiss. She knows herself because I have taught her to be strong and think for herself regardless of what others are doing. All we can do is pray that they do the right thing and practice what we preach. As for rebellion. children will rebel against you at some point in their life over something as simple as telling them to clean their room or make their bed. It's just one of those trials of life. Standing firm in your beliefs and ensuring that they are following your guidelines for the most part will make them better adults and you will gain respect in the long run.
@THKOhio (330)
• United States
16 Oct 07
In our family, we have specific rules for dating. They can go on group dates, with several other couples, at age 15, if we feel they are mature and responsible enough at that time. At 16, if we feel they are ready, then they can begin to go on individual dates. There is NO dating any earlier than 15, period. I would not consider bending those rules just to prevent "rebellion." I would deal with the rebellion in whatever way necessary.
• Philippines
13 Oct 07
I really have a little knowledge over this. As far as experience, my mother way back was so strict on me. She don't want any suitors to fetch me at house and be with them at school. My mother used to pick me up from school everyday since grade school until highschool. That is why, i avoided to enter any early relationship which might lead to rebellion. I always listen to my parents because i know what they are saying are right.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
12 Oct 07
Is important for kids to learn responsability and to feel that they are an important part of the family ,but at the same time we don't want them to think that their home is like a dictatorship.
@goodsign (2287)
• Malaysia
12 Oct 07
If we cannot fight the war, we must join the war. So our enemy will be our friend. Once friendship tied up between both parties, an easy way to apply negotiation tasks. Fighting with rebellious need more energy compare to open table discussion or open card so called. Same application to our children, having said the rebellion.
@stvasile (7316)
• Romania
12 Oct 07
I believe that if a child is raised with the proper discipline and respect to the moral values, he will never develop a rebellion behavior.
• Janesville, Wisconsin
12 Oct 07
Enter into an early relationship? Please explain... And as far as children rebelling I think it is better to let them go through this stage as a child instead of an adult, but even then stand hard to the rules... As rebellion is just a strong testing time to see how far they can go usually... ..And if everyone stand their ground usually they eventually calm down, and reintegrate .. as long as you are standing your ground in the right non overpowering or over controlling way.. or it can go the other way... This is one of the ways children learn right from wrong, get there thrill of going against the system.. I rather have a 5 year old rebelling or a teen that is a minor.. Than have a 25 old rebelling.. where you can't help them, and they end up in jail... - DNatureofDTrain