Are you poor in interacting socially and work relationships out?

India
October 13, 2007 2:43am CST
I have this problem.I can get along easily with my close friends and close family members.But when it comes to one on one with other people i get a bit confused and wordless and get an 'out of the world' feeling.Have it occured to you? How do you outcome this?
4 responses
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
13 Oct 07
Yes, many of us face this kind of problem, when we are confornted with strangers. May be due to our inhibitions and so many unfounded apprehensions. I think, you need to take the initiative yourself, when you confront an unknown person, if you wish to communicate with him/her. You need to talk to him/her on any matter, and remember if you start first...it would increase your confidence and attitude. Please do not wait for others to take the initiatve. After starting the conversation, if you feel that the response is not good, you can always take an excuse and leave the scene. Be cheerful and always smile, before initiating a conversation with a stranger. who knows, if you keep your attitude, a stranger one day may become your closest friend.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
17 Oct 07
Please be confident, optimistic and positive...you will surely succeed. Best of Luck!
• India
13 Oct 07
Thanks ,that may help.I could get the part to start a chat. But eventually i end up without a topic to begin. I will look forward to sorting it.
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
19 Oct 07
You are not alone in this, so have faith! It is a problem yes, I have not much social etiquette that I always avoid social situations because I am NOT a social person, I don't want relationship and I enjoy my own company because I have got used to it. I prefer to be on my own. Perhaps consult with a good friend to see where you are going wrong if they are good friends they will be honest with you, but don't blame yourself.
• India
21 Oct 07
Thanks for the advice.
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
13 Oct 07
Ya know its kinda odd with me...I'm not a ppl liker for the most part, general society just makes me angry/annoyed and I have low tolerance for the crap that comes with so many ppl out there (the self absorbed, greedy, uncompassionate, hurtful/hateful, holier than thou stuff etc)...I'm very much an Anti-Social person more often than not LOL and I really do love my solitude and being a loner BUT for some reason I interact very well with others....Whether its a social setting or a one on one type deal. People really seem to take to me LOL.. I think the best way for you to overcome it is basically to figure out what causes it? Is it low self esteem? Do you have trust issues? Take a good look at the last time (or next time) you are in that situation and think about WHAT you are feeling at that time...Are you worried about how the other person may recieve you? things like that
• India
13 Oct 07
It isnt about esteem problems. I am concerned with the latter part-'what the other person thinks?' It is presently one of the issues. Some times I do not care for it but sometimes I do, especially when it comes to chatting with girls.I can talk with a few of them like they were my siblings, but not with the rest.It can be an indifference from their approach which refrains me.I dunno.
• China
13 Oct 07
i have this problem too. when i am with someone who is not my close friend, i always dont know what shall we talk about, and i seldom speak to others actively. however, if i am with a voluble person, i can listen to he or she earnestly, and give some responses. i dont know how to be a extravert, as i am born to be a introvert. so i always avoid to be with other unfamiliar people.
• India
13 Oct 07
Ok.You paddle one side and i will paddle the other so that we can row this discussion to a proper solution:)