What if your close friend says you final goodbye for just a small quarrel?
October 15, 2007 5:56am CST
I had a friend who was very close to me.I said him proudy as he had done such a task.he could not bear that he was called so and declared end of our friendship.Do you think i had done wrong in telling him his weakness,or if mistakenly i had said him proudy the do you think it could be the reason for breakoff.Now he wana talk.But i think if he is a kind of person who cant listen a word against him and if i do,he declares end,then i think i should not continue friendship with him.What you people think?
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16 Oct 07
it is very irrational of him to behave that way...i mean, he easily got offended of what you have said?! he could have taken it positively..i mean you guys are close friends right?! unfortunately, he didn't...so all you have to do is try to think if the fight or the conflict is really worth ending your friendship...consider the consequences during that incident, maybe he had a very frustrating day or whatsoever...take it some time to think and ponder on things..i mean, maybe you'll realize it's a worth of a second chance..
15 Oct 07
Nidhi, Your friend is obviously just trying to get more of your attention. He said that he was calling off the friendship over such a small word, only to show you that even such a small word from YOU, hurt him greatly. Clearly from the fact that he wants to talk now shows that he never really meant to call off the friendship. If you really feel he is a good friend then don't break it off on such small notes.
15 Oct 07
I think you have to ask yourself what you want, if you love him or not, for me, in case i met with the similiar situation, i will not continue, if he cannot listen to any rejection, i have to say in your relationship, in the near future, you have to always make the concession, don't make the mistake at the beginning.
15 Oct 07
First thing Nidhi is that if it was so small thing, your friend should not have reacted in this fashion. Second thing I feel that you also have wrong idea about him. Now if he wants to talk to you, what is wrong with it? Sit in front of him, tell him why you have called him proudy, ask him why he felt bad about it, tell him that you felt that as a friend it was your duty to point out his weakness so you had done it, try to listen to his arguments about it and then decide if he is worth of your friendship or not? I personally feel that you may have hurt your good friend by telling him this thing at a wrong time, in a wrong manner, in front of some people which he did not like it. May be you may find yourself in wrong. In any case friendship is sweetest thing God has given us...don't spoil it for small things.
15 Oct 07
Well, I must say that there's nothing in your fault. But I think it is better you should try to talk with him. It might be that he didn't like the way you said. And if he still says goodbye then you can leave him. Because in future you might feel that you even didn't try once to talk to him. But if you do this there won't be any remaining regrets. Friends are for telling eachother weak point not just walking away. I know you totally atlest deserve a clearification. It's always easy to break a long made friendship but really hard to make one. So, hope you will get your friend once again.
15 Oct 07
I had a friend who did that to me and he disappeared for 10years and then rang me which I was so glad to hear from him then after about 3years he sent me a lovely card saying goodbye for what reason I don't know and he won't answer my letters...I had another friend that I had a huge fight but we made up after and thank God we did because she passed away a week later, I would never have been able to live with myself if we had have parted on those terms,so I always stay on good terms with everyone now because as my new motto is...."tomorrow may never come"