Jealousy! Are you a jealous person?

Philippines
October 15, 2007 8:27am CST
They say jealousy is a sign of insecurity about yourself...or maybe you just don't trust your partner! So what do you think?
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13 responses
@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
19 Oct 07
I guess it would depend on what kind of jealousy you have. If the jealousy that you feel is something that hinders you to move on with your day to day life, or something that overpowers your relationship with your partner, then it definitely is either insecurity or distrust. I am a jealous person too. So is my partner, he's the jealous type too. But we do trust each other. We both believe that our love for one another is much too strong for us to easily be swayed by temptations. I know I love my partner very, very much, and I do everything I can to make him a happy man with me. So with this in mind, I am able to overcome that jealousy that would arise within me every once in a while. By means of improving myself and making myself a better person, my partner becomes more in love with me, and thus, our relationship becomes stronger. Then there should be no reason to let jealousy kill me inside, and kill our relationship! what do you think?
• Philippines
20 Oct 07
Trust is really important in a relationship. So when do you get jealous? And what do you do when you are jealous?
@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
20 Oct 07
Well, he's an attractive man. I get jealous when he is noticed, even if he isn't aware of it. But not that jealousy that kills me. I hug him with pride that this good looking guy belongs to me. He always hugs me back too, and even gives me a sweet kiss and that makes me feel secured!
@peanutjar (5211)
• Canada
15 Oct 07
I am not jealous of my boyfriend or other people at all,but there is one person that i am.It is our daughter in a way.I grew up with no parents and my gramdparents adopted.I would of loved to been raised by my mom and dad and feel the kind of bond that comes with parents and family.Sharing stuff and secrets with my mom and doing stuff with my dad.My dada was a drunk who beat and my mom was scared and young,so she left.I do not blame her though.But when you are young and grandparents old,well there is no playing,vacationing and its a different kind of love.So our daughter has all the things that i missed sooo much when i was a child and i do love her sooo much,that is why i give her everything that love can give and do things with her that she likes and i missed out on as a child.It is a different kind of jealous,i think she has what i wanted when i was young,but it is me who gives it to her and she has "2"parents who are "together"loving her.Its hard to explain....for me and you.Maybe you think im nuts,hahahaha:):)Peanutjar
• Philippines
20 Oct 07
Congratulations for being a good parent to your daughter! You should be proud of yourself because psychologists say that we sometimes pass on to our kids the experiences we had with our parents, especially the bad ones.
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@peanutjar (5211)
• Canada
20 Oct 07
Yes,i do know that it is true about passing on experiences to our children.That is why i give her the opposite of what i had and went through.I do not want her to go through what i did and that is why i told myself when i was pregnant,that this child will have the opposite and to be loved unconditionally with everything that i have to give.I would give my life for her and i know my boyfriend would do the same and not even think twice.She is my life,my light,my sunshine,my soul,my child and my daughter.Words cannot explain how much i care for her. Peanutjar:):)Have a nice day!
@ssh123 (31096)
• India
15 Oct 07
I cannot say I am not, but I do not have jealous so much to burn me up. It only worries me a little. But it is not worth being jealous. One should develop a philosophical mind, what is other's cannot be mine and what is mine cannot be others. Let people display their wealth or obstentaious living, let us look at our own and take care of it, instead of getting jealous of others. I rather prefer a healthy competition in its place than jealous.
• Philippines
20 Oct 07
Yes you're right it should challenge us to develop into a better person rather than destroy us. So what are you usually jealous of? Do you tell your partner when you're jealous?
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@ssh123 (31096)
• India
20 Oct 07
If one develops maturity, there will not be room for jealousness as one experiences in youth age. So I have crossed all those bad milestones. Some times my wife tells me some account of some people out of jealous. If I ignore it, she knows I am not keen on it and she cannot sell that idea any more.
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
15 Oct 07
I'm sometimes jealous of a person's time, if they are just too busy to ever see me. I might be jealous because my close friends are all busy, or my husband is always either at work or sleeping. However, jealousy of my partner's relationships with other people isn't something I feel. If I didn't trust my husband, I wouldn't be with him. I've always felt that way in relationships. In fact, if I do find myself feeling jealous, it makes me wonder why I don't trust my partner, and if it is really fair to them to be in a relationship if I don't trust them. Maybe that sounds weird, but I know I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who didn't feel they could trust me either.
• Philippines
20 Oct 07
Trust is really important. So do you tell your partner when you are jealous of something?
@tryxiness (4548)
• Philippines
19 Nov 07
I really don't know. But perhaps it could be. Right now, I am jealous of my friend whom my foster brother pays much attention. I mean, he is my foster brother and yet, he pays so much attention to her. My friend is nice. It's just that I do not want foster brother to hang out with him. Hugs. I do not like my foster brother romantically. I like him as a foster brother.
@darkaeon (466)
• Portugal
3 Nov 07
hi, to be honest with you i am a jellous person and i think that all of us were jellous sometimes dont you agree?
@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
2 Nov 07
I'm really not jealous of anyone to be honest with you..I'll joke about it with close friends (for example a gf of mine and i have a standing joke with another friend of ours about how gorgeous she is and how we're jealous and hope she gets fat and wrinklie LOL) but all things considered, when it comes to my life I don't feel anyone else has anything I intensely desire/would be jealous of.... As for within my relationship...am I jealous as in if some woman talks to or flirts with my husband? No not really..I mean whats the point ya know..I see no reason for it to be honest with you and when its happened in the past I use to laugh about it cause I knew he was coming home with me so they could flirt and act foolish all they wanted, they werent goin to get anywhere LOL
@cobradene (1171)
• India
1 Nov 07
It could be both. Either insecurity about the self or mistrust. And it could also be insecurity born out of mistrust. I'm sometimes jealous of my partner. Sure I am. Everybody is I guess when they see their partner talk with other friends. It happens.
• Philippines
24 Oct 07
i think it is a little of both. A person would be jealous when they feel insecure about themselves and if they don't trust their partner to stick with them because of those inadequacies. Honestly, I was like that with my first boyfriend. I didn't trust him to stay with me if he finds a more beautiful girl.
• Philippines
24 Oct 07
i think it is a little of both. A person would be jealous when they feel insecure about themselves and if they don't trust their partner to stick with them because of those inadequacies. Honestly, I was like that with my first boyfriend. I didn't trust him to stay with me if he finds a more beautiful girlfriend.
@gwendovere (1283)
• United States
23 Oct 07
Yes... no matter how hard I try, I get insanely jealous over stupid stuff! It drives me bonkers!
@topei12 (272)
• Philippines
20 Oct 07
I once was when I wasn't married yet. Maybe because of insecurities because I know am not that good looking and my girlfriend was really beautiful.
@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
15 Oct 07
I sued to be a jealous-type of a guy, as I don't have any idea yet on dealing with those dark and childish thoughts I have in my head back then. But I have come to realize that it is nothings but just a selfish thing, so I did my best to overcome that unfair way of thinking. I believe that jealousy is mostly caused by insecurities, lack of trust and self-respect. But if we just try to focus on it and learn form it, I'm sure that an individual will be more conscious about this and get to know more on how they could handle these mindless thoughts..