being single, is it something to be ashamed of?

Philippines
October 19, 2007 3:45am CST
im 25 and im still single until now.and when i say single it means totally unhook to no one but myself. its not that nobody likes me but i just choose not to. my mother even encourages me to go on some dating games. my friends just keep on teasing me. but i am confortable of what i have and i dont have right now. i dont think i should be ashame or should I?
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@talisman (1300)
• United States
19 Oct 07
No, you shouldn't be ashamed of being single. There's nothing wrong with it and it's what you want for yourself. I think it's all these people that go around dating everyone in sight and using people that should be ashamed, but that's just my opinion. Don't let people push you into doing something you don't want to do and don't let them make you feel like you should be ashamed either. If people bring up again that they think you should be dating someone, tell them that you want to be single right now and are comfortable with it; then don't let them continue down that conversation path any further.
• Philippines
19 Oct 07
your exactly right. whenever my friends starts the topic with me being single, i just keep my mouth shut and dont say anything. then they will figure out that i dont like it and change the topic. im getting use to it but sometimes it gets in my nerve. but ill be fine, thanks!
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@cobradene (1171)
• India
23 Oct 07
There's nothing to ashamed of being single. People who tease of make fun are stupid themselves to be living a life of illusion and creating certain parameters of the mind and living within those parameters. Only those people who think "out of the box" are different and capable of doing something different in life. The society is always a programmed living. And everybody's mind works like a programmed computer. The day something happens out of the program the whole system shuts down. Human beings are like that. They don't like to think different, they don't like to act different, they don't like to break the tradition or the rules formed by the ignorant society. Man just keeps changing rules according to what suits him best. We should not only live in the society but live above it too. So, if you are confident with what you are doing, as long as you are not doing anything immoral, then you have chosen your path. Just follow it. :)
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@fracktion (154)
• Philippines
22 Oct 07
No. Never. Im 26 and im proud to be single. When I meet my friends, they are the ones ashamed because at a very young age they got pregnant or got married. So nope, its not something to be ashamed of and so as being married. Its a choice that you made and stand by it. Consider it a blessing.
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
20 Oct 07
Pfft, no! Tell anyone who's got a problem with it to get bent. Being single is okay. Don't be ashamed. Especially if you've been told "you're not it", "its not you, its me", etc by the opposite gender. Not your fault and no one's got the right to be a clown about it.
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@st091127 (114)
• China
20 Oct 07
Being a single is our own choice,just do what we like.Love is not to find, but to meet by chance on someone sometimes.No reason to be ashame.
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• Philippines
21 Oct 07
For me, being single is not a thing to be ashamed of! It is in fact, it is something rewarding. Why I say rewarding because you have survived your life without being dependent to anyone, especially in love. I admire you so much because you don't dwell on what you don't have. But rather, you do appreciate of what you have. If you're happily SINGLE, then live your life that way. Anyway, life is a choice. And if there are times that people mock at you for being single, just don't mind them. It's not their life at all, it's yours.
@cherriemae (3370)
• Philippines
19 Oct 07
hey, don't think that being single is an ashamed one..it's your choice and your happy with it, i mean if you are happy with what you are doing then go on, no matter what people will say.. just go on with your choice coz i'm sure you can find the right person at the right time, don't be hurry in finding her, just enjoy life and you can see that youre happy on what you have decide..good luck to you friend..
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• United States
23 Oct 07
No, I don't actually think that being married is anything to be ashamed of. I personally wish that I actually had a really sexy, (both inside and out) hot looking Single man that would come into my life, and would want to sweep me off my feet. I can Not say one way or another if this will ever happen, but so far, I'm still 37, and am still 100% Single. More then likely if I ever did marry, he would problably be lie me, Obese, and Ny very physically attractive. Prehaps being Overweight and Not being physically attractive has a lot to do with me still being single. I really don't know, but it sure does seem that way to me sometimes. What say you???
@irene_27 (542)
• Philippines
28 Oct 07
being single is something that you DON'T have to be ashamed of. who cares? like you, i'm also single and i'm proud being one. At my age, i'm still not desperate to get married. I don't want to marry just to give in to the pressures of family and friends. For me it is a wise decision to wait for the right guy than to settle with anybody who's available just for the sake of being married.