My son is 11 and still wets the bed? Should I be concerned?

@seabeauty (1480)
United States
October 19, 2007 11:54am CST
I stopped wetting the bed at the age of 9. I have an 8 year old daughter who only wet the bed twice since she has been potty trained. Is it normal for an 11 year old to wet the bed? Should I speak to his doctor?
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@ann168 (111)
• United States
22 Oct 07
You are welcome. I know it is very safe for kids to use that medication. I had two kids on that for 4 months and that was it. They are doing much better now and their self -esteem are much better. I just want to share with you about the positive experience I had. Sometimes mediation helps to solve the problem. What my concern is the psychological effect which is more important to deal with.It just my opinion. Check with your doctor for advice. Good luck.
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@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
24 Oct 07
thats great to hear..... thanks for your reply
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@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
24 Oct 07
thats great to hear..... thanks for your reply
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@topei12 (272)
• Philippines
20 Oct 07
Yes, you should really be worried. One is about your bed secondly, those sleepless night concerning his wetting. If wetting occurs very often that should really be a concern but if because of his dreams, well that's normal. You may try not giving him too much liquid before he sleeps and try to wake him up at a certain time to remind him to go to the bathroom and take a pee. It worked with my 3 year old daughter.
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@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
22 Oct 07
I agree we should wake him up to pee provided I can wake myself up to do so lol. Thank you for your input :)
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@topei12 (272)
• Philippines
23 Oct 07
Yeah, it's teaching him the habit of waking up when he feel likes peeing! it should start from us. Nice to be of help!
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@ann168 (111)
• United States
22 Oct 07
I agree with you 100%. I had to deal with that problem with my daughter and my son. I knew what it was. It is stressful for kids and the more they stressed out or feel bad because they could not control the bed wetting problem, the more it effects their psychological thinking. It is not the bad habit because they have no control over it. Just help them to solve the problem. They will thank you.
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@peppy510 (25)
22 Oct 07
first watch his diet does it include lots of sweet if so reduce it tyr and find out if he is insecure about something may be a younger sibling who gets lots of attention if he is feeling left out because of that or if there is a problem at school Also check out his weight and his eating habits if he is under weight this could be a problem also reduce the intake of sweets during dinner Talk to him often and find out what is going on in his mind also be with him until he sleeps at night and give him the assurance that you are ther for him no matter what happens this should solve the problem
@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
22 Oct 07
hmm don't know if he is underweight since I haven't taken him to the doc in a year. never heard of sweets causing the problem. I will have to ask the pediatrician if that is possible. thanks for the reply.
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@mac1946 (1602)
• Calgary, Alberta
19 Oct 07
Bedwetting is hereditory for the most part,if members of the family have a history of it,then it is a pretty good chance of others. there are tests your doctor can use to find out if it is a medical problem or not. Most children outgrow it themselve,but it can be into the teens and sometimes into adulthood,while it is a pain in the Bu##,it is basically concellable. Have him tested first,then go from there.
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@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
20 Oct 07
Thats what it said on this website I found on it, that its hereditary. I am a light sleeper, my husband is not. He must have gotten this from his dad.
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@mac1946 (1602)
• Calgary, Alberta
20 Oct 07
yes,very heavy sleepers are prone to this,I would put a plastic sheet on the mattress so it does not soak it,this will help with the smell and being wet like that may help in waking him up after a bit. There are also alarms that go off and wake them up when it gets wet.
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@RosieS57 (889)
• United States
19 Oct 07
No, it's not normal. He is sleeping so deeply that his bladder signals aren't waking him up. He doesn't even know he's doing it. Yes, call the pediatrician. Not because it's an emergency or anything, but from compassion. They now make a pill for that and the doctor will help. Your son will grow out of it -- but until then try to be understanding. It might help avoid embarrassment for him if, when you talk to the doc, you use the medical word for loss of bladder control when sleeping: enuresis (n-u-ree-sis) Good luck to both of you.
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@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
20 Oct 07
He may or may not grow out of it so I am going to take action now. Did you know some adults still wet the bed?
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@RosieS57 (889)
• United States
20 Oct 07
The adults that have talked to me have all had spine arthritis, which is a condition that can cause the nerve signals from the bladder to be weak or scrambled so that the brain doesn't receive them correctly. The enuresis medicine works for these folks, too. In my own case, the pill I take for nerve pain would ordinarily block the bladder signals, but my uterus presses so hard on the bladder that I'm like an old guy with a huge prostate -- I'm up 4 or 5 times every night. Everyone knows to get outta my way when I'm headed to the bathroom.
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@st091127 (114)
• China
20 Oct 07
I don't know wether it is necessary to go to see a doctor.I can't remember my time.One roomate says she ended when she was in primary school, about 10 years.
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@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
20 Oct 07
Thanks for your input ST09.
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@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
22 Oct 07
Summer....yeah we spoke to him. Nothing is bothering him. He likes school, has lots of friends and when my husband and I argue, its not alot, not any more than a normal couple would argue. Honestly I don't belive is psycological.
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• United States
20 Oct 07
You might want to look at the general home situation. Sometimes, bedwetting is a result of being upset during the day. Is everything ok between you and your husband? is he doing ok in school? The physcial body is very sensitive and reacts to outside curcumstances. Please talk with him about anything that may be bothering him. I hope this passes soon.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
20 Oct 07
Yes, I think it would be a good idea to take him to his doctor. I would be discreet about it especially in front of your son, you don't want him to feel any worse than he probably already feels. I had a friend who didn't stop wetting the bed until he was thirteen. Some people have had traumatic events that can cause this in their life and it is psychological, some just have weak bladders or bladder signaling during the night or they sleep so deeply that they can't wake up to go which are all pretty physical. there are any number of reasons for this to occur. So, it is best to consult your physician just to be on the safe side. I know it has to be difficult to watch your son go through this and it must be difficult for you to have to do the cleaning. So, for both your sakes, go to the doctor. I am sure they can assist you in giving you some peace of mind.
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@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
20 Oct 07
It's not psycological as some people think. Read the post above you, I put a link up to a website i found. Says its not a psycological problem but a sleep disorder that is hereditary. :) I am definately going to make him an appointment. This problem has gone on far too long and its making everyone unhappy. Thanks for your reply :).
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@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
20 Oct 07
THis condition is not normal. Most kids are trained by the time they are 2 yrs old. This is often Psychological, and might be caused by the child needing more attention. He feels left out and wets the bed to get attention. I'd suggest seeing a Dr. Theres definately a problem, thats for sure!
@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
20 Oct 07
Thank you for your input. I found this website. It explains that bedwetting is NOT a phychological problem. Here is the link if you would like to check it out. www.http://nobedwetting.com/video/Danuloff.htm I listened to some of the stories....heartbreaking but now they are cured. I don't know where that center is so I may or may not be able to bring him there for treatment. I will have to find out more info.
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@wotfpatty (2065)
• United States
20 Oct 07
Neither of my sons wet the bed after about age 3. But everyone is different. However, by age 11, I definitely think bed wetting should finished or only done on a very rare occasion (Too much to drink before bed, a bad dream or something). I would talk to your son's doctor and see what s/he thinks and see what you can do to help. A lot of kids are very embarrassed by this. My nephew just turned 10 and still wets the bed quite often and won't stay at friends houses, won't let friends stay at his house, and is very, very embossed by the situation. He needs some help but my niece (He is my great nephew) seems to think it will pass on its own. It may but, in the meantime, I think it would be a good idea to be sure there is nothing physically going on and to get advice on how best to deal with the situation. Seeing how it affects him is why I suggest seeing your son's doctor for advice. Good luck.
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@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
20 Oct 07
We do that too , not giving him drinks before bed and that is helping. Still 2ce a week he wets the bed. I am going to call the doctor on monday to make an appt.
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• China
20 Oct 07
i think you should take him to hospital at once. to check that he is all right. if there is no wrong it is a bad habit to wet the bed and you must help him to improve it.
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@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
22 Oct 07
Thanks :) I don't believe it is a bad habit though. I believe he just can't help himself.
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@Amberina (1541)
• United States
22 Oct 07
Both my boys did that until about 11 years old I talked to the doctor about it and he said that some bladders take longer to develope especially in boys. -Amber
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@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
22 Oct 07
good so there is still hope he will outgrow this by 12. thanks for the info amber :).
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@hopejordan (3561)
• Australia
22 Oct 07
hello there i have a 11 year old and still on and off still wets his bed for the last two nights he has wet his bed. i was older than my son i wet my bed and a stopped when i was 13 years old i think it is stress that is what someone told me. thankyou for your discussion
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@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
22 Oct 07
so you know what i am going through :( its frustrating because it is not healthy for him to sleep in his own urine. it stinks, he gets a rash and just breathing the odor in is not good. thanks for the info hope :)
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@ann168 (111)
• United States
20 Oct 07
Yes you do. The doctor can prescribe to your kids the inhaler and medication to help them.
@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
22 Oct 07
hopefully we won't need to put him on meds. thanks for your reply :).
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@tsyzcl (16)
• China
20 Oct 07
it is hard to say why your son wets the bed,but i recommand you to take him to see a doctor.if that last long,your son may get a diease,mentally or phycially.
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@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
22 Oct 07
thanks for your reply ts :)
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@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
20 Oct 07
yes of course you need to bring him to a doctor. oldies here in the philippines explain it as the bladder where we store urine is so low so you need a doctor to massage it or something. sorry i cant explain it clearly because i havent experience that on my kids. i just heard my grandma saying that when she was still alive.
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@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
20 Oct 07
So the bladder is low in the abdomen and thats why? Hmmm, interesting, thanks for your input :).
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@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
19 Oct 07
I would at least make sure that the doctor knows about it. My nephew wet the bed at 11 and still does at age 13. They are trying everything. Finally they talked to the doctor and the doctor has given them many suggestions to try before he puts him on a medication. The suggestions are typical~ no drinks after dinner. But the one that was different was to give him a box of raisins to eat before he goes to bed. This is some how suppose to help on the bed wetting. Good luck.
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@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
20 Oct 07
we did the not giving him drinks before bed thing and that is helping. I would still like to help him increase the size of his bladder so he could hold more liquid.
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@peanutjar (5198)
• Canada
19 Oct 07
I dont know about your son,but my daughter is trained but wets the bed still sometimes.She dreams and she said in her dream shes peeing in the flush or something,it almost like the dream is real for her.Its by accident and for some they live and do(peeing)what they are doing in their dream.When we sleep we become not stressed,tense and relaxed alot so i figure its from that.I did it too and im 34 hahaha,so did my boyfriend,he said he was doing it in his dream.lol Peanutjar:)
@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
19 Oct 07
hahaha thanks for your input. That is quite a funny story ........ My son was using goodnights but we haven't been buying any lately and the smell of piss on a constant basis is making me sick.
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@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
hi! my kids are ages 3 and 5 and they just decided to stop wearing diapers at night ( we are from tropical country but sleeps on air conditioned room) first few weeks was a disaster because they would still pee on bed. sometimes i don't changed them immediately so they could feel the discomfort of bed wetting(but they don't want to use diaper, they have prides) and I always asked them to pee before going to sleep and put a potty trainer near our bed. you try talking him into peeing before he doze off, might help. good luck!
@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
11 Aug 08
Hi and thank you for your response :). My son is 12 now and stopped wetting the bed months ago thank goodness :).