2 Families, Many Sisters.

Australia
October 20, 2007 6:13am CST
I am adopted, so I have 2 families. For a while there, I only had 2 sisters. They were great, annoyed the heck out of me, but they were great. We are still close, even though they live a little way away. For the last 11 years, they have had to share their big sister with my birth family. My birth mother had 3 other children, 2 girls and a boy, and my dad had 3 daughters. I don't keep in touch with my birth family all that much, but still enjoy hearing about what my sisters are upto. 2 of them have also made me an aunty, but haven't heard much in the last couple of years. Another 2 have been struggling to find their feet outside of the family home, but I believe they are doing well. Even though I didn't grow up with them, I still feel connected to them, and love them as a sister should. Gee, they annoy the heck out of me, but what are sisters for. The sisters I speak to the most are the ones I grew up with. They are closer to where we live and it is easier to relate to them because I know them. So, even though I have many sisters, I think of them all often and wish I could drop in on their worlds to do the big sister thing.
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@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
29 Oct 07
Wow! You have so many sisters! It's fun being in two families even though you are more close to one only - that's understandable. But deep down you are attached to the others as well - that's the beauty of family, I guess. You are such a sweet heart! Trust me, not all these days even remember remotely based families and you are so sweet of being thinking in terms of a bid sister. Love and huggles.
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• Australia
29 Oct 07
Thanks. Genetics and adopted families are different, but I love them all. I know that I have lots of people who care about me, even if I don't hear from them that much. Being all grown up, they think I'm best left to live my life, but there is such a thing as a phone or email! lol. Yes, I am big sister to all my siblings, though I think for some of them, that came as a bit of a shock! lol.
@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
15 Nov 07
I wish I could have a big sister like you, hun!!
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• Australia
28 Dec 08
I think my sisters would have been happy to swap at times! lol.
• India
10 Dec 07
i think you are lucky you are leaving in big family i mean joint family . I didt get that luck because iam leaving in nuclear family . My Mom , Elder brother, younger sister & myself, My mom got two younger sister rarely visit there family and my grany home also but we always not go anywhere , my father passed away 15 years back , after that my mom wants to care her three children so she starterd to work. My mom went to abroad 2 yearly she got one leave , so that time we are very happy in our small family with my mom. Any way next year itsself we want our mom always with us , because after iam settling only my mom can leav eher job..
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• Australia
16 Jul 08
I'm sure you are just as loved in your family as I am in mine. I only have 1 brother and hardly know him, so I think you are lucky to grow up with an older brother.
@suspenseful (40312)
• Canada
8 Nov 07
I never had a sister. I had only one brother and I always admired those who had many brothers and sisters. I gave a daughter up for adoption and she has not made a move to contact me as far as I know, and I am rather wary of her being in contact with me because she might expect to see many brothers and sisters but she was the only child I ever bore. I am happy that you have a large duo family. The only comfort I have is knowing that the ancestor of the girl who gave her sons for adoption so we could adopt them came from the same area of Germany that some of my father's family came from.
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• Australia
9 Nov 07
Having many brothers and sisters can be great, but so can only having one or two. The less there are the more likely hood there is of you being close. As for giving your daughter up for adoption, I'm sure it was an act of great love on your part. I just hope she knows it. You adopting those boys was another great act and i hope they know how lucky they are to have someone like you as a mother. You have done a very special thing there and I hope you never regret your decisions.
@marciascott (25550)
• United States
28 Oct 07
I think it is great that you havetwo Families, so when you can't keep in touch with one Family there s always another family. Do you call both of you Families? that would be nice if you did, you problaly stay in close with theones you are closer too.
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• Australia
29 Oct 07
Yeah, the one I grew up with is the one I feel closest too, but my birth family is still close to me. I email my mum all the time and try to get her on msn, but work work hours are very strange. She works in a nursing home and is often on night shift. With them being in N.Z., I don't get to see them as often as I would like, but no biggie. I am hoping that my mum and sister (from Brisbane) will be coming up this weekend so they can meet the newest addition to our family. I tell you what though, it can be very confusing to talk about my families! lol.