The other woman - would you sue her for alienation of affection?
By Lindalinda
@Lindalinda (4111)
Canada
October 20, 2007 6:59am CST
I watched Oprah last night. She had four women on the program who had had relationships with married men. One of these women got sued by the wife for alienation of affection. This law does not exist in all states. Eventually this woman settled the law suit for $ 50 000.
Would you sue the other woman if the law in your state allowed it or would you end the relationship with your husband?
Do you think this law is antiquated?
What about the husband does he have any responsibility?
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7 responses
@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
20 Oct 07
Nah, I probably wouldn't sue the woman. If my husband thought he was in love with that woman, I'd end my relationship with him. There would be no use "pulling on his sleeve". Once a cheater, always a cheater. She'll have her time with him too. As for the husband, if we had kids, he definitely would have responsibility, of course!
@Lindalinda (4111)
• Canada
20 Oct 07
I totally agree with you. Once a cheater always a cheater. The other woman often becomes the other other woman. The husband should assume his responsibility to be a father figure to his children if there were any.
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
20 Oct 07
It is a very interesting legal issue Lindalinda,in my oppinion, the woman should have directed her vernom on her cheating husband instead, it seems to me the person misplacing affection is the husband not the other woman who may out of reasons that are not of her own, found the man trailing her-in Africa, we would sort this easily because, polygamous marriages are customarily allowed, i think this man would do better having the two women with him, this would solve the unnecessary legal wrangles over a cheating man!
@Lindalinda (4111)
• Canada
20 Oct 07
Well, in North America polygamy is against the law. Culturally also we like one woman and one man to be a couple and to be faithful to each other. I don't think either the wife or the other woman would like any contact with each other or be to be together. This is very rare. I do think however this law is antiquated and should be abandoned.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
23 Oct 07
Well I do believe someone should pay and I don't mean the woman who has been wronged. Too many husbands who cheat with women who don't care get away with destroying the life of the innocent wife. Okay, maybe the marriage aint great but two parties are in the wrong and nothing justifies cheating. There are other avenues to fixing a situation gone wrong.
@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
30 Oct 07
I would. After all, she has plenty of time and money to do her nails, shop at the best stores, go to the gym and exercise wearing those tiny little leotards, get out to the night clubs, and has plenty of makeup and plastic surgery to make herself good, while I am at home, and I certainly am not the slimmest woman.
If I were in the situation and the (I cannot say the word it is against myLot's policy) lured my husband, I would sue her and if my husband knew what he was getting into, I would give him the silent treatment. I do not believe in divorce however, so that would be out.
@DesigningLife (903)
• United States
21 Oct 07
Personally I would not sue (nor blame) the "other woman". I think this is insane.
The "other woman" is NOT the one who married the wife or made a commitment to the wife. If the guy she ended up with was so "wishy washy" and "easily persuaded" out of being faithful to his WIFE then he was a poor excuse for a human being and wasn't the right guy..end of story.
@kimthedane (945)
• Denmark
25 Oct 07
Well Linda. I suppose if I was the one having been cheated on and I had the option of suing the other man, I sure think I would do. But my wife/partner would be out of the house before i would go see solicitor. I think it will only ne a human reaction if you could sue, that you would do. You are the one being humiliated by infidelity and just want to do as much damage to the perpetrator for ruining your marriage.
@angemac23 (2003)
• Canada
21 Oct 07
If the woman knew that she was with a married man, I'd sue the pants off her, and Id go after him too!! There is no reason for women to be going after married men, they have no right! But if she didn't know that he was married, wh8ich is possible, than it isn't her fault!
