is virginity of a girl important in marriage?

Philippines
October 21, 2007 1:25pm CST
does virginity a big factor in getting marriage.....Do woman have the right to get married if she's not virgin anymore...
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@thyst07 (2091)
• United States
21 Oct 07
Depending on your religious beliefs, virginity might or might not be important for marriage. Some people may want to marry a virgin for religious reasons, or because they want to know that this person hasn't been with anyone else before them. For other people, this isn't so important. A woman who is not a virgin absolutely has the right to get married. A woman is a human being just like a man, and her worth depends on much, much more than whether she is a virgin or not. My question would be, if a woman does not have the right to get married if she is not a virgin, then why should a man be able to marry if he is not a virgin? Isn't this a double-standard? Why should one group of people (women) be subjected to different rules than another group (men)? I believe that in the eyes of the Creator, we are all equal and should all have to live by the same standards.
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• United States
21 Oct 07
I agree... everyone should has the right and equal to do thing right?
• Philippines
21 Oct 07
what if the man that you love wants a woman who is virgin what will you do...and your madly inlove with him...do you think its fair for him or for you to lie about that?
@CEN7777 (858)
• India
21 Oct 07
hi celle_08, I dont thing virginty is that much important factor in getting marriage. Woman can get married irrespective of the fact that she is virgin or not.Most important thing in marraige is your commitment in relation with your partner.Your affection and responsibility in relationship is major concerned.
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@smileonstar (4012)
• United States
21 Oct 07
It is really depend. My country is touch too but people make a mistake tho... My people prefer to marry with a virgin girl. Also it is depend on the person who you marry to, sometimes they dont care about. It is hard to say tho, I live with my boyfriend for 2 years before I married him. And he accepts whoever I am and I accept whoever he is... Trust me, no one knows if you are virgin or not if you dont tell. I understand that we have our own secret but just dont let it happens again. Good luck
@CEN7777 (858)
• India
21 Oct 07
Yes Smileonstar, I agree with you that no one can find out if one is virgin or not. More important in relationship is commitment and trust than any other thing.
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@teejams (88)
• Philippines
23 Oct 07
the right to getting married is definitely not dependent on whether a woman is a virgin or not. it is every woman's right to get married but there is a question whether she is emotionally and mentally ready...even financially...but that is another issue...now, going back to the topic...being a virgin does not prove that one can do better in marriage. maybe for some it is a big factor but it doesn't change how the marriage will work. virginity does not dictate a woman's rights. it just shows to whom the woman chose to give it to first. it is not wrong to have given it to someone before the husband-to-be. it just so happened that the person she was hoping to be her husband didn't turn out to be her husband. on the other hand, some are lucky to have given it to somebody who later on became their husband. i, myself, come from a conservative country but i believe that beliefs also has to adopt to modern day situations.
• Philippines
21 Oct 07
For some it may be a great factor especially to those who are raised in a very conservative culture. But for me, it does not matter anymore. Marriage is so sacred and people who enter into this thing love each other so much. And for me, when you love someone so deeply, you no longer think of his/her flaws in life. What actually counts in marriage is that you love each other so much and that you are so sure that you would wanna spend the rest of your life with each other. So I think, virginity is no longer a big deal at all.