potty training

United States
October 21, 2007 9:08pm CST
So my son will be 3 in April and still not potty trained we are working more with him because we wanted to have him using the potty by the time we had our new baby I think he is ready he knows what the potty is but he doesn't always want to use it and when we try to push him to go he crys like we are punishing I don't know what to do is it to soon.? should he already be potty trained.? did we wait to long to potty train him ? does anyone have any suggestions i need the help ! ! ! thanks
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12 responses
• United States
22 Oct 07
Hi D, Im no expert, but I dont think you should force him. Your saying he is crying when you try to do this, and hes obviously upset about it. Thats definately not going to get him trained. I think you need to not worry so much about it. Why the rush before a new baby comes along? I dont think there is any certain age when a child becomes potty trained, Ive always read that you should not make a fuss over it, and let them do it in their own time. A friend of mine thought her daughter would never be trained. Then one day out of the blue she went in the bathroom and used the training toilet all by herself. Just give him some time. Its normal. Best of luck! Bay Lay Gray xx
• United States
22 Oct 07
Hey thanks for your advice I think your right I don't wanna upset him. I was just hoping that he would be ready by now and be trained when the new baby came cause it would make things a little easier on my, But thats a selfish way to think this isn't about me its about him and making him feel secure,
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• United States
22 Oct 07
Oh Yea gotta agree with you there, your being a bit selfish. lol Sorry! But you know, when the new baby comes and he is still not trained, use the baby as a guide. Tell him what a big boy he would be, but dont push it, if he didnt have to wear the pampers like the baby does. You know little boys are big on that kind of thing. Im really sure that he will do it in his own time, and its nothing to worry about as far as him being normal or not. You will be fine!! :) Bay xx
@sanell (2114)
• United States
23 Oct 07
He may not be quite ready yet and the other question I have is have you already had the second baby? My mom said that I regressed when my sister was born, although I was 2, I still did regress....I would use treats or try to day train at first, Potty Training is a lot harder with boys I think personally.
• United States
23 Oct 07
I am not due to have the new baby until the end of may,
• United States
22 Oct 07
You know everyone has different views on potty training. I will tell you view and story with my two children. I had a goal with my first and my second child, that as soon as they could walk well that I would begin potty training them. My daughter was born in April 2000 and by the end of Christmas 2001 she was potty trained. She started walking the day before her first birthday and I let her have a few months to really get stable on her feet. Then I would take her to the bathroom with me and she would sit on her potty while mommy sat on the toilet. This got her used to the habit of going in there. Then since at the time I was working full-time, but the job I worked at that time would close for christmas holiday for about two weeks, I decided I would get on top of the potty training hard core. So, we got rid of the pull-ups because we realized the pull-ups were confusing her. Because they were more like diapers she knew she could pee or poop in them without getting all gross. So, we bought her big girl underwear and in the mornings when she would get up I would sit her on the potty and I wouldn't let her get off till she did something. Then of course we would make a big deal out of her going to the bathroom like a big girl. And we would repeat this several times throughout the day so until eventually it became lots of fun to go to the bathroom. By the end of the first week she had it down. By the end of the second week she was sleeping in only underwear and all diapers and pull-ups were history. I did the same thing with my son. He was born in February 2002 and by December 2003 he was potty trained. I have never had a problem. You just have to be consistent and patient and devote time to it. It may mean that for about a week or two you will need to be home so that you can regularly put them on the potty at various times throughout the day. Because if they have one accident on themselves or you relapse back to using diapers or pull-ups you will need to start all over again. Good luck!
• United States
22 Oct 07
Thank you so much for your advice ! ! Its gonna take a lot of work but I have faith that we can do it.
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@jayger04 (64)
• Australia
22 Oct 07
Kids potty or toilet train in their own time. My son was 2.5 when we started and he just didn't get it, then we started again when he was three and withing a week he picked it up straight away. My daughter is nearly 2 and wants to be like her big brother, so she has been whipping he rnappy off. So I started putting her into undies but she hasn't "got" it as yet. I will put her back in nappies, and try again in a few months, she may have got the message by then. By I truly beleive kids are not ready until they are at least three.
• United States
22 Oct 07
thank you for your advise I was freaking out thinking that he should be doing it on his own by now and your words put my worries at ease ! ! thanks
@foxygirle (377)
• Philippines
23 Oct 07
dont worry too much. when the right time comes, he'll be the one to tell you he needs to go to the toilet. When my daughter was three, I was also worried that she's still using her diaper, what we did was we remove the diaper during the day when she's at home, she did wet the floor on some occassion until finally she shouted she wanted to go to the toilet to either WIWI or POHPOH.
@chaime (1153)
• Philippines
22 Oct 07
hmm.. children usually goes potty in their own time, my son is 2 1/2 years old, he still wears diapers at night and will not poop without diapers on. Slowly but surely we are helping him overcome this, by delaying putting on his diapers as long as possible, we cannot actually force them, as you said, they will just cry or it will even be a bigger problem if it traumatizes him and makes him don't wanna go potty. Continue to encourage him and prod him, but don't force him, always remind him where to go when he needs to go and he'll eventually learn.
@carolbee (16231)
• United States
22 Oct 07
Our daughter recently had the same situation. She started to train our grandson before her other baby was born. It didn't work so well so I suggested to wait and try after the baby was born. He will be 3 in January and suddenly has an interest now that he has a baby in the house who does wear diapers. Sometimes he does use the toilet and other times he has no interest. When he's uncomfortable enough from being wet, he will discover life is better to wear dry pull-up's. My daughter often asks if he needs to use the bathroom just as a simple reminder. Kids get all involved with television or toys and forget they need to stop and do what's important until after the fact. This is probably not the best idea for your plumbing but it works. Cheerios dropped in the toilet to be used as a target. I wouldn't worry until he's closer to 4. There could be accidents even after a child enters school but most often at night. We had one daughter who reverted back to wetting once the next child was born. Eventually it all works out well and life is good. Good luck and enjoy every minute you can with your kids. They are a wonderful gift from God.
@Amberina (1541)
• United States
22 Oct 07
When I was potty training my sons what worked for me was putting cheerios in the little potty or the toilet and having him pee on them to try an sink them. I know it's silly but it worked I couldn't keep them out of the bathroom then as they got older they learned the fine art of peeing on trees lol. One time my oldest son was potty training and we where out on a picnic and he was playing at the swings well the little guy had to go so he went to the nearest tree lol. Little kids are so cute. Good luck. -Amber
@lpetges (3036)
• United States
22 Oct 07
i have 3 grown children and all were trained by at least 15 months or so,, just after walking well. They used cloth diapers in those days, and my theory is that if your not liking how it feels to have a wet diaper on then you want to be trained! They make diapers today so that you barely know if they are wet! and those pull up things- just keep diapers on them if thats the case! i thought we were all so worried about the environment anyway=doesn't plastic stay in the ground for like 30 years or something??? kids are smart,, they are just little big people,, so if you had a wet cloth diaper on, instead of a plastic absorbant one,, you would probly train a little quicker! just my opinion!
@Karinne (1223)
• Australia
22 Oct 07
Hi there DSchwarten, I didn't use a potty with my daughter, she went straight to the toilet at the age of 2. They will show signs of when they are ready, letting you know when they are doing it in their nappy and follow you to the toilet etc.
@Toni_07 (175)
• United States
22 Oct 07
Honey,ive raised 3 kids...i so believe they are ready when they are ready. Its ok...and boys are harder than girls..he will be just fine,just be patient with him,and praise him when he does do it,make the biggest ordeal of what a big boy he is,he will love that. Good luck to you!
@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
22 Oct 07
My niece was four when she became fully potty trained... she was afraid of going inside the toilet or sit on the toilet bowl... but then my mother was very patient in potty training her... she even bought her the small potty trainer... then after a year of persistance and patience... my mother and niece were both successfull...