What would you do if your partner dont like mylot?

India
October 24, 2007 5:23am CST
I was just wondering what i would do if my partner doesnt like mylot. And decided to ask you folks about it. The various options could be something like: 1. Avoid using mylot right away. (I know its pretty hard. Atleast it is so for me) 2. Try and convince him/her 2.1 and continue to use if they oblige 2.2 leave it if they dont still agree 3. Use it somehow without their knowledge. 4. Ditch the partner if they dont agree even after you try to convince (Pretty much a harsh/rash one. Not advisable is what i feel) Which one would you go for? Or is there some other way?
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17 responses
@mistissa (1349)
• Netherlands
24 Oct 07
My partner does not like myLot,because he cannot speak English very good. I think he does not have to like everythin I like. In a relationship you should leave each other free to have your own hobbies. I don't like everything he likes either.
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@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
25 Oct 07
My husband always supports whatever I like to do, unless it is against morality or it is illegal. At the beginning he did feel unhappy as I was busying at mylot until late in the night. I then tried to read him some fantastic, weird and interesting stories so as to arouse his regard and interest in mylot. As times go by he now does enjoy whatever interesting things I have told him. By far he could even remember some of my mylot friends’ usernames and he could recognize their avatars. But sometimes he does make ridiculous mix up of the avatars and the usernames.
• India
26 Oct 07
cool. nice that he also njoys it. btw its the first time am seeing a person with 100/100 reputation. great work friend..
@rimsha (806)
• Pakistan
24 Oct 07
Work at that time when He or she not at room.
• India
24 Oct 07
Good idea :)
@cassidy22 (2974)
• United States
24 Oct 07
I don't need my husband's permission on everything I do. He might not be interested in using mylot, but he wouldn't tell me that I can't. He actually thinks this site is pretty stupid, as well as he thinks most of the questions on here are pretty stupid, but he has never once told me I can't use the site. He doesn't own me, and he doesn't control me. If it were affecting our relationship, or I spent too much time here, then he would have a cause for complaint. But he doesn't, so here I am.
• India
24 Oct 07
Thats good for you. :) and this should ideally be the case..
@peanutjar (5198)
• Canada
24 Oct 07
Hi my boyfriend does not care what i do with my time,hehe as long as our daughter is well looked after,house is clean and suppers ready,thats all he cares about.Hes not even interested in mylot or the computer.He never touches it and he bought it for himself and then gave it to me 1 week later.he works all the time and never has time for it.YIPPEE!!Hahaha.Now,its my daughter who does not like mylot,hahaha,she tells me to get off,im on it too much,turn it off,etc.She 4 1/2 sooo funny! peanutjar:):)
• India
24 Oct 07
Thats quite funny peanutjar.. Daughter at 4 1/2 doesnt like it.. thats even more surprising..nyways good that you have no critical problems mylotting :) Thanks for the response friend..
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@deserve40 (1656)
• India
24 Oct 07
Simple, not for mylot but anything, if my partner do not like something which I want to do, I just try to convince her that what ever I am trying to do is good. But then also she does not like it, I have very clear understanding with her that I will be free to do what I want to do irrespective of the fact that she may not like it. This is true for her liking also. So first I would like to convince her and then if she does not agree with me, I will do it in a time she is not with me. I mean I also do not want her to feel that I give more importance to mlot and for that I ignore her. No, I cannot afford it too.
• India
25 Oct 07
Yeah that should be it.. we can always do it in our free time when they are not around.. :)
@ssh123 (31073)
• India
26 Oct 07
I do not think my partner had anytime objected to it. Sometimes, I do involve her in getting her views on mylot discussion topics and many a times she has given proper replies to the topics. If one indulges from morning through night in mylot, itis but natural the partner will not be interested in such an avocation.
• India
24 Oct 07
i would like to convey her for ...
@jan135 (535)
• Australia
25 Oct 07
I would tell him to go and take a flying jump. LOL. He does what he wants with his spare time, so I think it's only fair that I can do what I want with my spare time. Actually he just laugh's and rolls his eyes up in the air and tuts, but I just tell him to go away in a nice sort of way. LOL
• Malaysia
24 Oct 07
hmm..i think it has to depend on why my partner doesn't like mylot. is it because i spend too much time on mylot and neglect him? lol. if that's the case then i'll cut down my time on mylot. i'll also go for no 2- try to convince him. if he's still not convince then what can i do? he can't stop me from using mylot unless he has a very good, solid and concrete reason. or maybe we can reach some kind of agreement or compromise, something like that.
• United States
25 Oct 07
i would tell him if he did not like it to hit the bricks any man who would try to change me would be gone i dont care what a man says i do what i want when i want and how i want the partnership has to be at least talkable i got to put up with his addiction to football and baseball and basketball all of which i detest so he can put up with my my lot outlet i said either u deal with it or theres the door he dont want to talk alot so my lot is a vent for me and a release to some of my inner thoughts if he dont want to hear it then deal with it. i get my best advice from people who are or can be impartial and see both sides of a situation without getting personally involved
@bagumbayan (2705)
• Philippines
25 Oct 07
If my partner dont like it, and I like it, of course he cant stop me mylotting. I can do it at times he is not around or maybe lessen the time I am spending on mylotting. Its a matter of choice and this is something I am happy doing. I will also ask him to look for something he will be happy doing and me not depriving of his doing it.
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
25 Oct 07
It doesn't matter if my hubby liked it or not because I like it and that's all that matters. However hubby doesn't mind it at all. He knows I've made some wonderful friends on here and is happy for me and the little bit of money that I make here, he's happy with that too.
• United States
24 Oct 07
i would just continue using mylot. no one should be able to teel you you can or can't do something you enjoy ! let me ask you this...is your partner only using sites that you approve of ? i doubt it !!!! we all have different idea's of whats fun and so long as your not harming anyone or going against any moral issues you have between you two, i say...got for it !
24 Oct 07
My partner knows I spend time on MyLot and doesn't mind at all so long as once he is home in the evening, I spend time with him. I generally spend time during the day here, and although I often spend too much time here, I can happily switch the computer off in the evening.
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
24 Oct 07
This would never be a problem for me, we each have our own computers, and we don't dictate what websites the other can or can not go too. He knows I come to mylot, and thought it was kinda cool when I got my first payout. So, while he's checking sport scores, fantasy football, lookin for carparts, etc. I look at mylot, check emails, and look up other stuff. If he was totally against it (which will never happen) and had a valid reason for not wanting me too, then I suppose I wouldn't come to mylot, seeing how he would never TELL me not too, but would suggest I didn't.
24 Oct 07
Don't really see why your partners views on my lot should have any effect on your relationship. If he doesn't like the site thats his opinion, but it doesn't have to be yours, or even an issue at all. If he doesn't like it, he doesn't use it. What on earth could possibly make him have a problem with you going on my lot anyway?